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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:00 PM
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Why all the anger against gay people for standing up for themselves?
David Shuster on MSNBC today said that the DOJ brief compared same sex marriages with incest and pedophelia and that many people were angry about it.

The NY times said the same thing in its lead editorial yesterday.

Are we going to throw both of them away too?

You have to come to grips with the fact that the brief was odious on many levels. My primary complaint with it is that it tried to legally argue the case in a way that deliberately tries to weaken some of the strongest constitutional arguments against DOMA.

It's not too late to turn the ship around. GLAD's case and the Olsen case will both have responses coming from the DOJ and we will see how, and if, they defend DOMA with these much stronger suits.

President Obama made a good, small start today by linking DOMA to the denial of spousal benefits for federal workers and by reiterating his desire to "work with Congres" (so let's get over the argument that's its entirely Congress' job) to repeal it.

The reason Obama spoke out today is because a valued and important constituency in the Democratic party has been putting the pressure on both his administration, the COngress and the DNC.

Gay leaders, the media, bloggers, even gay rights organizations all have been expressing their anger, some levelheaded, some more heatedly.

It would be nice if, instead of the non-stop hostility some here throw at us, you would have our backs.

Obama is an adult. He knows what we're doing and he knows some of us are going to be loud and confrontational at times while we're doing it. You don't need to see it through a filter of the gays vs. Obama.

Remember FDR: "I agree with you. Now make me do it."

That's exactly what we're doing.
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HiFructosePronSyrup Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:02 PM
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1. I think most people are angered at the lying.
And liars like David Shuster.

I think gay people can stand up for themselves without being lying sacks of shit like David Shuster.
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:43 PM
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24. Just my impression...

But it doesn't seem to me that you have a real strong sense of what gay people can, ought, are or should be doing.

Not to mention, you don't seem very rigorous in your use of the word "lying."

The reaction to the DOJ references to incest and pedo was not unanimous, but quite widespread. To call this reaction a "lie" seems... um, a bit dishonest itself, no?

:hi:

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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 10:38 PM
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52. Neither "incest" nor "pedophilia" occurs in the brief
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 11:46 PM
Response to Reply #52
62. No, of course not. Not in any way, shape or form.

Keep telling yourself that. :hi:

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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 11:59 PM
Response to Reply #62
65. Let me suggest this to you. Lots of people would be happy to see DADT, DOMA, and the various
state constitutional amendments rolled back. There are other pieces of the puzzle that require work, also, such as anti-bullying bills, hate crimes legislation, partner benefits legislation, and so on

The politics of this deserves serious examination -- and that includes ideas about what soundbites work and information about who the opponents of equality are and what they are currently doing

So there's quite a lot that could be productively posted on related issues, that would educate people and arm them for political fights at the local, state, and federal levels

Mere angry noise only goes so far -- and unless it is used in a surgical manner, it can rapidly become counter-productive, especially if it is not very factual

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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:05 AM
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67. I'm not certain I see your point. Do you honestly feel...

... that the GLBT community and its many allies have neglected this work on the local, state and federal levels?

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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:47 AM
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72. I'm pretty sure anyone can understand what I just wrote without much difficulty
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:49 AM
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73. H'okay. I'll just mark you down under "moving goalposts"...

... and call it a night. G'night! :hi:

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jumptheshadow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:32 AM
Response to Reply #65
80. Mere angry noise
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 06:38 AM by jumptheshadow
You really don't understand how much money we contribute to Democratic politicians and causes, do you? We are one of the first communities they turn to when they announce their run for election. The invitations to cocktail fundraisers from well-known gay figures start right away.

I say, yes, make a surgical strike, and eliminate all donations to any politician or Democratic cause that is not 100 percent behind our goals. Actually, it would be more than a surgical strike. It would be a kick in the balls. We will be speaking from a position of strength then, and the homophobic remarks about "whiners" and "poutrage" and "people having their fun" would stop when the insensitive types realize just how much power we can wield.

I would target any politician who campaigned on one stand and then revoked it when he or she won office. I would also target any politician who deleted text about campaign promises to GLBTs on their website after they gained office.

By your remarks, I see that don't understand how tirelessly many gay people have worked have to educate and contribute to their communities, do you? And how active so many of us are in politics and/or community service? GLBT leaders have been working almost around the clock to identify and fund gay and allied politicians, organize fundraising, use the clout of gay-owned and gay-friendly businesses, create community-based education campaigns. Where have you been?

By the way, the incest and pedophilia things weren't the issues that alarmed me. The argument about our rights costing money infuriated me, given all that we contribute and pay inequitably in taxes. The deliberate attempt to set precedents to weaken future cases infuriated me. Part of me believes this was one last Rovian right-wing dirty trick and that it was aimed at derailing the President's support during the healthcare debate. Rahm, et al, were dumb enough not to have figured out how it could happen and were clueless when it came to organizing a response.


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Raster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:35 AM
Response to Reply #80
101. Thank you Sister Woman!
:yourock:
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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 10:50 PM
Response to Reply #80
200. I certainly wouldn't presume to tell you how to spend your money
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:34 AM
Response to Reply #62
76. Please see post 75 nt
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:33 AM
Response to Reply #76
83. It's
not there anymore.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:29 AM
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99. That's because it was so full of rational discussion and reason
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 09:37 AM by merh
it made so much sense and disproved the lies about the "tone" of the brief that another decided to start attacking me and calling me names which resulted in the deletion of the subthread rather than the personal attack posts. The entire purpose behind the name calling

I guess the truth is something some folks cannot handle.

That's pretty damned sad really and thus the reason for the "anger" you refer to in your OP.

To disagree with the folks' conclusion about the brief and the blame of Obama is not homophobia as was alleged in the attacks.



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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:13 PM
Response to Reply #99
191. Sounds like a heckuva post. Sensible, factual, rational...

... and entirely free of the silly emotional trappings and ego-involvement that people often bring to written communications.

Sorry I missed it.
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Zodiak Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:11 PM
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2. Keep doing it
Because it is working.

