I WANT TO GET MARRIED

before I get older and fatter and uglier....I want to be a pretty bride....I already have a wedding dress in mind...its RED...how will I wear a skimpy RED dress when I am OLD...NO NO...I NEED TO GET MARRIED NOW ...NOW ...NOW!!!

This sounds emotional. I am sure you won't be as fat or as ugly as you think.

i am already getting quite chubby

Do you have someone to marry?

but very few people to celebrate it with

I've never been a bride. This year I'm going to be 40.

If you're truly in love and truly happy, you'll be a pretty bride no matter what your age.

Couldn't have said it better myself! I'll be 40 next January, I've never been married (although I have a 12-year-old son), and I get tired of people making me feel like I'm not complete unless I'm married and that there's something wrong with me because I've never been married at my age.

And I really, truly believe that there's no such thing as an "ugly" bride, all the weddings I've ever been to the brides were positively glowing, even if they weren't, truth be told, all that attractive. And that includes the weddings of older women, like in their 40's and 50's.

but i wont...i can assure you...i will be pretty only for another year or so.......

:cry:

it wont look right if i get too old..it has to be NOW

You don't sound very old...

...you've got PLENTY of time! I was 34 when I was married. I would have looked hot in my dress if I hadn't been hit by a car right before the wedding.

;-)

thats awful...what happened?

...a day and a half before my wedding. I had multiple fractures on the right side of my body. I was married in my hospital bed in a nightgown that was sliced down the back and put around me because I couldn't sit up.

Here's a little DU history of the event:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=43360

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=45392

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=43984

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=51018

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=53107

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=56021

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=77834

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=65763

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=82378

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=143900

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=198982

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=271881

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=455105

MY GOD! DUers are so supportive!

:loveya:

to go through with it while in hospital...i would have called it off in frustration...

...and I hope you get the chance to have your wedding exactly the way you want it!

... chill or you'll scare away any potential marriage partners!

i already have an agreeable partner...

As a 39-year-old never-married single mama, there are, indeed, days when I feel exactly the same way. Then there are others when I can't imagine why I'd feel that way.

It seems to me that my single status bothers other people more than it bothers me, like I'm not a "complete" person unless I'm married, and all that hokus-pocus bullshit.

and i want everyone who loves me to celebrate...but i know they will all mourn instead...stupid homophobes....

I get it now, I'm sorry, lionesspriyanka, I didn't realize exactly what you meant and now I do. I didn't realize you were gay and wanted gay marriage to be legalized and that's where you're coming from! DUH! Geez, how damn stupid can I get sometimes, lol!

I'm sorry, LP, I'm hetero but it infuriates me to no end to see gays have to deal with this bullshit and to see the denial of the basic rights that us heteros, frankly, take for granted.

I really do believe that the day is coming when gay marriage WILL be legalized and recognized, the RW fundie wingnuts just are not going to be able to stop this ball from rolling all the way downhill. Too many heteros agree with gay rights, including marriage, and a lot of heteros know gay couples and are infuriated at the attitudes toward them and the discrimination against them.

It's like with the civil rights movement, it finally REALLY took off when the scales came off the eyes of enough whites and they saw what was really going on.

I agree with posters here, have the wedding anyway and to hell with the damn wingnuts!!!!!!

and its not just the govt. I want my family to celebrate and my friends,...i dont like them thinking i could do better by just dating a BOY.....

:cry:

whenever it happens! it will be your day...make it what you will, and to hell with whatever anyone besides you and your partner think!
the marriage is way more important than the wedding anyhow...

is it too much to ask that people celebrate it while i am still young?

Panic is not a good state of mind for making a decision of that magnitude.

if i dont get a wedding soon

agrees). Pick a place, buy a dress, invite your friends, and plunge head long into a lifeof committment to one person. If the right-wing government and christian fundies don't recognize it, fuck them.

The most importnat partof being married is the public committment to one person. No law they pass can keep you from being committed to your partner and telling the world about it.

I'm not trying to minimize the real civil rights issue of unequal treatment under the law, but if you want to get married don't wait on the government to "permit" you to proclaim your committment. You have the ability to do that yourself.

my parents, my friends, my colleagues...everyone really thinks i should marry a BOY...so no one to celebrate my wedding day with....

