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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:08 AM
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Why are Gay Bars so much more fun than straight ones?
I didn't actually plan to go to a gay bar, the place was sold end of last year and switched from a place that had live music to a small gay club. I hadn't been there since October and well, no one sends out notices.

Not only was the place fun (we ended up hanging out for 2 hours there until close) but we made plenty of friends and I learned what wolves & otters were (I knew what bears were. The one guy in our group kept calling this cute guy an Otter and I couldn't figure out why so I asked him).
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:13 AM
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1. The weird thing is, I prefer straight bars usually
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:15 AM
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2. I swear I must have a large neon sign over my head that screams "I'm Straight"
The bar actually is for Gays & Lesbians but there weren't that many women in there. And the one guy (a hottie from Jersey) looked at me and said "Well I know you're not in here looking for women because I can tell you're straight).
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:17 AM
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4. I would never mistake you for somebody gay
I can always pick out the straight people in gay bars.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:18 AM
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5. I do too.
It's been years since I've been in a gay bar.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:20 AM
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6. I'm a fan of Irish pubs
I can't stand the local gay bar.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:21 AM
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8. We have at least two Irish pubs down here
and I love them. I usually take my mom there when she visits.
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:26 AM
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9. We have an English Pub that's right in the same area
The Irish Pub is about 8 blocks away. Anymore when it comes to drinking I prefer being someplace nearby so I can stumble home with little trouble. Two blocks is much easier than 8 blocks (that crosses a few major roads)
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:28 AM
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10. Yes, but it's English
I wish there were bars within walking distance of where I live.
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:34 AM
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13. Well if you weren't living in 'Deliverance County' in New Jersey
you wouldn't have this issue.

You could also come visit me too. Bring the dogs along - I don't care.

And I like English bars - I'm English. Actually it's got an American theme to it but stilled as an English Pub.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:38 AM
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15. You see, I knew there was something wrong about you, now I know what it is
And, I don't live in "Deliverance County." I live close to "Deliverance County." The KKK to the west and the Jackson Whites to the north. Meanwhile, the town next to us is like lesbian central.

Trust me, you do not want my dogs in your house. Your cats especially do not want my dogs in the house.
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:41 AM
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17. your dogs would not be allowed near my cats.
And nothing personal - if we were to put your dogs and my cat Evita into a caged fighting ring - my money is on Evita. She's tiny but absolutely vicious. Abbott would just look at your dogs funny and then lick is empty ballsacks.
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:43 AM
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18. Evita might beat Beag (who is annoyingly nice), but I'd put my money on Mick
Edited on Mon May-11-09 10:43 AM by HarukaTheTrophyWife
Smart, wiry, fearless, and no sense of self-preservation. He almost took down a fucking deer awhile back, and wanted to take on a bear.
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:44 AM
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19. Evita is pretty vicious. Abbott is twice her size and won't mess with her
And I've seen her with the neighbor's Rott mix - the dog is scared of her.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:29 AM
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11. Mmm, I could go for a nice pint
right about now.

:toast:
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unpossibles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 04:21 PM
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49. see, I don't tend to like Irish bars
Actually, make that "Irish" bars.

I'm pretty easy: gay, straight, mixed, fetish, whatever.













I like a lot of different kinds of bars too.....
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Dogtown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:48 AM
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21. Open a Gaye Irish Pub, Haruka!
Edited on Mon May-11-09 10:50 AM by Dogtown
You and Lost could quit your day jobs!

:toast:

EDIT: oops grammar
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TZ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:17 AM
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grass is greener maybe...OR because you are different
from the crowd, the whole meat market aspect goes away and you can enjoy it. I know lots of hetero women who LOVE gay bars..I think its cause they don't have to fend off creepy men constantly..
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:21 AM
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7. I feel like I'm not judged at all
but the music did suck. I liked the rap music from the first club we went to (which I thought was another place with rock music but turns out they have hip-hop/rap music night on Fridays) than the techno crap they played at the gay club.
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TZ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:29 AM
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12. I would be willing to bet they have different music nights.
Most of the people I know who liked gay bars actually found them because they heard they were playing music they loved..
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:17 AM
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3. OK,
I am really out of the loop.

I know what bears are too, but what are wolves and otters?
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AngryAmish Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:34 AM
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14. Where I live there are a lot of gay bars
Some are awful. Some are great. Most are inbetween.

In general, I don't like the music in gay bars so much - personal preference.

What do I like in a tavern? Just that, I like taverns. I'm too old to dance. My wife disapproves of me picking people up in bars anymore.

So I go to watch the ballgame and complain about life with my buddies.

Since I have become an old man I hang out in old man bars.