No one gets anything through silence and cowardice, and that is what Obama's self-appointed cheerleaders counsel.
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:12 PM
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4. Thank you
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billyoc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:12 PM
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3. Two 'A's in GLAAD.
;)
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Neecy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:13 PM
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5. different organization
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:13 PM
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6. there are two of them
Edited on Wed Jun-17-09 07:44 PM by ruggerson
GLAD is gay and lesbian advocates and defenders. They are bringing a very strong DOMA suit.

GLAAD is the defamation group. :)
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jonnyblitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:14 PM
Response to Reply #3
9. nope. there is a gay legal organization with acronym GLAD
out of MA. GLAAD is whole other thing.
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Touchdown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:52 PM
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29. Do they have the blue and yellow make green seal?
:crazy:
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RandomThoughts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:13 PM
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7. Some of the people that are a little perturbed with the 'outrage'.
May be frustrated with it, because although they agree with civil rights issues.

People are dying!

People without health care, people without homes, people without justice.

I am not saying you do not have a cause, but there are important things happening that need support from as many people as possible, I understand frustration, but some things are bigger within certain moments.

And yes I know people in the gay community have suffered abuse, but that is not the issue people are upset about, it is a DOJ report, that was probably written by a Republican with the intent of stirring up the gay community, to use them as they always have, to stop things like health care and regulation and many other things.
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Neecy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:18 PM
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14. the outrage is entirely justified
Just because it doesn't affect your life doesn't mean that it's dumped to the bottom of the pile.

Oh, but now we're just being stirred up by Republicans! The justifications are just mind-boggling around here. Take off the blinders.
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:20 PM
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16. "People without health care, people without homes, people without justice."

Many, many gay and lesbian Americans experience these exact conditions... precisely BECAUSE they are denied the right to marry, or to claim all the protections of marriage.

Marriage equality is PART of the solution to exactly the problems you describe. Marriage equality is part and parcel of our shared societal goal of stability, security and opportunity.

Pres. Obama should make GLBT civil rights a part of his narrative for solving the problems our country faces. Not devalue or demote it as a priority, as your post does.
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PVnRT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:55 AM
Response to Reply #16
81. +1 (n/t)
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:27 PM
Response to Reply #7
18. "but some things are bigger within certain moments" -- glad Dr. King didn't agree
Nor LBJ. Nor Lucy Stone. Nor AIM.
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Chulanowa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:43 PM
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132. You're right.
And then Martin, Lynden, Lucy, and Russel all stopped bitching and moaning, and then got up and put their shoulder to the wagon and pushed it up that hill.

Well, Russel didn't, it kind of rolled over him. But he tried. What have YOU done? All I've seen from you, LostinVA, is constant bitching and insults thrown at people who are on your side. Maybe you could contribute some elbow grease instead of spittle.
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liberation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:22 PM
Response to Reply #132
167. It is the first time I have heard the early actions of MLK described as "bitching and moaning."
Wow... just wow...
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Chulanowa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-20-09 12:07 AM
Response to Reply #167
204. Poor phrasing on my part
Not quite how I intended it :)
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AntiFascist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 08:03 PM
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36. All the more reason for Obama's DOJ not to rock the boat on gay issues...

if they hadn't issued this brief with its particular wording, then gays and lesbians may not have reacted so strongly. Obama has demonstrated that he can certainly walk and chew gum at the same time.
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 08:11 PM
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37. Exactly--this latest blowup has a context.
If that memo had been the one questionable part of an otherwise supportive record, then people would grumble a bit and then move on.

But it comes after a long series of insults and face-slaps broken by very few positives: McClurkin, Caldwell, Warren, the Iowa jokes, etc.
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ZombieHorde Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 11:02 PM
Response to Reply #7
59. "people without justice" = gay people. Do you agree?
I am not saying the only people in the U.S. without justice are gay.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 11:53 PM
Response to Reply #7
64. Yeah, the old "wait yer turn, whippersnappers!"
yawn.
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RandomThoughts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:09 AM
Response to Reply #64
74. Reply to above posters
yes unequal treatment is lack of justice.


The question was why are some people perturbed, I think I answered that question.

Continue marching and advocating, but I think equal effort should be put into so many issues going on right now. Any single issue thing doesn't make much sense to me. But that's just my view. Also I rarely advocate for anything that would actually help me, or any group someone might think I am in, so I think of others through that same lens, so that might be part of it also. Or maybe not being gay is why the issue is less important, if so that would be wrong, since it is a rights issue, but I doubt that is the reason, since most issues I discuss have nothing to do with me. :shrug:

And actually up until a few weeks ago, the counter protests and comments were full of positive uplifting messages, it has gotten a bit angry lately. Just for me, (of coarse I am only one person), but I usually tend to ignore things when they get angry, maybe that's my flaw maybe not, but it is part of why I been thinking less on gay civil rights issues, and more on other issues.

I think it is the edge of hostility in the current comments, even if it might be some form of frustration.

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Bluenorthwest Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:31 AM
Response to Reply #74
82. If this is how you 'advocate' for other groups
perhaps they all would rather see you deal with your own community. The straight community is the source of all the homophobic hate crimes in this nation. Your males are responsible for every woman raped. Your community is in the news daily for utter horrors against your own children.
I think you have lots of work to do in your own wretched, violent community. Get your kind to stop hating us, stop hating their own kids, just get them to stop hating.
The arrogance of a person from a community with the history of your community lecturing others is just so funny. Your energies are of dubious worth. I see the state of your people, and I for one am not crying about your highly conditional 'support'. It is support, heterosexual style, filled with elements of superiority and control. It is not, in fact, support at all. It is a form of bullying behavior. It is a sort of blackmail. It is very much a heterosexual mindset. "I'd like you better if you were more like I want you to be." That is what you are saying. And right back at you!
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RandomThoughts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:06 AM
Response to Reply #82
87. I don't hate you.
And I have no idea why you would think that. I was honest thinking about where I could have fault, and just talking without thinking bad about anyone.

