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Edited on Fri Oct-02-09 02:11 AM by Politics_Guy25
Guys, I need some advice big time.
Here goes, my best friend just called me. It's 10 to midnight here! She was so confused that she had to talk. Anyway, she met a guy online that lives in another state. Anyway, she told her best girl friend his name and everything. So the friend wanting to make sure that her friend didn't get hurt by some sleazebag went on to whitepages.com and typed in his name and e-mail address. WELL, low and behold WP and the whitepages.com e-mail finder list this guy's age as 36!! He told her that he was around 27-28 but she never really pressed him specifically for his age. My friend is 26! She was all excited to meet a hot guy but now is crushed. She's been online dating a guy that possibly is 10 years older than her. Anyway, my friend's best girl friend devised a little scheme for her to come up with a way to ask him what year he graduated. The scheme worked and he texted back to her that he graduated in 1998. This guy that my friend is dating didn't seem aware that my friend was onto him, So the graduated in 1998 story matches the age range that he gave her BUT Whitepages.com is a very reliable source and it says that he's 36!
What does she do?? What can I tell her? She's wondering if she should call him up crying and ask for the truth? Her thing is though: She's worried that he'll think that she was stalking him through the WP when it was all innocent. Also, would it destroy the relationship to confront him on this?
He has sent her 3 pics of himself from what I hear and he looked like a young guy but pics can be faked on the web easily. This is made all the worse because this guy she's dating online was in some financial trouble and she has offered to give him a few hundred dollars to help.
So, she's devastated. She was all ready to open up financially to this guy and was falling for him but now finds that the WP says that he's 36 when he says he's 28 or 29. My questions in summary are:
1. Is there any way at all that the WP could be wrong about his age really being 36 when he said he was in his 20s thus alleviating my friends pain pr does it "never lie.?" 2. What can I do or say to help? 3. Should she confront him and if so how? 4. Does the fact that he sent her three pics and looked late 20ish matter at all?
My friend is a mess. Any advice would be welcome. Oh and by the way to clear up confusion, apparently Whitepages.com lists your age, phone number, address, e-mail address, etc.
P.S.: BTW, I have his name now as well and typed it in to google. An article popped up that said that he was the employee of the month at a state medical center in 2000. No kid 2 years out of h.s. would be the employee of the month at a medical center. That's for sure right? If this was really him...City does match though.
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