Are you a boy or a girl or an other?

PART 1: What is your gender? Meaning, do you have girl parts or do you have boy parts?

PART 2: What do you like and or hate most about being a boy or a girl?

and a fairly masculine interior

Well, you may be a boy, but you look like a girl.

Everything else is static and distraction.

*confused look*

To determine which you do a genotype.

there are some people who are not an XX or an XY. (Was reading about this in a book about women in sports in a chapter on sex testing.)

However considering that anything outside of XX or XY is considered a birth defect....

Yeah it's a birth defect but it does make for an option other than just boy or girl based on genotype.

normal chromosome counts and genotypes that don't come with other related issues and health problems.

I'm thinking the "other" category was put in the poll for just such issues.

And having the chromosomal abnormalities doesn't always mean health problems. Hell, the place I heard about it was in a book on women athletes after all and how some of them didn't even know they had something other than the normal XX until they were sex-tested for a competition. They had gone their whole lives without having any kind of medical issue that had necessitated testing.

...chromosomes nearly all of them have associated health risks, if they don't result in death outright.

and maybe do some more research because this is a subject I could easily have one of my little 2 week long fascinations with. :-)

You are still missing the issue.

who are you to judge?

I majored in Biology and have a background in Genetics, Heredity, and Developmental Biology.

That's for starters.

doesnt make it right...homosexuality was considered a mental disease till the 70's. however that doesnt mean it is.

That's a bit different though than having major abberations in your genetics, such as having 2-X and 1-Y.

...it is an aberation. Particularly when it results in detrimental health issues or death.

about 20% of children are born intergender, after which they are assigned a gender, based on the appearance of genitialia (and depending on what kind of doctor they had for the operation). These intergender people have no health issues aside from being 3rd gender...we make them one gender and give them a lot of hormones so that they fit into our ideal two gender polarizations.

I am not supporting your belief in reality and actually trying to understand how it all works isn't comfortable for you. It makes you question.

that just question why you think intergendered and transgendered people dont exist...

I said you are either a boy or a girl.

They don't exist. However that was your statement not mine.

Very cool.

at nyu. Psychology. gender studies and sociology.

But that does explain a lot.

of children that are born intersex (it might even be closer to 2%). I'm not sure what intergendered is, maybe another term for transgender, which has little to do with bodysex or genitals but rather usually means having a gender that is at odds with one's bodysex.

i meant to write 2% and i think it varies from country to country

I believe in the vast majority of cases it has nothing to do with chromosomes (rather is the consequence of natal hormone levels), and also in most cases results in no detrimental health conditions but only cosmetic issues (i.e., ambiguous genitals), though there are exceptions such as hypospadias. Thus, your line of reasoning re health issues is invalid in most cases for what you imply are aberrant people.

yes say that to the trannies...sure they will appreciate it...

They would be funny that way.

Sometimes that can't be helped.

othertimes people intentionally enjoy hurting other people

I like being a woman because it doesn't look like dudes have it any better.

I hate being a woman because my boobs get in the way. They are heavy and hot to carry around, especially during Texas summers. I also get tired of having them stared at all the time. I know they are big. I know they are hard to miss. But come on! They are just boobies. Everybody has them.

Part two: I think guys generally have it easier in many ways, which is good for me. What I don't like is that men are expected to be aggressive, and I'm not.

Or is somebody being funny?

If you are... how did that work out for you.
How long did it take?
How did your friends and family take it?

No, it's not me, but I have met this person as have others here.

I find I have many questions for people I don't get to meet in real life very often.

People I have many questions for:
Transgendered
Muslims (the Orthodox kind that wear the ritual garb)
Buddhists
Hindus (the Orthodox kind that wear the ritual garb)
Siamese Twins (still conjoined)
People in other nations - especially Third World nations

I want to find out about the practical aspects of their daily life. I figure if you ask questions, you begin to understand more.

I wouldn't, however, walk up to one of these types of people, if I didn't know them, and start asking lots of questions. I don't want to be rude or intrusive.

Hindus (the Orthodox kind that wear the ritual garb): we really dont have a ritual garb: would you consider a suit, pant and tye to be ritual garb? what we have is a national dress for men and women. and clother differ by regions in india and nepal which are predominantly hindu

See this is what I mean. I don't know enough to ask the right questions. That is why I want to ask people things.

man parts. My boy parts seem to have changed since I was a boy.