:cry:

US here at DU! We're here, we love you, and we're happy for you! There are a lot of straights who never find the kind of love you say you have with your partner, and you deserve to have it celebrated!

your friends from DU and elswhere there to cheer you on and celebrate (and bring presents).

You should consider a wedding in Massachusetts around the time of the Dem convention. I bet lots of people would be there then. I will (as I selfishly try to schedule your wedding around a convenient time for me).

It's the people who accept you for who you are that are your true friends. I bet there are lots more of those people than you think.

<ON EDIT> Have you proposed yet?

and then she proposed to me...so we are proposed to...

Then the madness starts.....

but i just really want everyone to celebrate and my parents and a lot of my friends would not,..,thats whats preventing us from having a big fat gay wedding

I wish I could offer more than empathy.

the world is homophobic :(

those people will soon be in the minority.

but, then I met the right guy.

I was 39; and wore a skirt from Eddie Bauer-and my favorite birkenstocks.

I think I was a gorgeous bride.

btw, unless you are Gay, (I assume you are female by the dress thing) you do realize that when you get married, you will have to live with a boy, right?

That's not always easy...and I got the best one.

and i already live with my partner...and i will wear a red and gold dress...thats all sexy...but no one will celebrate aside from my dumb cats

I love other people's weddings! And, I was a great bartender, so I will even bring the booze-

If I were done with school, I would perform the ceremony!

(dress is the right color for a fall wedding) at the time of the GOP convention.

I will be there, my husband....I think there are several DUers that would love to party with you!

Stephanie
(sucking up for an invitation)

i have posted my pics before

You're a hottie? So hey...what are you doing Friday? :-)

:beer:

Jack, she's gay!

:toast:

Oh, now you're REALLY asking for it!

i am pansexual...

sex with kitchen implements ...

Sorry, I'll shut up now ...

anyway i dont want to repost pics...but here are a couple of old pics of me

http://homepages.nyu.edu/~pm288/

congrats to your upcoming marriage! :toast:

but thanks

:eyes:

Now, if only I could find me someone to marry I could get started :)

But I'll settle for being a groom.

Actually being able to get a date might be a good start, though.

--bkl

If there was to be a DU meetup or even a DU convention near you.....why not hold the wedding there and then....????? You would have LOTS of DU friends to celebrate with!

and just another note lp....no matter when you get married, in the eyes of your mate, you will ALWAYS BE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PERSON IN THE WORLD!

but i want to be pretty in my eyes as well

From DU. Just let me know you are interested.

Oh, the double entandre ...

Oh, the angst!

did not realize there was one till you pointed it out!

...on the day she becomes a bride, and on the day she first becomes a mother. My Daddy always said that. :)

and the cool thing is you are hot too.

In the short time I've seen your postings on this board you have in fact shown yourself to be a beautifull person. It doesn't hurt that you're pretty too.

I think you're just fisshing for compliments with all the ugly talk.

cos i am getting fat...largely cos i am at work 60 hours a week..the pics you see of me are old..i am atleast 10 lbs heavier...so you see my friend i aint fishing! i am just hoping to get married before i get REALLY REALLY FAT

like a woman with a little meat on her bones.

I've also seen Indian dance, and like belly dancing it is best done by a WOMAN who looks like a WOMAN not a little boy in a dress.

I can also think of some very entertaining wieght loss regimes that could help you lose any unwanted pounds :WINK:

Everything aside, I hope you know there are those of us who do support you and your mate in getting married.

We (my wife and I) put off getting married for along time in solidarity for the GLBT community. She is bi and felt like she was abandonning her peers and friends by getting married to a man.

I love her to death but it kills me when we watch the news and she sees her friends being denied the rights we (or at least I) have simply taken for granted my whole life.

Some day, we will ALL be free.

Not really. It was pretty, but not much of a "gown". Green velvety material. The suite I got married in is the only suite I have ever owned and one of three I have ever worn. The other two were rented tuxes.

We got married at the court house, went to lunch with my mom and then to work the next day. We already had a kid together and had been living together for a couple of years. The commitment had been there for along time, just not the piece of paper.

And for all you fundies who may be reading this, I didn't get married in a church! God and or Goddesses were never mentioned in my civil ceramony there in the court house. Why can't my friends get married?

and a joy.

