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My advice-giving credentials are thus: I have ADD that went undiagnosed until college (when I started medication, and my GPA increased markedly) because I was not disruptive and I had been smart enough to pay no attention and get mostly Bs until then. I also have a brother, father, mother, and partner with ADD (which expresses itself very differently with all of us) in various places on the leave-it-alone-vs.-treat-it continuum. Below are some questions and suggestions.
Does she see her distraction and/or grades as a problem? If she doesn't, the "tough love" some posters have suggested may be appropriate. If she does, though, the problem isn't motivation, so "tough love" is a lot less likely to accomplish anything except possibly fueling resentment.
Is she taking classes in what she's actually interested in? My major classes in college were great, but I didn't do nearly as well in the core requirements, so maybe her grades will improve when she's finished the core stuff (probably next year).
Is she drinking much caffeine? If she drinks a lot, it can have similar effects to stimulant medications, possibly without the side effects that bothered her. Also, has she tried another type of stimulant medication? My brother hated Ritalin, but hates Adderall significantly less.
Suggest that she study in the library with hardworking friends. Being in the library enforces a certain level of quiet, and if your friend is writing a paper and you're d*cking around on facebook, you feel like an @$$. I know I would not have gotten the grades I did in college without this. (Thanks to my friend Meg, who practically lived in the library with me.)
Lifehacker.com often has recommendations for free anti-distraction software...maybe you could email her a link to one or two and suggest that you found them helpful, and she might too.
Can she take meds sometimes? Some ADD people I knew in college took adderall before a big test or when they needed to focus on a paper, but not on an everyday basis.
Is she having social trouble? It's possible facebook and twitter are her way of keeping in touch with her friends because she doesn't feel like she really connects with people at her school. If she's having relationship problems, this could also be a cause.
Has she tried asking the school's disabilities office for accommodations like a notetaker, etc.? Some of my friends with ADD found that really helpful. (Also, not to plug or anything, but OMG was a livescribe smartpen useful in grad school. Google it.)
Does she know why she's there? Does she have a strong idea of where she's going? Is it possible she'd benefit from taking a leave of absence and doing a "gap year" kind of deal, despite the fact that she's mid-college? Some people find it much easier to focus when they have a more concrete end goal in mind in terms of career, etc.
Just in case, you might want to talk to her about whether she's exhibiting signs of clinical depression, which commonly first appears in college and can make focusing even harder for those of us with attentional difficulties.
Sorry to write such a long post. :) I hope this is helpful.
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