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Archae Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 01:02 AM
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People, I just had a big crying jag.
On 10-10, my Dad (who died on August 6th,) would have been 80. :cry:

He was always there for us.
He was opinionated, didn't like being wrong or not knowing what to do, but he never beat us, never ran off on us, and always provided for us, we never went without.

It's been 3 months now.
I miss him so much. :cry:
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csziggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 01:14 AM
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1. I wish I knew what to say but here
:hug:
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The Midway Rebel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 01:21 AM
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2. We know it hurts.
:grouphug:
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Archae Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 02:16 AM
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3. Thanks, both of you.
I'm glad I have some very fond memories of Dad.

We disagreed on just about everything, (he was very conservative,) but there was one thing we really did agree on.

We both loved going out fishing.
And he enjoyed teaching me how to catch the nice-sized eating fish. :9

He had a smile, when he smiled his blue eyes just showed how happy he could be.

And did he love to rassle, first with us kids, tehn the grandkids and finally the great-grandkids.
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Archae Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-15-10 10:46 PM
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17. Here's my Mom and Dad
The picture was taken last October, you can see what a delightful smile he can have, with those blue eyes he had.

I miss him, so much. :cry:
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MiddleFingerMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 02:43 AM
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4. He's in your heart... he's in your head...
.
.
.
...as with MiddleFingerMomMom and me, he's not REALLY gone. He's
just elsewhere for the time being.
.
.
.
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TorchTheWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 03:04 AM
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5. That was the time that I felt it the hardest
The first couple of months I think I was in denial or just numb. Then suddenly it was absolute crushing grief. I don't think a day went by for weeks and maybe months that I didn't have a crying fit.

It does get better. It really does. It's just going to take awhile. You'll always miss him but after awhile you learn how to live life again without the grief.

I feel for you, dear. Losing a loved one especially a parent or child is soooo very very hard.
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kimi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 04:12 AM
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6. I hear ya
Crying jags are very beneficial, I think.


He sounds like a good man. Hugs.
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Manifestor_of_Light Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 06:13 AM
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7. So sorry about that.
My dear daddy has been gone for ten years as of July 23rd.

I miss him a lot too.

Light a candle, light a stick of incense, say a prayer if you feel like it.

In any case, remember him fondly. I have a big mahogany linen/silverware chest.
I use the top of it for an ancestor/friend altar. With pictures of those passed who influenced me.

Candles, incense, religious statues that are meaningful to me.

:hug: :grouphug:
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kimmerspixelated Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 05:06 PM
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8. My heart's out.
But you know..it hurts, but crying like you did, is so very therapeutic. Good for you. Not all men can admit it. It does get better with time.
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Kaleva Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 05:13 PM
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9. He'll live forever in your heart and mind.
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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 08:48 PM
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10. Like they say... your dad is not gone it is that your relationship to him has just changed one more
time.... I'm so sorry.
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Odin2005 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 09:39 PM
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11. My grandmother died almost exactly a year ago, I know how you feel.
:hug: :cry:
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Swede Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-14-10 09:45 PM
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12. Sorry to hear this Archae.
My dad's been gone for 9 years now,and I still miss him.
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KT2000 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-15-10 02:50 AM
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13. It's OK
there will be several "anniversaries" like this. It is a process you have to go through. If you didn't love him so much it wouldn't hurt so much.
You'll feel better and remember him without so much sadness in time.
Peace to you.
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MrScorpio Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-15-10 03:45 AM
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14. I know, man
:hug:
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dawg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-15-10 02:28 PM
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15. You never get over it.
I know how you feel. Best wishes to you.

:grouphug:
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Oct-15-10 03:17 PM
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16. My dear Archae...
Cry all you want, all you need to, sweetie...

It IS therapeutic.

And as someone else here said: If you hadn't loved him so much, it wouldn't hurt this much. Your grief stands as witness to how much you loved him...

I hope your good memories will someday replace much of your sorrow...

:hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-16-10 07:15 AM
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18. i miss my dad too -- it seems to come in waves --bout every 90 days or so.
gets a little better the further out -- but birthday times are still hard.
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