High School Reunion - Attend or Pass?

I hate those things. But I look pretty damn good for my age.


Oh, who am I kidding? I'm a pig.

Pass.

I dont see why I would like them now.

Just another group of rubber neckers looking for a train wreck. :hi:

of course I only attended the casual get together at a pub, not willing to pay $75 for shitty banquet food and watered down drinks at the hotel version of it :P

They've no doubt just gotten older and more asshole-ish.

I only had one person I really wanted to see and she was very vocal to mutual friends about not going. Kind of one of those "The one that got away" things.

I was dumb and we graduated in May...sometime around July it occured to me that she'd been flirting non-stop since January...then I never saw or heard from her again.

I hated the rest of those asswipes.

I put the "laughter" in manslaughter

On which one it is. I had a shitty time at my 20th. Had a great time at my 30th. The assholes from HS were still assholes at the 20th. But time does something to you. Shit happens. People raise kids. Get divorced. Parents die. And some of them really do change.

:)

It will be more interesting than you think. Just be prepared for everyone to tell you how amazing their lives are.

Which year? if it's 20+ it's even more reason to attend.

Katherine Harris and Adam Putnam graduated from the same high school (tho after I was long gone). Why would I want to go back and see the same jerks I disliked since kindergarten?

Why celebrate an unfortunate accident of geography?

Unless you had the time of your life in high school why relive all that? Much better things to do with my time.

Only one I ever attended was my 35th. I was in town visiting my dad anyway, and figured what the hell. Again, I can just get up and leave. I HATED high school to the point where 35 years later I was still dealing with the emotional scars and was hesitant about going . But I went and it was a surprisingly enjoyable experience even though not one of my relatively few close friends were there. But everyone had FINALLY grown up, and I had some of the best conversations of the night with people that had been at most casual friends/ acquaintances , and for that matter, people I'd barely known (there'd been about 1,000 in our graduating class)...There was also a band playing the first of the 2 nights, and when I got there I asked if they were an actual band or had gotten together just for this( I'd recognized a couple of em from back then). When they told me they had just thrown this together for the reunion and I asked if it was cool to sit in , they could not have been friendlier or more welcoming. And these guys were REAL good too; the drummer had been with Ramsey Lewis for years, the main singer had made a couple of albums years earlier for some Motown subsidiary etc. But they said hell yeah, come on up and play, without having heard me play or sing a note. That set the tone for the weekend, and by the end of the set people who'd never said a word in 4 years of school were coming up and shaking my hand, and insisting I come the next night too, even though I hadn't planned to ( and had a good time that next night too, just visiting with intelligent mature adults, not idiotic high school kids). Obviously , this was a specialized situation, but I almost didn't go, and it ended up instead to being as close to closure on an unpleasant period of my life as I could have hoped for. ( ya know, outside of nailing the homecoming queen or something--THAT would've been closure---and actually , our homecoming queen had been pretty cool;if I recall, she attended Smith College and became a doctor). The performing certainly helped break the ice, but again, the point is that these weren't the same immature jackasses I knew , or saw around school all those years ago.And also again, if it had turned out unpleasant, I could've just walked out the door and have lost no more than 25 bucks and an hour of my life. But it ended up being a turning point in making peace with my past. My vote: attend if its not a long ways away.

But if I still lived in the same city in which I went to high school, I probably wouldn't bother.

No good can come of it.

I hated them. Time hasn't improved my opinion.

But I like most people, and genuinely like to see old friends again.

And I loved it. How many years are you out?

It only seems like yesterday that my biggest concern was the huge red zit on the tip of my nose.

:shrug:

Off the Clearisil for 27 years and now THIS pops up.

It happens. :)

My class has only had one reunion so far - the 25th - and I went.

It was a real eye-opener, and it was the impetus for me to write my first novel, which set me off into a whole new career.

It's far better in this life, I have learned, to regret having done something than to regret not having done it. Errors of commission are a whole lot more interesting then errors of omission, and why would you miss a chance for a unique experience?

I say, Go, and have fun.................

I'll never get another shot at this.

Yeah, why not.

The next time the group gathers, you'll be surprised at how many are no longer with you, which is sad.

Even if this is the only one you go to, you'll have done it.

And, you know what?

I bet you'll have a ball. I did. The old football coach, who had been my great pal in high school (we played the numbers together), was so happy to see me, he picked me up and carried me around in his arms, like a baby. It was wonderful.

Good that you're going ....................

:toast:

But it was my 20th and I didn't write a novel. Otherwise, I would've said the same. :)

P.S. I was the least popular student in my whole high school and I still had a great time at the reunion.

was that the girls (yes, they were still "the girls") who had SO not liked me in high school were all still huddling together, like a bunch of horny magpies, while the boys - who'd always been my great pals (my boyfriend was a college student) - were all over me, and we had a rousing good time.

The girls were pissed, just like they had been twenty-five years earlier.

And they'd obviously all used the same Clairol Dark Brown hair color, while mine was a bright, shiny silver.

They wore their best cocktail dresses. I wore a black linen pants suit with a t-shirt from our high school, with a big "Blue Devil" on the front.

I danced all night, with every boy there.

It was worth it, just for that....................................

If I've accomplished something - i.e. had a book published, lost weight, won the lottery - then I'll definitely go.

As of right now I'm leaning toward going anyway, just because I want to see what it's like.

If I'm still in the same position I am now in two years (working retail, not published, et cetera) I may skip it.

I have never heard anyone tell me that a reunion justified the expense, time and trouble. Ever.

I haven't kept in touch with any of those people. So what would we talk about? It would be like meeting some distant cousins at a wedding. Extremely boring. However, my sister has gone to a few of hers and had a good time. But she was more social during high school. And the only person from my high school years that I have any contact with now has gone to all the reunions and had a blast, but he has kept in touch with a lot of the people. I had lunch with him last October and it was the first time he and I had seen each other in 31 years.

I went to my ten year reunion and hated it. Absolutely hated it. All the posturing and put downs. There was a reason it took me ten years to go back.

I will never do another reunion again.

C