I don't think I was lecturing anyone, I was just explaining how I think, it is not telling people what they should be or how they should post, it was just having a conversation on simple things that effect my thoughts on things.

If I said something untrue or incorrect, please correct me.

I also do not feel superior, nor do I bully, nor do I have anything of some huge value to offer, so I can't blackmail. And I like you just find, I just don't read the threads on GLBT when they get angry. I don't read very many threads of any kind when they get angry, I am not saying you need to be less angry, I am not saying it is important for me to read your threads. I am just answering the OP from my point of view.

It is just something that is true, it also does not make you worse, people get frustrated often. But it is true I don't enjoy threads that get angry. LOL probably because people read things into other post that are not there, mostly just people venting without conversation, since conversation requires accurate view of intent of the original post, not creating some other intent based on ones own current state of mind.

If I was to say anything to you or the community it would be :loveya:

:shrug:
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Bluenorthwest Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:35 AM
Response to Reply #87
90. Where did I say you hated me or anyone?
I did not. You said that I did. I merely offered that the heterosexual community is the community at fault here, and that straight folk who share their thoughts on how we should behave make me think of all the problems in the straight community that such wise people really ought to be able to solve.
I did not say you hated me. I said your community is the one with the problems, the bigots, the violent attacks. I suggested that it might be wise to clean you own house before you lecture you neighbor on theirs. And you claimed I said you 'hate me'. So forcing words into my mouth is uncool. I can and do speak for myself. No one hurled that vicious word 'hate' at you.
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RandomThoughts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:06 AM
Response to Reply #90
94. Associative property.
Your comments about straight people, males, and continual comments with saying those groups hate, and since I am part of those groups, it seemed logical to assume you were talking to me.

You also say I have a mindset that matches the group you are speaking of, so again It is only logical to assume your comments were also directed at me.

:shrug:

I am not going to argue it, your angry at somebody, or you think somebody is messed up and shared that with some strong words, if it is not me it is still somebody, so it is all the same in the end.

Gays are bad or worse then straights, straights are bad or worse then gays, anybody is bad or worse, its all the same. It doesn't get anywhere, it just further divides groups, and the only way gays will get rights is if enough straights realize they deserve them, they wont if they have an excuse to ignore or get mad at gays. Its not fair, but it is part of any minority struggle.

Seriously good luck on things, I hope they work out, all I can really say.
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Bluenorthwest Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 10:12 AM
Response to Reply #94
102. And instead of apologizing for putting words into my mouth
or addressing what I said. Instead you deliver more characterizations and personalized psychological babble about me. Me. Not my community, me. Note that I spoke of your community, because you came to advise my community. I said, gee, why not clean up your own side. I spoke of the two groups, gay and straight. You spoke about me. Big difference. A world of difference.
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RandomThoughts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:19 PM
Response to Reply #102
122. Don't feel any need to apologize, but again I wish you the best.
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:35 PM
Response to Reply #102
178. uh, when you're angry and refers to heteros as "your kind" you basically...
oh forget it.

point is you basically insinuated all heteros look down upon you, that's fucked up.
quit railing against people who are on your side for crying out loud.
:(
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:09 PM
Response to Reply #178
188. There's no such thing as insinuation.

This fact I learned while reading explanations of why the DOJ brief was no biggie.

:hi:

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LooseWilly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-20-09 12:59 AM
Response to Reply #178
205. No, he/she actually just spoke of the community as a whole, as in a body politic.
I am hetero... and at no time did I feel that anything was being insinuated about me. I felt that a judgement of a "community" was being made, one which I had not previously thought of, but which seems valid after some analysis.

The tone I hear in most hetero advice toward the GLBT community is similar to most of the advice that well meaning males try to give to females as to how to achieve gender parity. I have personally stopped trying to tell the community what they should do... instead trying to listen to what they want to do.

People who tell them to wait, are not as "on their side" as they might think they are. People who tell them to "quit railing" are not as on their side as they might think that they are. And becoming defensive when failings in the hetero community (What is the ratio of "partner abuse" in one community vs. the other? What is the rate of incidence of serial killers from one community to the other? What is the problem with acknowledging the statistical implications?)... isn't a sign that one is as on their side as one might like to think...

I guess I am always a little surprised by those who can't seem to separate their personal identity from their "participatory identity" with some group identity or other. I guess I've always thought the difference was self-evident...
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:36 PM
Response to Reply #90
179. t's not the fucking "heterosexual community", it's select dumbasses in the "heterosexual community"
you might not even realize it but you're insulting this poster.
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LooseWilly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-20-09 01:15 AM
Response to Reply #179
206. "Heterosexual Community" is every bit as valid of an arbitrary grouping as "Homosexual Community".
The poster is only being insulted to the extent that he/she is actually guilty of any of the poor behavior that is mentioned.

For instance... I am hetero. Talk of abuse in the "hetero community" is not insulting to me, because I don't personally abuse (well, I suppose a wide enough definition would actually have me me guilty of abuse... in which case I wouldn't be "insulted", I'd be "guilty"). If you feel insulted by such talk... well, I'd suggest that you expend more effort to develop a stronger personal identity, because your ties to your "group identity" are threatening to subsume your individual identity. (presuming, of course, that you aren't guilty of any "abuses")

And it is perfectly reasonable to take any group that you want, as far as I'm concerned, and pool them together and affix the term "community" to that group. The degree of cohesiveness of that "community's" opinions and so on may vary... but statistical analyses are perfectly valid... and in the case of "heterosexual community" and "homosexual community" (and, while we're at it, the "muslim community") one is fabricating such a broad swathed "community" that the whole concept begins to become meaningless... but the sudden flaring of rage in the tone of your post "It's not the fucking "heterosexual community" " suggests that you are uncomfortable with being swept up with your fellow "heterosexuals" (I'm presuming here... but if you weren't part of the community, your sudden flaring rage would be totally incomprehensible)... which I find ironic, as we heteros seem so comfortable, so often, in sweeping up the "GLBT community" into "one big happy family" in our discussions of the topic.

