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I just need to vent for a second here.
First of all, I have been un- and under-employed for the last 3 years (as so many of us have been), and yes, I had to move back in with my mom. Me living with my mom is not the topic here.
About 5 months ago I got a terrific job that requires me to go down to Sacramento two days a week. This requires me being out of town overnight.
This weekend I promised my dear friend who is getting married in two months that I would come down to Santa Cruz and help her pick out a hairstyle for the wedding. I am obligated to do this, and it's not negotiable.
Tonight my mom and I had the SAME TWO ARGUMENTS WE'VE BEEN HAVING FOR YEARS AND I'M SO SICK OF IT.
The first argument is about the dogs. We have three dogs, and every single goddamn week my mom freaks out about me leaving her with three dogs. She totally guilt trips me about leaving her alone with the dogs, and I totally fall for it every week. I know it's not easy taking care of all three dogs, but I don't know what to do about that. I HAVE OFFERED TO TAKE ONE OR MORE DOGS TO THE KENNEL AND PAY FOR IT, but no, that's unacceptable to her. I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HELL SHE EXPECTS ME TO DO. THERE IS NO SOLUTION HERE THAT WILL MAKE HER HAPPY.
If I don't go down south, I don't get paid, and that's not an option. If I take the dogs to the kennel, the dogs will be sad. If I don't take the dogs to the kennel, the dogs will miss me, and my mom will have to deal with three dogs. I can't think of another option here.
The second argument is about the car. This argument has spanned SEVEN DAMN YEARS and THREE DAMN CARS.
When I first got a job out of college in 2003 I had an old 1980 BMW 320i with 200,000 miles on it. I got a job up in the mountains near Yosemite. My mom's car was a 1997 Toyota Corolla with 90,000 miles on it. She INSISTED that I take HER car if I was going to be driving in the mountains because she INSISTED that the BMW wasn't safe. She then proceeded to call me and guilt-trip me for taking her car and leaving her with an older car that she couldn't go anywhere in. I OFFERED TO TAKE THE BMW BACK AND SHE SAID NO, THAT THE BMW WASN'T SAFE AND SHE WANTED ME TO DRIVE A SAFE CAR. Multiple times a week she would call me and hassle me about the fact that I had her car.
In 2005 she gave the BMW (which was my car) away without asking me, and she bought a brand new Honda Element. She then gave me the Toyota to have.
A few months ago, I get a job that requires me to go out of town for a few days a week. It's a great job and it pays good money, but it's a temporary job so it's not like I have the cash flow and can go buy another car, ya know?
When I get this new job she INSISTS that the Toyota (which now has 180,000 miles on it) isn't safe and she won't have me driving it to Sacramento. So I am left taking the Honda to Sacramento.
Guess what happens?
EVERY GODDAMN WEEK she hassles me about taking HER car out of town and leaving her STRANDED here in Redding without a functioning car. (Never mind the facts that I give her about $600 a month for car expenses and that I have spent $2,000 in the last year getting the Toyota in great shape. I've had the AC, both axles, and all four wheels replaced. It runs like a dream.)
So tonight I'm about to leave town for a few days, and she decides to pitch a hissy about it at 9:00 at night. Like, tonight she tried to play this card that she had been planning to go to Cottonwood this weekend, but now she couldn't go because she didn't have a functioning car. Cottonwood is a big exciting 15 miles down the road. She also tried to tell me that she couldn't possibly drive my car this weekend because my car was all dirty. SHE'S BEEN THE ONE DRIVING IT 90% OF THE TIME FOR THE LAST 5 MONTHS. I suggested that she go through the drive-through car wash, and she acted like I had slapped my grandmother. I said I would pay to get it detailed and she was like "Well it's a little late for THAT."
So I say "OK, I'll take MY car to visit my friend this weekend and I'll leave you with the Honda." Well of COURSE she's all like "Well you can't drive the Toyota that far. It's not safe."
Both of these arguments are SO frustrating. It's like she starts the argument for the sole purpose of hassling me. SO FRUSTRATING.
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