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Ex Lurker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 08:43 AM Original message |
hypothetical: what is an affair. |
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HopeHoops (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 08:49 AM Response to Original message |
1. Generally speaking, I would consider it to involve emotions first. |
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NJmaverick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 09:28 AM Original message |
Yes once you have the emotional intimacy you have crossed the line |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 09:39 AM Response to Original message |
5. I disagree. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 09:45 AM Response to Reply #5 |
6. I would define emotional intimacy as sharing |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 09:47 AM Response to Reply #6 |
7. Some people have that relationship with "the lord"... |
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NJmaverick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 10:16 AM Response to Reply #5 |
8. I think it involves a certain amount of emotional attachment |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 10:22 AM Response to Reply #8 |
9. Unless it's working towards orgasm... |
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Orsino (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 10:44 AM Response to Original message |
11. Once you've established an emotional intimacy *that you feel you have to hide*. n/t |
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AspenRose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:43 AM Response to Reply #11 |
29. I agree. |
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Heidi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:46 AM Response to Original message |
30. I disagree. Betrayal is defined by the people who have committed to one another |
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NJmaverick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 09:28 AM Response to Original message |
2. Yes once you have the emotional intimacy you have crossed the line |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 09:38 AM Response to Original message |
3. I think so. In fact, I believe an emotional affair is worse than a |
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GreenPartyVoter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 09:38 AM Response to Original message |
4. Hmmm. Well, whether my hubby picks up a hooker or tells a coworker |
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MineralMan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 10:34 AM Response to Original message |
10. Hmm...hard to draw the line between emotional intimacy |
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no name no slogan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 10:47 AM Response to Original message |
12. I'd say it's when |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 10:47 AM Response to Original message |
13. it's not an affair until it gets physical |
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newcriminal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 10:49 AM Response to Reply #13 |
14. I disagree completely. |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 10:54 AM Response to Reply #14 |
15. I really don't know what you mean by that. |
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newcriminal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:07 AM Response to Reply #15 |
18. my husband isn't a crier, so no chance of that happening. |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:18 AM Response to Reply #18 |
20. I've been married for over 20 years... |
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newcriminal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:26 AM Response to Reply #20 |
25. Where in my post did I mention dark secrets? |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:37 AM Response to Reply #25 |
28. I like it when my husband relates happy moments we share. |
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newcriminal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:57 AM Response to Reply #28 |
32. No problem. I was probably a bit defensive because I have been reading the I'm going to hell thread. |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 12:04 PM Response to Reply #32 |
34. That sounds like a beauty..... |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:00 AM Response to Original message |
16. I agree about the physicality. "Emotional intimacy" is too vague. |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:22 AM Response to Reply #16 |
22. LOL |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:32 AM Response to Reply #22 |
26. No, with an ex-fiancee. |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:34 AM Response to Reply #26 |
27. I have opposite sex friends, too. |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:00 AM Response to Original message |
17. Yes there is such a thing as an Emotional Affair. |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:08 AM Response to Original message |
19. It's like art. |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:19 AM Response to Original message |
21. I feel that an emotional involvement is worse |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:22 AM Response to Original message |
23. The emotion love transcends physical contact. Do you not love your parents? |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:23 AM Response to Original message |
24. Yes. Most likely. nt |
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Heidi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:49 AM Response to Original message |
31. It is what you and the person to whom you're committed determine it to be. |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:58 AM Response to Original message |
33. I have a female best friend and it's caused me some relationship trouble. |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:39 PM Response to Reply #33 |
35. OMG, I'm right there with you |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-28-09 11:55 PM Response to Reply #35 |
36. Yeah, my BFF is a flirt too. |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 12:10 AM Response to Reply #36 |
37. That's funny, my friend is the complete opposite of me |
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proteus_lives (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 01:27 AM Response to Reply #37 |
39. It's why we didn't work out romantically. |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 07:59 AM Response to Reply #39 |
41. LOL, my friend is always calling me when she needs my logic abilities for something. |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 02:25 PM Response to Reply #41 |
42. KICK |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 12:15 AM Response to Original message |
38. I get the idea. |
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LostInAnomie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 01:39 AM Response to Original message |
40. "Emotional affairs" are one of those stupid post-modern constructs made up to sell books. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 03:05 PM Response to Reply #40 |
43. So no such thing as cheating with the heart? |
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LostInAnomie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 03:39 PM Response to Reply #43 |
45. No. For some reason, today, we have a compulsion to breed dissatisfaction... |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 04:10 PM Response to Reply #45 |
46. I agree about having crushes, etc., but when it becomes |
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LostInAnomie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 04:48 PM Response to Reply #46 |
51. Even at that, it is still wanting a control over how your partner feels. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 05:53 PM Response to Reply #51 |
52. I am not in one at all. And neither is my husband. |
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Spider Jerusalem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 03:38 PM Response to Original message |
44. Hypothetically? If you're asking yourself if what you're doing is wrong... |
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theNotoriousP.I.G. (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 04:13 PM Response to Original message |
47. Have you been open with your partner about it? |
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Ex Lurker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 04:21 PM Response to Reply #47 |
50. I'm not the one with the partner |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 04:14 PM Response to Original message |
48. Affairs are just sex. |
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Fire Walk With Me (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 04:15 PM Response to Original message |
49. If the question even comes up... |
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carpetbagger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 09:20 PM Response to Original message |
53. Would you or they share their feelings with their partner? |
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triguy46 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-29-09 09:21 PM Response to Original message |
54. An emotional affair is just as damaging as a physical one, maybe more so. |
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