Serious question here.

You know, it is terrible when you post so much crap that you have to tell people when you are being serious. :D

Here is a question to ponder:

Do you generally try to find the good in people and things BEFORE finding the bad?

For example, if someone did something that you did not like, would you try to search for the good before criticizing?

Another example: Let's say there is a band that you really thought was crap, and you hated them, but many people like them. Would you recognize the fact that there must be a reason they are popular, and perhaps give their music another listen, before ragging on them?

I probably won't respond much, but I'm interested in seeing some opinions.

Thanks.

assume good until I see evidence of bad. If someone does something I don't like, I try to understand the reason first.

brb

one way or the other to search for the reason someone did or did not say/do a thing.

ex 1: "people" say and do things every day that i do not like. i recognize that it has not a thing to do with me.

ex 2: folks like what they like. choice for listening enjoyment is totally subjective. (i've heard some people listen to country music!)

to do with how we perceive people. Since I'm sort of a pessimist, I've found myself liking more people later on who didn't sit well when we first met. So I guess you could say I see the bad, but the bad has to expose itself first, I don't make it up in my head. AND my negative judgment only extends to behavior, not clothing or hairstyles. I just figure people want to look how they want to look and that's ok with me. But if they're assholes I don't like 'em.

As for music, I realize that not all people share my tastes, so I pretty much keep my mouth shut to avoid hurting their feelings. But I can't say that I wouldn't rag on about it if I had to live with it, or if someone expected me to pay money to see it.

vendors I have no contact with.

If it's someone I meet and will have to interact with, yes, I try to find the good and hope that it outweighs the bad. That's important because I'll have to have some sort of relationship with this person, and that can affect me, my happiness, my health, my success, etc...

If it's some rock band or actor or someone I'll never meet personally, no, I could care less. Life's too short to listen to sucky music, and I don't care how many Lady Gaga fans there are. I don't feel any compunction to "give them a second chance." Or third.

but i didnt like them. they dont have to take it personally. it isnt personal.

if someone was rude, or obnoxious, or whatever turned me off adn everyone liked them, i wouldnt have the need to find the good. i dont have to be friends with everyone. and everyone doesnt have to like me. i would assume we just dont mesh.

that being said

i dont think there is anyone given a little time, that i dont see a 'good". or a situation. i really dont look at things as good and bad though. i see it more that all things have a higher vibration, lower vibration and we can chose which one to connect to.