Of course... maybe I'm wrong. Maybe you never use the term "GLBT community", nor any of its permutations... and you never refer to the "black community" or any of its permutations either... and so on.
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susanr516 Donating Member (823 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:16 AM
Response to Reply #82
88. Excellent response
After reading some of the crap on this thread, I am ashamed to admit I'm straight.
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:18 AM
Response to Reply #88
89. It's a common response around here: "I used to support you people, but
one of you was rude to me on a message board, so sorry, I will just give my support to someone else now."

Sounds like weak support, doesn't it?
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RandomThoughts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:12 AM
Response to Reply #89
96. three people upset at my comment.
It should be noted that I did not say I would not believe in equal rights, I said I would not advocate, which just means posting support, which is not much of anything anyway.

It does not change my beliefs, but I probably would not post thoughts on the subject if people are yelling.

But people can yell if they want, it just isn't threads I like to read, I still think in equal rights, just probally wouldn't post about it as much.

I am actually very surprised that three people did not like my comment.

The only reason I posted in this thread was because it was a question about why, not about any issues. In that it made sense to post.

But the irony is funny.
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mtnester Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:21 AM
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110. Believe me, more than 3 people were upset by your comment
only 3 people posted...to paraphrase another poster upthread - BIG difference
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keepCAblue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:31 AM
Response to Reply #96
114. Yes, irony IS funny. The OP was written FOR people like you. N/T
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Sapphocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:07 PM
Response to Reply #96
162. Put me down as another one.
Quite frankly, your emotional blackmail makes me want to puke.

Is that "upset" enough for you? You find that funny?
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GinaMaria Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:10 PM
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177. +1
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:37 PM
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180. superb strawman.
:eyes:
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:07 PM
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187. How is that a strawman?
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:09 PM
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190. i can only speak for myself here, but i never have refered to gays as "you people", nor have been
anything but supportive of equal rights. i think the post was hyperbolic and meant as a broad brush statement. that's all
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:15 PM
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193. So, it was more a synopsis than a strawman, I guess.
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:40 PM
Response to Reply #193
195. no, it's lumping a whole subset of people into a group with no justification
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:09 PM
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196. And which group might that be? n/t
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 10:52 AM
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104. +1. This idea of rights being subject to our "good behavior" is funny.
The other list of horrors are tragic.
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Jamastiene Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:18 PM
Response to Reply #82
152. I wish I could K&R this.
Well said.
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Jamastiene Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:16 PM
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151. People's lives are not a "single issue."
The discrimination affects every aspect of people's lives. I see you are unable or unwilling to put yourself in someone else's shoes long enough to realize that. There are times when it's best to just cut someone loose when they actively refuse to see the damage done to others. It's a shame, but a necessary evil, to realize that some people are just never going to "get it."

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GinaMaria Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:05 PM
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175. Anger is one of the best gifts humans have
it is what moves us to action. It is extremely energizing and needed to combat injustice. No matter what the anger is in response to (abuse, political inequality, nepotism), if we direct the anger at the source, we can move mountains. Humans are amazing like that. Don't fear anger and don't turn away from it in disgust. Many have learned these responses to anger at a young age. Embrace it. It is what gets you up and moving when you are in an unjust situation. It's what gets someone out the door and into a new life when they've been abused. It gives you the energy to reset the scales of justice so there is balance again. The best response to anger is 'bring it on'. We have evolved with this emotion for very good reasons. It is powerful and can quickly mobilize us when we need to take action. I trust people here know how to direct and manage anger to produce positive results. Even if it is just to express it and have it acknowledged.

Stuggles like these take a lot of emotional and intellectual energy. We need our anger if we ever hope to change a damn thing!

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dflprincess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:53 PM
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127. What is more important that all citizens being equal under the law?
It's real easy for us who aren't affected by DOMA or DADT to tell others to be patient, just like it used to be easy for white men to tell women and minorities the time wasn't right and they should be patient.

Yes there are people without health care and homes and I don't see a whole lot of movement towards actually doing anything about those issues either (insurance company protection is not going to help people without healthcare).

I'm not quite sure who all you mean when talking about people who are without justice - certainly you would have to include members of the GLBT community with that group.

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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:04 PM
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128. Thank you. You have beautifully captured what rankles people so much
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 01:08 PM by QC
about how this topic is usually discussed here: the way it typically sounds like privilege talking.

It's infuriating to have someone who has something tell you, who do not have it. that you should "stop whining" and such. It's like rich men sitting at the banquet table discussing how the beggars at their gate are always so angry and how vulgar it is.

Imagine the reaction if choice suffered a major setback, and our party looked the other way, and men on DU responded by ganging up on women here and posting the likes of "you need to get over your pet issues" and "sounds like you didn't get your pony" and the like.

If such a thing happened, of course, it would be shut down right away, but the dwindling GLBT community here has been hearing about ponies and poutrage for going on two years now.
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:26 PM
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168. Silly gays and their pet issues.
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varelse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:43 PM
Response to Reply #127
182. *Nothing* is more important
There is a reason Justice portrayed wearing a blindfold.
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:31 PM
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155. What some of you don't seem to get
People are dying!

LGBT people are dying too, plus we don't have equal rights.


People without health care, people without homes, people without justice.

LGBT people are without health care, homes and justice, plus we don't have equal rights.


We suffer from the same spectrum of problems everyone else does--the poor economy, the healthcare crisis, joblessness, the housing mess, the ongoing war, etc. In addition to that we have marriage inequality, 30 states where we can be denied employment or fired just because we're gay, no federal hate-crimes protection, DADT, significant barriers or outright bans on adoption and more. Anybody who thinks our lives, our needs and our concerns are "one issue" is woefully uninformed.
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Sapphocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:11 PM
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164. And...
...LGBT people can lose their health and their homes (and their livelihood, and their children, and a host of other things that all add up to LIFE) because we have no right to marry.

Half the people who read the above sentence will think it's hyperbole or melodrama. The other half who understand it can explain it to the first group; I won't waste my time.
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alcibiades_mystery Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:13 PM
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8. Activists will anger people
It's a good thing. Keep pushing! Let us all keep pushing!