Circle of life and all that.
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tinkerbell41 Donating Member (722 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:41 AM
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16. I love them
I've found it is much more comfortable for a straight woman, no need to impress, or be self conscious or feel rejected when no one checks you out. I can just go have a good time,dance my ass off, look at totally gorgeous men, I am really attracted to that type, very well groomed. You can totally be free, it seems anything goes there, you can dance in your bra all night and not be bothered, to me it is a refuge.
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motely36 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:46 AM
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20. I'm gay and I don't know what wolves and otters are
:crazy:
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:52 AM
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22. Neither do I
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motely36 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:52 AM
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23. maybe I need to start hitting the bars again
or not...
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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:01 AM
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25. Otters are generally thin, hairy guys ...
as opposed to bears who are usually larger framed.

Wolves I know of two definitions - either an aggressive acting otter or someone who's a "loner" and by that I mean someone who isn't a member of a gay group and keeps to himself (a lone wolf).
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:04 AM
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26. Thank you meeg - I mentioned to them I knew what bears were from my hot bear friend
Edited on Mon May-11-09 11:05 AM by LynneSin
:hugs:

Wolves were loners but there were also grey wolves which were the older loners.
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Tektonik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:14 AM
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27. Guess I'm an otter
Edited on Mon May-11-09 11:15 AM by Tektonik
:crazy:
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SacredCow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:49 AM
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33. I've also seen the term "otter" applied to guys....
who are clearly out of the cub stage, but perhaps not quite bears yet.... Kinda the same thing, though- I guess?

I found a grey chest hair last week- guess I'm on my way to Polar Bear status... :rofl:
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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 01:39 PM
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35. Oh good gravy ...
you're lucky we're letting you call yourself a bear. LOL.
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SacredCow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 01:44 PM
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36. I'm OK with it...
My significant other is a polar bear, after all!
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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 01:51 PM
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38. Being one of the beautiful people, I grey slowly ...
have a grey chest, but the rest is chestnut.
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SacredCow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:04 PM
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39. The hair on my head began showing some grey in college...
and I have a small patch in my goatee. But I wouldn't consider myself even to the "salt and pepper" stage yet...
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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:14 PM
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44. Me either, but I'm ready for it ...
no dye jobs - going "butch gray"
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DarkTirade Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:28 PM
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46. Yeah, I've never heard those terms either.
But I've never really been big on the club/bar scene in general. :P
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 10:59 AM
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24. No pressure.
You're not there to hook up and no one there is trying to hook up with you.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:17 AM
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28. The bartenders DO NOT FUCK AROUND.
IME, the ratio of booze to mixer is much higher at gay bars.

On the downside, the music is frequently terrible.
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:41 AM
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31. I was suprised how cheap the drinks were
I was drinking shots of Patron all night and they were only $5. Usually top shelf tequila goes for much more than that.
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:26 AM
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29. Why are electronics stores more fun than any bars?
:shrug:
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DarkTirade Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:30 PM
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47. Because you're a nerd.
Like me. :P

I still can't believe that Radio Shack decided to stop carrying the ONE LED display thingy that I could have used for my lightsabers though... bastards...
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:32 AM
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30. I always liked going to the gay bars
the music was great, and I was completely relaxed... I *KNEW* I was going home alone.
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 11:48 AM
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32. I LOVE gay bars....
My #1 favorite thing about gay bars is being surrounded by men and sill feeling safe. I'm not grabbed on the dance floor, people look me in the eyes, and I can dance and drink without getting hit on. The people are nicer, the music tends to be better, and the mating rituals are fun to watch without having to participate.
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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 01:27 PM
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34. what is an otter?
otter tell me?
:hi: :hug:
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KamaAina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 01:45 PM
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37. I once spent several hours in a men's bar in the French Quarter
Edited on Mon May-11-09 01:46 PM by KamaAina
Stop snickering, dammit! It was a fundraiser for a political campaign, for a man who would have been the first openly gay elected official of color in these United States, if only they'd listened to me instead of bringing in some high-powered consultant from Boston. :P

It wasn't what I expected at all. Nice cozy surroundings and good company. Nary a hint of leather, disco, what have you.

edit: of
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SacredCow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:05 PM
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40. Which one?
fess up!!! :P
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KamaAina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:06 PM
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42. Place called The Retreat
don't even remember what street. Kind of in the middle of the Quarter around St. Ann maybe. Don't even know if it's still there; this took place in 1990.
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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:06 PM
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41. Because reproduction can be serious business.
Tick. Tick. Tick.
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Arkansas Granny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:11 PM
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43. I used to go to gay bars a lot because I could have a good time with
friends and didn't have anyone hitting on me. The girls all knew I was straight, the guys didn't care and I could dance with anyone I wanted to.
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realisticphish Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:22 PM
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45. I don't like clubs
and in my experience, gay bars tend to be clubs. I.e., focus on music/dancing, loud bass, etc. I prefer quiet dive bars, where you can just drink and talk, maybe play pool or darts. Well, that and the fact that I'm not gay :D
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 02:36 PM
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48. I used to like to go.
Fun to dance with everybody.
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Bucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-11-09 05:34 PM
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50. I really need some sleep. I read "Why are Gay Bears so much more fun...?"
I'm sure they're not.
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