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she and her family chose to keep her at home (a rented apartment--one of the daughters lived in the apartment right next door to it--and they apologized to the apartment owner a million times for having her die in the apartment--while the apartment owner that the important thing was not the apartment but the caring of XXXXX). Anyhow, She chose, and the family accepted with the help of the HOSPICE nurses, to keep her comfortable and at home--and they took turns caring for her, and letting her live life as comfortable as possible, for as long as she could possible, and then helping her to die as painlessly as she possibly could.
This is from her memorial service a few months after her death.
"OH, ONLY FOR SO SHORT A WHILE, YOU HAVE LOANED US TO EACH OTHER, BECAUSE WE TAKE FORM ON YOUR ACT OF DRAWING US, O GOD. AND WE TAKE LIFE IN YOUR PAINTING US, AND WE BREATHE IN YOUR SINGING US. BUT ONLY FOR A SHORT WHILE, HAVE YOU LOANED US TO EACH OTHER."
This too from her memorial remembrance card:
GOD SAW YOU WERE GETTING TIRED, AND A CURE WAS NOT TO BE, SO HE PUT HIS ARMS AROUND YOU AND WHISPERED, "COME TO ME".
WITH TEARFUL EYES WE WATCHED YOU, AND SAW YOU PASS AWAY. ALTHOUGH WE LOVED YOU DEARLY, WE COULD NOT MAKE YOU STAY.
A GOLDEN HEART STOPPED BEATING, HARD WORKING HANDS AT REST, GOD BROKE OUR HEARTS TO PROVE TO US, HE ONLY TAKES THE BEST.
And this TIME OF RECONCILIATION, ALSO FROM HER MEMORIAL SERVIE.
Loving God, we have shared in the life of this good person, We have shared joys and sorrows, sickness and health. We ask for forgiveness for any lack on our part, for the times when we may have failed her. We forgive her for any hurt or sadness she may have caused us. Lord, keep her in your embrace. We ask too, that you fill us with your peace, peace of heart, mind and soul. Give us the grace to continue to live our lives, in a manner that is pleasing to you. AMEN.
(I think there is so much about the dying process the schiavo parents are needing to learn--as well as the right wing fringe...and if the hospice in which terry schiavo is, is not helping them to do that... then i really question what kind of a place that hospice is really about).
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