Do you and your love intend to have a family?

but for now cats are enough of a responsibility

drop everything and head to San Fransisco and elope. (I hear the weather's wonderful). Rent a big convertible and deck it out with the cans and "just married" soap. And then drive a cross country, straight through middle america.

i want a BIG wedding with lotsa people and champagne and flowers...and PRESENTS

atleast thats what i want today...tomorrow San FRAN may be what i want

even if you were to gain weight, age a little,
your beauty is timeless
so don't sweat a thing.

and who knows,
when it does happen you might decide wearing yellow or black,
green or dark blue would reflect your current mood/feelings
more accurately.

alas i can only think of a wedding in red (i am indian and have never thought of it in any other color)...plus i want a REAL wedding where everyone is happy for the brides..not a depressing wedding where everyone thinks the brides could have done better.


thank you for your concern...if i have a wedding will you come?

i am happy, i love to dance and be merry
and i want to see you in red.

i am ashamed to admit that all i know of Indian weddings
is what i viewed in Bend It Like Beckham.
are there any similarities(have you seen the movie)?
i want to come and wear something risque, not my style
but what the hell, YOU only get married once in Red. :-)

thats what our weddings look like

may I come to your nuptuals?:shrug: I'll bring a nice present!

Weddings are meaningless really, what matters is the marriage.

its the party I want...its the celebration of our love that i crave

I hope things happen for you soon then! :)

This is me with my husband (he's from Karachi, Pakistan) and some friends at our reception in June 1997. We got married first in Reno in 1995 and then had an Islamic wedding in Wichita in May 1997 and a reception the next month.

I think you should have a beautiful wedding of whatever kind you want. Good luck to you!


http://img23.photobucket.com/albums/v70/DemoCat827/Reception.bmp

i will wear a red and gold saree for part and a red and gold dress for the rest...

I'm sure living in NYC you'll be able to find something appropriate. A friend brought me this from LA; couldn't get dresses like this in Wichita!

You have a wife-in-waiting - and I'll bet if you invite your family despite their grumblings they'll show.

This is, after all, their daughter...

And if by chance you decide to come out to San Francisco to get married, I'll come, throw rice and get drunk. And I'll bring a baby!

and i can do w.out the drama....

i may have a wedding Sans "them" soon though..my brother who is also gay will come...hes a sweetie..

invite friends, co-workers, people from DU, your cats....

Just have the wedding.

Have beer.

Oh, and the cat carrying the wedding rings trick you think you can teach them...it never works. The cats just run into the bushes and stay there.

yes my fat ones are useless...i dont expect them to learn tricks

yes my fat ones are useless...i dont expect them to learn tricks

what makes them important?

If they won't come now, will they come if it was legalaly recognized by the state?

I'm sorry, LP, but from what you say it is time to move on with your life and let the world be damned.

Maybe you and your brother could get married ... at the same time to different people.

no i am just waiting to afford a wedding on my own..they would have paid a lot to see me married to a boy...so once i make enough money i will get married./..

Forget them! You should get married in San Francisco THIS SUMMER!

And as for being fat or ugly, you are really pretty. I know, I'm a hetero guy (age fourteen, so the hormones just make it worse :)) and you are very pretty. So Don't worry about your physical appearance.

Have the wedding in San Francisco and I would come as would some other DUers i know. Or have it in NYC, whichever makes you more comfortable. Although I would love to attend you wedding. Best of luck to you and your partner!

i want to ideally have my wedding in india...

but hey, its your decision :D

its illegal to be gay in india...so thats out of the question...

:( why do people suck so much....

cats are much nicer. MUCH MUCH nicer

Why can't we all be animals? Sex isn't such a big deal with them either..... i wanna be a walrus :D (always have wanted to be a walrus)

i will either be a cat or a dolphin...i am determined

I would like to be a walrus, but i would settle for a giraffe; just so long as newt gingrich doesn't hunt me down (The ginrich thing is from Rush Limbaugh is a Big Fat Idiot and other observations by Al Franken, chapter 5)

50% of marriages end in divorce for a reason. Marriage stinks. Go, have fun and enjoy life without others telling you what to do.

already have the marriage..