Massive social change is not easy, and inertia dictates that those advocating for it will encounter resistance.

It's not bad. It's the way things are. But the activists have to keep up the noise, keep pissing people off, keep getting in their face, keep on, keep on keep on. It's the only way shit ever gets done. But nobody need feel sad about it.

That's why it's called a struggle.
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Thrill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:15 PM
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10. Obama said he supports repealing it and urged Congress to get it to him
What else can this guy do about it?
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:20 PM
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15. He can do just what he said
"work with Congress." That entails sending someone down to the Hill to confer with both supportive Senators and House Members to come up with a bill, strategize on how and when to introduce it, and then use the bully pulpit publicly and arm twisting privately to get it up to his desk.

Just like he's doing on a whole host of other issues.
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guruoo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:47 PM
Response to Reply #15
27. Have you lobbied congress today? n/t
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 08:33 PM
Response to Reply #27
40. funny you should ask that
I called my Senator;s office this morning and asked them to co sponsor a bill repealing DADT, since Harry Reid claimed the other day that no one had yet stepped up to the plate.
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guruoo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 09:15 PM
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45. That's the way!
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Nicholas D Wolfwood Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:01 PM
Response to Reply #40
136. That ain't lobbying. (nt)
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 09:31 PM
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49. Have you?
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guruoo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 10:45 PM
Response to Reply #49
55. No...
I'm kind of in the middle of a political burnout right now.
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 11:50 PM
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63. Hmmmm... I'm afraid we don't have a category for that...

... on our constituent-call checklist. :(

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Thrill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:50 PM
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28. How do you know he hasn't already been doing that?
And he used the bully pulpit today
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:58 PM
Response to Reply #15
185. how do you know he isn't?
n/t
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:15 PM
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11. It's primarily a small but vocal band of DUers...

... who object to ANY and ALL criticism, and will say or do ANYTHING to shut any and all criticism down.

Some of them are politically naive, and just lack the perspective that experience brings.

Some seem to be emotionally fragile, and view a criticism of presidential policy as a personal attack upon themselves.

Some are just assholes.

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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:59 PM
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186. at the same time zen there's people who will criticise no matter what. both groups are small but
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 08:10 PM by dionysus
post a lot of OPs
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:20 PM
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194. That's probably true.
Some amount of criticism is inevitable, I would think. It can be heeded or ignored easily enough. It's the cabal of DUers who roam the board to quash ANY criticism who puzzle me.

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billyoc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:17 PM
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12. Oh, hell, GLAD is something else.
Sorry ruggerson! :hi:

http://www.glad.org/

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NYC_SKP Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:17 PM
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13. When it's level-headed, I got your back.
And, when it's not, I still got your back.

I can be pro-animal rights, for example, and still take issue with a PETA campaign or commercial.

I can be pro-GLBT and still disagree with the interpretation or expression by a journalist or an individual poster on a discussion board.

I got your back no matter what you say.

(not you personally, you understand)

Post recommended.

.

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Nicholas D Wolfwood Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:07 PM
Response to Reply #13
137. +1. Well said.
I find it interesting that you used the PETA comparison, because I truly fear that's where the civil rights movement is heading - an oversized PR campaign that accomplishes nothing except driving people away because they don't want to be associated with some of the hyperbole going on.
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:24 PM
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17. As the great Frederick Douglass said:
If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom, and yet depreciate agitation, are men who want crops without plowing up the ground. They want rain without thunder and lightning. They want the ocean without the awful roar of its many waters. This struggle may be a moral one; or it may be a physical one; or it may be both moral and physical; but it must be a struggle.
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:45 PM
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25. A powerful, powerful quote. - n/t
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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 11:40 PM
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60. Douglass was not only a great rhetorician; he had also substantial political skill -- his efforts,
for example, were important in recasting the Civil War as a fight over slavery, rather than as a fight merely to keep the Union intact. He could freely and forcefully disagree with his allies while retaining respect for them and their principles

The President of the United States seems to possess an ever increasing passion for making himself appear silly and ridiculous, if nothing worse. Since the publication of our last number he has been unusually garrulous, characteristically foggy, remarkably illogical and untimely in his utterances, often saying that which nobody wanted to hear, and studiously leaving unsaid about the only things which the country and the times imperatively demand of him ... The argument of Mr. Lincoln is that the difference between the white and black races renders it impossible for them to live together in the same country without detriment to both. Colonization, therefore, he holds to be the duty and the interest of the colored people. Mr. Lincoln takes care in urging his colonization scheme to furnish a weapon to all the ignorant and base, who need only the countenance of men in authority to coinmit all kinds of violence and outrage upon the colored people of the country ... It does not require any great amount of skill to point out the fallacy and expose the unfairness of the assumption, for by this time every man who has an ounce of brain in his head, no matter to which party he may belong, and even Mr. Lincoln himself, must know quite well that the mere presence of the colored race never could have provoked this horrid and desolating rebellion. Mr. Lincoln knows that in Mexico, Central America and South America, many distinct races live peaceably together in the enjoyment of equal rights, and that the civil wars which occasionally disturb the peace of those regions never originated in the difference of the races inhabiting them. A horse thief pleading that the existence of the horse is the apology for his theft or a highway man contending that the money in the traveler's pocket is the sole first cause of his robbery are about as much entitled to respect as is the President's reasoning at this point ...
THE PRESIDENT AND HIS SPEECHES
Douglass' Monthly, September, 1862
http://www.library.rochester.edu/index.cfm?PAGE=4387

