I just signed up for outside help for disabled people and I feel very depressed.

I'm also very nervous. The whole idea of not being able to take care of myself scares the shit out of me. And it's not true either. I just have not been doing such a great job lately...forgetting appointments etc.

But when I called this agency which has all sorts of resources if you are on disability they had all a bunch of things to offer, (like cleaning your house for 1 1/2 hour for $25). And someone just called me and offered to come in for physical therapy. I've gone to physical therapy but I've never completed it.

I have always depended on my mother to help me remember things and now she is becoming very forgetful so that's a wash.

I wonder if I should just accept the help and call this an ego run wild or should I use this as a push to get myself out of the doldrum I have been in.

Does anyone know what the Hell I am talking about? Has anyone ever been in this situation? I'm kind of having a panic attack about the whole thing.

I was on temporary assistance for awhile for PTSD & Panic Disorder and I wouldn't have been able to get the treatment I needed without it. I felt like less of a person at first but it really helped me in a lot of ways. It's okay to need help, and the sooner the better in my opinion, before you see yourself in a worse situation. :hug:

Are you ok with it? Did it take time to get used to the idea?

I agree with what Ariana said.

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"Word" being from the expression "word up," which means "that's right" or "you said it" or "so true."

I think. :blush:

I was surprised at all the resources out there available for those in need. I also hope your panic has eased up a bit- I understand the feeling all too well.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Everyone needs help at one time or another.

People who help do it because they like it. They like to make a difference in others' lives.

My MIL hates asking for help, and when it is offered she often declines. Someone in her church offered to paint her kitchen, and she told Mrs. Venation that she was going to decline, and Mrs. V. told her "mom, don't rob them of that blessing."

So I guess I'd say that it's not just a blessing to you to get the help you need, but it's a blessing to the helpers to be able to serve.

Anyway, I hope you can accept without feeling self-conscious.

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It might just get you into a better place- I'm thinking of the physical therapy now- so that you won't need it anymore.

And the house cleaning could be a great thing, too!

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seems like I'm doing one of these "information and referral" posts once every week or two (everywhere except in our service area! :-) )

This post originates from a Center for Independent Living, one of about 350 nonprofit agencies nationwide run by and for people with disabilities. Because we run CILs, the focus is on consumer control and direction, rather than "helping those poor disabled people".

A quick check of Mr. Profile indicates there's one right nearby:

http://www.cilfl.org

You might as well join in the fun and PM me the details while you're at it, too. Second one this week -- and it's only Tuesday... :hi:

the national directory is here.

http://www.ilru.org/html/publications/directory/index.html

I have to say that when the group of consumers got together, they had a great time with one another. Fantastic support system.

Since you're all dying to know what the other two are, they're advocacy (both systems, my specialty, and individual), and independent living skills training (bread-and-butter stuff like cooking, riding the bus, etc.)

Hopefully you'll feel better once it's in place and you're moving forward.

that allowing others to help you is a kindness in itself.

I could, on my own. I felt stuck. Ironically, getting some help did *both*. Yeah! Take care and make the most of what's out there. :thumbsup:

That's what it is there for. I used such a service when my mom was living here. Those people were truly angels on earth. If you don't like it, you can always discontinue, but please, just give it a try.

Also do you have a gmail account? If you do, you can set up a calendar which will remind you via daily emails of appointments, etc. I love it.

Good luck :)

I still just pick when I absolutely need help. I do mean a.b.s.o.l.o.u.t.l.y hehe

The thing with me is I'm too bullheaded to ask and shit usually explodes into a complete disaster before I consider asking. Then I consider it so long forty-eleven other things have blown up by the time I do ask. :crazy:

I think it might be a character flaw. I'm still up in the air about it.

I hope you ask when you absolutely must and don't have to watch it all explode to do it :)

You can PM me any time if you need to explode on someONE hehe.

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Thats why families were 'invented.' Now that we've all moved away from the old cave/riverbank/homestead, it feels unusual; we have to 'ask' when we 'need' help; others 'ask' if we'd like help.

Its LIFE! Lets DO IT!

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Others have already articulated, much better than I could, all the reasons why you should.

These services are there for you. By all means take advantage of them.

Accept the help you can afford. My parents have helpers come in their apartment and they are all really nice people.

Give it a shot. If it doesn't work out you can always stop using it.