What is the acceptable amount of warning to give family for wedding attendance?

arcadian

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:04 AM
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What is the acceptable amount of warning to give family for wedding attendance?

Edited on Thu Oct-29-09 09:10 AM by arcadian

And if wedding is on the East Coast is it acceptable to bitch, moan and hold grudges because family can't make it though you only gave them 2 months warning when a lot of said family has to come in from faraway places like Wisconsin, California and Florida?

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taterguy

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:13 AM
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1. It takes less than 6 hours to fly from one coast to another

Give folks 12 hours in case they get stuck in traffic.

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arcadian

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:16 AM
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2. No, I'm saying how long in advance do you set a date...

so that everybody can make arrangements(get off from work, etc.) to be at the wedding, 2 months is not acceptable in my opinion.

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taterguy

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:17 AM
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4. If it's important enough they'll get there

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arcadian

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:18 AM
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5. Okay, how about just giving people 2 weeks notice.

Is that acceptable?

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charlie and algernon

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:16 AM
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3. don't most places require that you book it 6 months or more in advance?

why not let the guests know then?

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cleveramerican

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:35 AM
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6. you should never get pissed at people who decline

you thought enough of them to invite them
how about giving them the actual option of declining?

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arcadian

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:47 AM
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9. Oh, not my wedding.

This is the reaction of a kid who's wedding, we went to over the weekend.

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jmm

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:43 AM
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7. I'm luck at work because

my dept is so small that requesting time off can be done informally. I've never had a vacation request declined so I'm sure two months notice wouldn't be an issue for me. In our larger departments people need to request 70% of their vacation time at the beginning of the year. So if I was in one of those depts I might need upwards of a year warning me. Regardless nobody should be made to feel guilty because they don't have the time or money to travel to some family event.

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Rabrrrrrr

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:46 AM
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8. Wow - holding grudges on people because they don't come a wedding announced with little warning

that's on the other side of the country.

Hmmmmm.....

I've always thought of invitations as being invitations, not automatic obligations. And it is the onus of the inviter to make things accessible for the invitees; it is not the onus of the invitees to jump through whatever hoops the inviter feels like popping up in front of them.

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arcadian

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Thu Oct-29-09 09:48 AM
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10. Thanks, that's my reaction as well.

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crispini

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Thu Oct-29-09 10:01 AM
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11. Two months is not OK

Can't get the best deal on airline tickets only two months out.

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HopeHoops

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Thu Oct-29-09 10:18 AM
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12. If you don't like them, then about 10 minutes.

If you do like them, at least two months. Shotgun weddings break all such rules.

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MissMillie

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Thu Oct-29-09 11:14 AM
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13. Weddings are supposed to be joyful events

bitching and moaning are never allowed.

Invite. If people can't make it, accept their good wishes and move on.

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Gormy Cuss

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Thu Oct-29-09 03:13 PM
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14. Well, I hope those no-shows continue the disrespect and don't bother to send gifts either.

Harrumph.

:P

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theNotoriousP.I.G.

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Thu Oct-29-09 03:17 PM
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15. six months or more

Most people are engaged for over a year and six months in to the engagement is usually when the planning starts and the invitations are sent out. That's how I did it but that may be old school for all I know.

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