... My efforts to secure just and fair treatment for the colored soldiers did not stop at letters and speeches ... Happily for me, there was no vain pomp and ceremony about him. I was never more quickly or more completely put at ease ... Mr. Lincoln asked me to state particulars. I replied that there were three particulars which I wished to bring to his attention. First, that colored soldiers ought to receive the same wages as those paid to white soldiers. Second, that colored soldiers ought to receive the same protection when taken prisoners, and be exchanged as readily and on the same terms as any other prisoners, and if Jefferson Davis should shoot or hang colored soldiers in cold blood the United States government should, without delay, retaliate in kind and degree upon Confederate prisoners in its hands. Third, when colored soldiers, seeking "the bubble reputation at the cannon's mouth," performed great and uncommon service on the battle-field, they should be rewarded by distinction and promotion precisely as white soldiers are rewarded for like services ... He began by saying that the employment of colored troops at all was a great gain to the colored people; that the measure could not have been successfully adopted at the beginning of the war; that the wisdom of making colored men soldiers was still doubted; that their enlistment was a serious offense to popular prejudice; that they had larger motives for being soldiers than white men; that they ought to be willing to enter the service upon any condition; that the fact that they were not to receive the same pay as white soldiers seemed a necessary concession to smooth the way to their employment at all as soldiers, but that ultimately they would receive the same ... On the second point, in respect to equal protection, he said the case was more difficult. Retaliation was a terrible remedy, and one which it was very difficult to apply; that, if once begun, there was no telling where it would end; that if he could get hold of the Confederate soldiers who had been guilty of treating colored soldiers as felons he could easily retaliate, but the thought of hanging men for a crime perpetrated by others was revolting to his feelings ... In all this I saw the tender heart of the man rather than the stern warrior and commander-in-chief of the American army and navy, and, while I could not agree with him, I could but respect his humane spirit ... On the third point he appeared to have less difficulty, though he did not absolutely commit himself. He simply said that he would sign any commission to colored soldiers whom his Secretary of War should commend to him. Though I was not entirely satisfied with his views, I was so well satisfied with the man and with the educating tendency of the conflict that I determined to go on with the recruiting ...
Frederick Douglass
"Chapter XI. Secession and War," Life and Times of Frederick Douglass, Written by Himself, 1892
http://mac110.assumption.edu/aas/Manuscripts/douglass.html

...I have said that President Lincoln was a white man, and shared the prejudices common to his countrymen towards the colored race. Looking back to his times and to the condition of his country, we are compelled to admit that this unfriendly feeling on his part may be safely set down as one element of his wonderful success in organizing the loyal American people for the tremendous conflict before them, and bringing them safely through that conflict. His great mission was to accomplish two things: first, to save his country from dismemberment and ruin; and, second, to free his country from the great crime of slavery. To do one or the other, or both, he must have the earnest sympathy and the powerful cooperation of his loyal fellow-countrymen. Without this primary and essential condition to success his efforts must have been vain and utterly fruitless. Had he put the abolition of slavery before the salvation of the Union, he would have inevitably driven from him a powerful class of the American people and rendered resistance to rebellion impossible. Viewed from the genuine abolition ground, Mr. Lincoln seemed tardy, cold, dull, and indifferent; but measuring him by the sentiment of his country, a sentiment he was bound as a statesman to consult, he was swift, zealous, radical, and determined...
Oration in Memory of Abraham Lincoln
Frederick Douglass
April 14, 1876
Delivered at the Unveiling of The Freedmen’s Monument in Memory of Abraham Lincoln
Lincoln Park, Washington, D.C
http://teachingamericanhistory.org/library/index.asp?documentprint=39
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Starry Messenger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:28 PM
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19. Didn't you get the memo?
You're not making it fun enough. :sarcasm:
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Patsy Stone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:29 PM
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20. Citizen action is the strongest motivator for change.
Call, write, keep the issue on the front burner. People need to do anything in their power to keep fighting the good fight.

He has always said he wants us to hold his feet to the fire. I think he means it.
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Laughing Mirror Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:33 PM
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21. The people that would deny us equal rights are afraid of us
It is of course irrational fear and so is madness.

It is a madness that affects a lot of people, including, unfortunately, our president. There is a cure for this madness, however. But only if the mad patient wants to be cured.



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solstice Donating Member (278 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:35 PM
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22. Some people are very threatened that not all of us worship Obama. Gay people are currently the
main scapegoats here by the Obama-can-do-no-wrong crowd because gay people's (and plenty of straight people's, too) have a less than overwhelmingly grateful attitude to the stale moldy breadcrumbs that Obama threw today. Gay people are living proof that Obama plays politics with vulnerable peoples' lives.

And his worshippers of course can't cricize HIM, so they go after anyone who points it out.
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:55 PM
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183. worship...hoooooookay.
:eyes:
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NorthCarolina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:36 PM
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23. K&R n/t
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Rosa Luxemburg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:46 PM
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26. what other President has really embraced gay rights?
for some this is like navigating a minefield politically.

when people of all persuasions are pulling Obama in every concievable direction it is difficult for him. However I do feel that things are starting to move in favor of gay rights behind the scenes albeit very slowly.
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geek tragedy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:53 PM
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31. embraced? read that DOJ memo again.
You don't embrace gay rights by opposing them.

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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:59 PM
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34. What other president has held office in a climate so favorable to gay rights?

I understand what you're saying, I really do. But I think there's a flaw in that argument.

And that is the fact that, here in the year 2009, there is a level of societal support for GLBT equality that is unprecedented. So it makes comparisons to previous presidents less useful.

IMO, there's less need for slow, behind-the-scenes work than at any point in history. I'd like to see Pres. Obama embrace the here-and-now momentum more boldly, and put it to good use.

And that doesn't mean a barrage of legislation, necessarily (tho I'd welcome it). I think it would be incredibly valuable if Pres. Obama simply spoke out more forcefully when the occasion presents.

His silence on Prop 8 was unfortunate. But his silence on the achievement of marriage equality in Iowa, Vermont and New Hampshire was much worse, IMO: It was a lost opportunity.

That was a rare and precious moment of transformation, and it pains me that he let it go by. That he didn't seize the opportunity to energize and strengthen the trend in a way that he, uniquely, could have.

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Rosa Luxemburg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:27 PM
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169. I think there will be still time
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 06:28 PM by Rosa Luxemburg
there's more chance of getting something done now. Keep the pressure on.
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jonnyblitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 08:01 PM
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35. the only thing gay Obama "embraces" is gay campaign
contributions.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:10 AM
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69. And he won't be embracing mine ever again. n/t
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:52 PM
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30. I'm not angry. I think Obama is feeling the heat, and he should. nt
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zeemike Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:54 PM
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32. The only thing that angers me is
When someone takes an opposing view they get jumped on and accused of being all kinds of things including homophobic.

