My sad election day story....

Background:

My youngest sister is married to one of the most self-righteous, bigotted, controlling right wing nut pieces of shit in the whole world. They have a 16 yr old son who has been terrorized by his dad since the day he was born. His parents are exactly the same, which explains why he turned out the way he did. He is a military lifer....taking the easy way out by joining the navy, but he thinks he is George Patton. My nephew has had serious self esteem problems most all of his life. Up until two months ago he would literally run the other way if a girl even said Hi to him. I have regular run-ins with my brother in law, and I even have run-ins with my nephew because he has been so brain washed all of his life.

Story:

I got a call Saturday from my sister.....she was pretty distraught. She said her little boy was no longer a little boy. He met this girl about two months ago and has been dating her. It has done wonders for his sel-esteem. She said on election day he left the house about 3:30 to go practice in the school band room. My sister said he went right out of the drive way on his bike when he should have went left to go to the school. She didn't think much about it though. When the asshole got home he asked where their son was and my sistert told him she didn't really know. This ass-wipe gets in the car and drives straight to the girls house (her mother doesn't get home until about 6). He walks right into her house and starts yelling for his son to come out. The girl walks out of the bathroom wearing nothing but a towel and tells them she's just getting into the shower. She tells them she hasn't seen the boy, so they leave and start searching the yard for his bike. The boys best friend lives next door, so they go over there to drill him. No one has seen him.

When they get back home the phone is ringing when they walk in. It was the boy frantically wanting to know where they have been because he has been calling and calling. He makes up a story about where he has been and sticks to it.

To get to the bottom of it, in his usual nazi fashion, my brother in law taps the phone. Sure enough.....the boy was at the girls house....in the bathroom, where he had just had sex for the first time in his life. He had hidden his bike in the bedroom of his friends house because he knew his nazi dad would probably come looking for him.

My brother in law plans to set him down and tell him everything tonight.....that he knows, that he tapped the phone and everything. This is a guy that when my nephew was little did NOT want him believing in santa clause. His parents also believed that "you should not lie to your kids, and it is traumatic when they find out"......so what they did......when he was 5 they blindfolded him, set him in the floor, got his present from santa and set it down in front of him and took a picture. A few years later they showed him the picture for a big ha ha.

This kid is going to be ruined for life. He has already stated that he hates his dad and will leave and not come back when he turns 18. Now, one of his most milestone moments of growing up is going to turn into a bad memory.....a memory of shame and disgust.

God bless good republican values.

Wow! I really feel sorry for your nephew...that is a tough story. The father obviously has some serious self esteem issues -- the guy is on a power trip!! I hope your nephew turns our ok.

I have to add one thing. Your comment about taking the "easy way out" by joining the Navy bugs me. My father was a career Navy man and, believe me, there is nothing easy about that. Don't judge all Navy "lifers" from your brother in law. My father and his golf buddies -- all "lifers"---absolutely despise George Bush.

he told me that he joined the navy for the easy way out. Never had any intentions of doing dirty work.

Also, I know quite a few "lifers", and though I would never choose that route for my life, I respect them and don't think it's the "easy way out". Our military could not work without the lifers.

Anyway, it truly is sad that this guy can't give the kid a bit of trust - not to mention a little credit for using judgment about when is the right time for him to start being with girls. Let's at least hope they take precautions.

I've seen a 16 year-old friend of my daughter's get into drugs and get pregnant at 16 because of rebeling against her ultra-religious parents.

Me? I'm an atheist and have a wonderful relationship with my 17 year-old daughter. She's never smoked, never done drugs, never drank alcohol and hasn't had sex yet.

Would this be considered child abuse, or are there incidents that authorities would agree would be?

In any case, there may be a day where he will be calling you because you're the only one he can turn to for help and refuge.

I hope he doesn't follow his dad into the military...

Hopefully birth control and disease prevention will be included in the conversation.