I like being a man. I like being able to be big and strong and to provide for my family. I also like to chalenge others ideas of what being a man means.

everyone knows we're little and weak and not able to provide for a family. :eyes:

I am in fact big, strong and provide for my family. You have no idea WHAT or how I provide for my family. Don't make assumptions.

but that has been the implication for centuries now. When you say "I like being a man" and then follow it up with "I like being big and strong and able to support a family" it implies that those two things are intrinsically linked and not being one means not being the other.

Has down sides for both genders because it tells women "you have to have someone to take care of you" and it tells men who aren't big or strong or successful that they are not "really" a man.

Patriarchy and the resulting stereotypes suck ass.

I happen to like exploring those stereotypes. I enjoy picking and choosing which aspects of those stereo types I will incorporate into my life.

I am strong, both phyisicaly and emotionaly. I can cry in front of others and I will kick your ass for laughing.

I am big. I can be physicaly intimidating. It also means that I have a great lap for sitting on. I have strong arms for holding another and I have big shoulders, with big shirts that soak up many tears.

I know that I have both gender and racial bias working for me. To deny it would be a lie. I just choose not to abuse it, at least when I can recognize it.

was talking about the stereotypes we have for men in general (that they have to be economically successful to be a "real man") and not about you specifically.

I knew there was a reason I liked you...and the last paragraph of your post made it crystal clear to me why. :)

You say the sweetest things!

Yup...that's the first word that comes to mind when people think of me...sweet. *snort*

you fooled. ;-)

and I like everything about having girl parts except for one minor thing. I'd love to be able to pee anywhere and to not have to use toilet paper when I pee.

I find it difficult to pee outdoors because I can't balance right without wetting on myself.

:-)

and I really hate that erections can occur at any time and at any place...even when you're giving an important speech in front of class...

not sure if you're a boy a girl

That's usually the giveaway.

Ouuccchhhhhh! That hurt!

I think I'm a boy...

Use a less pointy stick next time.

You mean I wasn't supposed to use pliers?

I like neither gender. Both of 'em stink.

I am neither and both.I am a feline.
I don't like human male culture or female culture, because they both suck.To be honest I don't like human culture"norms" at all because they revolve too much around power,position ,authority,submission,objectifying,mind games appearances,and domination which to me is sickening.

Humanity enjoys and indulges the ugly side of it's heart too much for me to feel at home as a "human being" or at home on this planet most of the time.

To me,I am feline inside because I identify as feline and I always have. I strive to live my life without internalizing the stupid mind baggage humans(parents peers etc) and our sick civilization(institutions school work,etc) invents for us to cram ourselves into.I am very aware of the way consent gets manufactured in this culture.This "gendering" is just another game imposed upon children early on .Society uses gender to control,divide and impose concepts of classes,certain beliefs, and slave hood on sovereign free people to make them forget they do not have to live this way if it makes them miserable.One way social domination is done in a hierarchical power based culture is through widely held beliefs like 'gender norms'..

I was born female, but never was at home in the feminine role or body.I am trans-gender, but I don't wish to be made into a total male either because I am not at home being male. Binary gender is too limited for me.I'm neither and both.
I am bisexual I like men and women both. They're people. And because I look to the mind heart and personality, I don't give a shit about their sexual plumbing.Lastly, I am asexual which means to me,sex is low on my priority list when I meet people.

What I seek in other people is compatible companionship/personalities,intelligent or interesting conversations, emotional and mental sharing,good times,good humor,depth,character, a person not into playing mind games, who is not a person with control issues,I seek a spirit that loves adventure,creativity,exploring and affection as well.A person not afraid to be who they are and who can let me be who I am regardless and enjoys this difference between us and is not threatened or controlled by it.

the only thing I miss is I wish I had more upper body strength. It would make some chores around the house a lot easier.

Last time I checked anyway. :P

I, like the earlier poster, would love to be able to pee anywhere - I also would like to have more of a mechanical aptitude. But I don't like getting dirty - ? So I have to trust mechanics to look after my car.

Being as that was twelve seconds ago, I don't expect to be surprised twelve seconds from now when I check again.

<checks again>

yep!

The thing I hated most about my male parts was early puberty, and the lack of control I had over them; it could be damnably inconvenient and/or embarrassing, at times... :P

because I dont try to go out and screw everything female that crosses my path (19).