It becomes attack the messenger no matter what the message is as long as it is not 100 percent agreement.
That I will admit upsets me, because at a time when it is so critical that we come together we are being divided for small petty reasons....
Now I know some will jump on that and say "is my civil rights petty" You're just a homophobias and should be banded from posting at DU.
That is bulling and I don't like bullies.
Just because we disagree on some things does not mean we are not all in this together, and it does not make us enemies.
And I fear that the right wing will see a crack and drive the wedge into it...they always have and always will.

some of us have the benefit of seeing it all happen before in the peace movement in an earlier time.
The method is simple...Promote the most radical among the group and when they are in a position of leadership the pragmatist bail out.
That is what the FBI did in the 60s and it worked.
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CakeGrrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 08:14 PM
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38. +1 Why do people fall back on accusations
That those who take any issue with their approach are either: scared of letting people have "XY or Z" :wtf:, or they're afflicted with a mental disorder (double :wtf:), or they just plain hate "Your demographic here".

I realize those accusations come from a place of emotion, but people do have the power to think before they lob their message board cyber-grenades.
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 08:21 PM
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39. Thank you. That's what angers me also.
I'm not angry that people are standing up and demanding full equality for same-sex couples. That they DON'T have the same rights as my husband and I do is wrong on so many levels. But I have disagreed about the approach to take to some issues (especially DADT), and now have people thinking I'm a homophobe. A disagreement in how to change something is not the equivalent of saying it shouldn't be changed.

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Nicholas D Wolfwood Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:10 PM
Response to Reply #32
138. +1. (nt)
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:57 PM
Response to Reply #32
184. please make that it's own OP
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 07:57 PM by dionysus
:thumbsup:
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Mass Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 07:56 PM
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33. Part of the hostility is from the same people who object to the mildest criticism of Obama.
They claim they are big fan of him, but seem to misunderstand what he said when he said it was to US to make things change and that he could not do it himself.

Continue to fight for what you need. It is how things move.
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keepCAblue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:35 AM
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115. Angry cheerleaders.
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 08:34 PM
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41. There's no anger from me for standing
up for civil rights..it comes from the hatin' on Obama and I don't mean criticizing him. I mean the gratuitious hate in posts that have nothing to do with reality.
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 08:44 PM
Response to Reply #41
42. that's just part of the process
like I said, Obama is an adult and he knows what is at stake here. He also knows what kind of passions these issues arouse. There are always going to be people whom you feel are over the top. Malcolm X played a pretty good bad cop scenario to MLK's good cop. Many people thought Act Up was outrageous and too aggressive, but guess what? Lots of people with HIV owe their lives to Act Up, as they almost single handedly pushed the government and pharma companies into addressing the epidemic.

People who piss other people off always play a vital role in activist movements. And they're often the reason a movement succeeds.
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 09:07 PM
Response to Reply #42
43. Sorry, I ain't buyin' the
hate.
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 09:21 PM
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46. hate
is in the eye of the beholder.
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 09:24 PM
Response to Reply #46
47. I know gratuitious hate when
I see it and I'm not okay with it on this board.
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 09:30 PM
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48. Well we'll have to disagree
I'm more concerned with people getting their equal rights under the constitution than if someone gets overheated and angry (on a message board) with a politician.
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 09:35 PM
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50. Hate is not the right way to go
about it. I want civil rights for all, too..but leave out the stupid hate.

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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 10:28 PM
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51. I think the problem arises when all criticism is labelled hate.

There's certainly been too much of that going on, IMO.

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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 10:39 PM
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53. Yeah, but I'm not talking about All Criticism..
I've been on this board enough to know criticism from hate and I'm not the only one who has noticed..it's there and gratuitiously so.

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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 10:41 PM
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54. It's also a problem when people who are responsible for so much of the hate
around here claim to be shocked and horrified by the atmosphere that they have done so much to create.

I am reminded of Captain Renault, who was shocked, shocked, to find that there was gambling at Rick's.
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Zenlitened Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:00 AM
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66. Very true, sadly. :(
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Guy Whitey Corngood Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:28 AM
Response to Reply #54
113. Hey what's with the hate you damn hatin' hater?
:evilgrin:
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:12 PM
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120. It's amazing how many world-class flamewarriors are playing the affronted virgin today!
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 12:13 PM by QC
They are just devastated by the poisonous atmosphere that they devote their every waking moment to creating.
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mitchtv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:13 PM
Response to Reply #50
150. you're talking of course about the brief filed by the DOJ?
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guruoo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 10:47 PM
Response to Reply #42
56. You're right....
BTDT!
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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 10:52 PM
Response to Reply #42
58. An intelligent activist movement has well-defined objectives, other than name-calling
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goclark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:33 PM
Response to Reply #42
123. It's not part of my process ~
On this issue, at DU, "Once Friends" are made to be the Enemy IMO.

I would love to consider myself as a FRIEND but all I see is hate and anger and it seems that whatever I say to be part of the solution will be taken as Wrong or " Pro Obama" or stupid and not understood.

I didn't want to post this but I will -- I'm saddened that it will be taken the wrong way, but I'll give it one last try.

I am a Progressive Democrat.
I am African American. I Marched with Dr. King and understood how important it was for him to gain friends of all creeds and colors.

Dr. King and the Civil Rights movement could not have happened by screaming at the enemy, they did it by courting the so called "enemy" -- the White Man in America.

Martin and Malcolm were really Dear Friends. Their daughters wrote an excellent Play regarding their relationshop.

Who is the MLK and who is the Malcolm in the Gay Rights struggle today?

I have always strongly supported Gay rights.
I am not Gay but I had a close relative that was and I remain supportive in her Memory as well. With every fiber of my being I support Justice for ALL.

I am NOT the Enemy in this struggle for Justice. Others on this Board that have joined together for many a political struggle are not the enemy.

