About Being Fat

I was a fat guy for all of my adult life until recently. I'm 36 now. My weight has fluctuated between 250 and 290 since I graduated high school. I'm 5'10" tall.

I was at the grocery store the other day and a woman started talking to me while I looked through the turkey burger section. She was hitting on me and it had been so long since something like that happened that I didn't realize it until later. :dunce:

I've noticed a difference at work, too, in the way people treat me. When I was fat, people there seemed to think that it impaired my ability to do my job even though I'm one of the best employees on my shift and have been since I started working there. One of my bosses treated me like a child. He actually got demoted and had to move to a different facility. I'm still there. Oh, the irony. I get a lot more respect there now and the only thing that has changed is my weight.

People pay more attention to me now. They actually listen to what I have to say. People don't assume negative things about me based on my appearance.

I know someone else who posts here who has also lost a lot of weight who has noticed the same things that I have. It angers her. I'm more amused than angered. I think this experience has given me a valuable insight into human nature. One that will allow to implement my master plan to rule the world! Mwahahahahaha!!!

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paper towel please

that women are powerless to resist.

:spray: :rofl:

Who wants cake?! :7




Congrats on the weight loss. It's a tough thing to do!!

Good for you on the weight loss!

Can I help you with your master plan? :7

It does anger me or it used to. I laugh now but I've had time to deal with it and realize that those people who treat me differently are shallow and really not worth my worrying about.

I'm still the same me inside. Only the outward appearance has changed.

Funny story;

At my granddaughter's 1st birthday party I was very nervous because it was the first time in 7 years since my divorce that I was going to see my ex husband. When he arrived at the party, I happened to be standing by the door. I said hello as he came in and he nodded and said "hi, how are you?" .. I gave a standard, "I'm fine thanks" as he walked into the sitting room.

My stuff was on a chair beside the one he sat in and so to make room for other people I started to move my things out of the way. He invited me to sit and shocked as I was I thanked him and sat down. I commented on how Ella looks so much like her Daddy and with that, the ex turned to me, stuck out his right hand and INTRODUCED himself to me !!! I swear!

I replied, "well, hi, .. I'm Adam's mother!! " He was so embarrassed and couldn't apologize enough. I was complimented at first but later, when I had time to think of it I was hurt, angry and surprised. Had I changed that much?

He and I talked about it and to him I had changed. I was much more confident and sure of myself. huh? .. well anyway .. I understand what you're saying about human nature.

Sorry to ramble.
From someone who lost 168lbs I know how hard it is to take the pounds off. (Even if I did it the 'easy' way eh?)


Start recognizing those flirty ways Tobin!! :)

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kesha

contrary. He hoped he hadn't hurt me and I told him he didn't that it was ok. (so I lied) I'd rather my feelings hurt than someone elses. :)

And I know you had a very rough road to travel losing weight the "easy way."

:hug: I think I killed your thread :( sorry.

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No wonder he didn't recognize you - and no, I'm not taking his side.

That's understandable, and a really great story.............................

He emailed me twice the following week to make sure that I wasn't upset.

It's a funny story. It shook me up but it did make me realize just how different I look. I still see a fat person at times, and I live with me so I never really changed in my mind.

anyway, yes I did lose a whole person heh. I lost more than I weigh now. I'm 135 lbs most days.

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I thought that was a great story and reflected well on you. :hug:

yes, the world treats you different. People smile at you more,clerks will help you more, etc. I am pretty heavy now but I am used to it. I have weighed as an adult 247lbs. and weighed, as an adult,147lbs. So you are correct! People treat you better when you are slim and trim. It sucks but it's true....

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that being treated differently is something I've yet to experience. It's not that noticeable to the untrained eye. But when I do get to the goal weight I truly do not know how I'll take it. The being hit on would be flattering but the not being overlooked I'm afraid will just feed into my cynicism about human nature. It's something I'm trying to work through and prepare myself for.

Thank you much for sharing.

And if you remember the human female you had seen, do follow up. People say "it's never too late".

I was a size 18, and being so tall I was self-conscious most of my life. Now of course, this would not be considered fat, but in the 70s and 80s I was a real freak of nature--no clothes fit me except old lady clothes. Nothing cute for women who looked like me! When I finally got down to my right weight about 15 years ago, I was stunned at how differently everyone treated me. I even married a cute, younger man who was one of those DB's that hated fat women--yeah, Freud would have a field day!

Anyway, I did divorce the superficial ex, but I also vowed I'd never be heavy again. I say: be careful what you wish for! Now post menopause, I can't keep weight on, and have no resources as to how to gain it healthily! Yesterday I got on the scale and I weight 139!!! Part of me would love to lose even more, but guess what? Once you get older, you can't be skinny like this. You have far less muscle mass and instead of looking hot, you're saggy and flabby! Oh, the cosmic irony!!

Anyway, I know this has been said before, but this is the hard truth: Screw what the world thinks of how you look! I've been on both sides of the coin, I know I'm still the same fabulous person regardless of a few pounds here or there.

You all are, too!!!

Get out the milkshakes, dammit. If you're that skinny, your bones aren't getting enough of a workout, holding up your body, and that's gonna weaken them. Osteoporosis loves skinny older women, so please - PLEASE! - get on some weight.

And have fun. Eat good stuff. Rejoice.

Be happy AND healthy. And that tall. And that beautiful.................. :hi:

nature's perfect food and a great way to put on some weight.

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I work out a lot, lifting weights as well as cardio and cycling. I'm reluctant to mess with my metabolism.

It's human nature. Fat people aren't pretty - slender people are pretty.

That's how it's perceived, anyway.

And a slender person bespeaks someone with enough self-respect to take care of himself (no, it's not fair, and it's not even rational, but that's the common perception), which is very sexy.

Good for you, and keep on keepin' on. Just start being aware of the signals being sent your way, and have some fun with them.

Turkeyburgers, indeed..............

There's a common assumption out there that someone who is carrying some extra weight is lazy or a glutton or has some other personal character defect. The truth is, it's easy to gain weight and very difficult to lose it and once you gain a certain amount, it's that much more difficult because it can impede you in doing the exercise that's essential to losing. Vicious cycle.

My oldest sister went through that. Gained a lot of weight when she was pregnant and also slipped a disc. The back injury made it hard for her to exercise so she gained more weight. The extra weight caused her blood pressure to rise and eventually gave her diabetes. The health issues made it even harder to exercise.

My sister ate hardly anything - I lived with her for awhile and could see that. She was just stuck in a loop. And people did look at her as if she was lazy or a glutton or weak. She wasn't any of that.

Blah, blah, blah.

Good luck with that master plan. If you're ever in need of an evil minion, I'm your gal. :D

and I too have noticed a difference in the way people treat me. Before, when I was fat, no one talked to me. Now, everyone talks to me and/or flirts with me. It bothers me sometimes because they only like me because I'm "attractive" now.

differently just because I'm overweight. I just don't. I smile and address them in a friendly manner, in a business setting, I know my stuff and am assertive in expressing what I feel needs to be done in a given situation.

I usually have no problems, because I won't allow them.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt :thumbsup:

You seem like a very confident and loving person. You've shown that time and again.

:hug:

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kesha

if you had to work with me. :rofl:

I can be a tad impatient. Really.

You're incredibly sweet, kesha. :hi:

It's the last acceptable form of bigotry, even as it is more common in America than at any time in our history.

She thought you were handsome, and wanted to talk with you.

I am a fat woman. (I posted our wedding photo on the "post a formal photo" thread, and managed to kill the thread as a result, evidently.) It's always amazing to me that I treat people while out in public with courtesy and respect, and don't get the same in return. I wonder what my life would be like if I was normal weight. At the same time, would I happily befriend those who wouldn't speak to me at this weight, or would I want to stay away from them?

Seriously. Enjoy yourself and your life. How great is this?!?