Most of us that get screamed and cursed out here ar not the Enemy. Obama is not the Enemy. If anyone can make this happen, it is Obama and concerned Progressive Democrats (that would include ME) and yet,we are now "The Enemy" and are subjected to hate posts and #%# responses.

Rodney King said it best " Can't We All Get Along!"

Let me know when it is possible for me to join in the solution and I will be more than willing to March for this critical issue.

Speak to me as a Friend and I am with you all the way.

goclark
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Nicholas D Wolfwood Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:25 PM
Response to Reply #42
140. I think you're learning the wrong lessons from history.
Kind of like how Republicans believe that it was our shows of strength and intimidation that averted a nuclear crisis. The truth is, it was Kennedy showing understanding and patience that allowed other people to stop acting like animals backed into a corner and actually act reasonably.

The only way anger and violence wins is if you have the power to literally force others into submission. Otherwise, it has never elicited a positive reaction. Hell, just think about your own personal relationships. Has yelling at anyone actually caused someone to think rationally in your life without getting to the point of forcing them to submit to your will?
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:40 PM
Response to Reply #140
141. You're only picking up on one side of what I said
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 03:51 PM by ruggerson
Good cop/bad cop means just that. I didn't say just bad cop. I witnessed Act Up firsthand, and how they complemented groups such asAMFAR, which attempted to mollify and reason with and cajole politicians as more of a traditional, "responsible" advocacy group. Looking back, Act Up provided the urgency and the sense of emergency, mostly through grass roots organizations and provocation. And, trust me, the PR and the stunts used were extremely confrontational - such as throwing red paint inside St. Pats during Mass. But guess what? They made the front pages of the Post, the NEws and the Times. And when they chained themselves outside the FDA, they made the front page of the Wash Post. And, in the end, they made it possible for "reasonable" and more establishment groups, like AMFAR, to be welcomed into Congressional suites and have their cases heard and acted upon.

Regardless, this is a message board. It reflects the reality of what is occurring outside in the world quite well sometimes, and at other times it is completely divorced from it.
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Nicholas D Wolfwood Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:45 PM
Response to Reply #141
142. I certainly agree with your last line.
As far as the first part, I'm failing to see any prominent "good cop" from within the GLBT community. I'd be happy to serve the good cop role, but as I'm straight, that usually only nets you a "homophobe" label around here.
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:56 PM
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145. Then you haven't been paying attention to the HRC and Joe Salmanese
who was at the signing yesterday and then appeared on Olbermann afterwards. Despite the fact that Keith kept trying to get him to show anger and impatience with the administration, he consistently refused to do so. He is the epitome of the traditional, inside the beltway politician. HRC is as establishment as they come and they are very rarely overly-critical of the WH or the President. Joe wrote a relatively restrained but impassioned letter after the DOJ brief, but the telling thing is that he showed up, and obviously was invited to, the little ceremony last night.
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Nicholas D Wolfwood Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:40 PM
Response to Reply #145
159. You're right - I didn't see it.
It's a shame that these folks don't get more play. Chalk one up to a bloodthirsty media that is fueled by nothing more than conflict. Thank you for bringing it to my attention.
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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 10:50 PM
Response to Reply #41
57. Bingo. It sounds like a rightwing wedge-issue festival here sometimes

I'm fine with people criticizing Obama, but it's only useful if the criticisms are factually accurate and thoughtful -- and too often that's not the case
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:17 AM
Response to Reply #57
108. Thank you, and
you're right about this.. "It sounds like a rightwing wedge-issue festival here sometimes."

Which is ironic since we're all on the same side..but it comes from the gratuitious hate on the president, who a lot of us love.
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Hamlette Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 09:08 PM
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44. It is wrong but most of us here waited a long time for equal rights
imperfect as they are and learned patience. Yes, it is wrong. True, it shouldn't take ANY time to right a wrong. I'm not defending it.

Think about how long it took blacks...from the beginning of time until 1964 and by no means are they treated equally.

And women? We still don't have our amendment and are paid 62 cents for each dollar a man earns in the same job.

Not that many years ago the gay community did not want gay marriage. In the 70s and 80s. They thought it was selling out. And until more came out of the closet it was easy to be overlooked.

It comes in fits and starts. I remember 1993 and what happened to Bill Clinton for taking on gays in the military. Many gays hate him for what he did but it was the first time in the history of this country that a president stood up and said "it is wrong". He was eaten alive. We lost the house the next year in large part because of that.

I will stand with you and man the barricades if necessary but I don't expect it to come quickly. But it will come.

I'm just saying.
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AntiFascist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:47 PM
Response to Reply #44
143. I disagree with your comment that the gay community did not want gay marriage in the 70s and 80s....

I had a gay marriage ceremony in the early to mid 80s and proudly wore my ring. I felt it was particularly symbolic being colored with red, white and blue tinted gold. My understanding is that gay unions and rituals have been happening throughout history, they just haven't gotten talked about very much.

Also, by no means did most of us "hate" Clinton for DADT. That word seems to be getting thrown around a lot here lately. We hated the action of compromise that resulted in DADT, but we were ever hopeful that Clinton might eventually act to turn it around, which is why many of us demonstrated. In the same way, we may hate some of the actions taken, or not taken, by Obama and his administration, but that does not prevent us from being hopeful about what is possible within the next few years. In the meantime, many of us will continue voicing our anger in order to get something done.
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Hamlette Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:08 PM
Response to Reply #143
148. I was not as precise as I should have been
I knew that there was a divide in the gay community re: marriage in the 70s and 80s. I ran with the crowd that opposed it but I knew others favored it. It was hotly debated then.

It would have been more accurate for me to say not all gays wanted gay marriage in the 70s and 80s.
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Lord Helmet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-17-09 11:44 PM
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61. I call it impatience with an edge.
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:09 AM
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68. You make excellent and rational points. n/t
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Proud Liberal Dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:29 AM
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70. I've been avid straight supporter of the GLBT community
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 12:33 AM by Proud Liberal Dem
I also share the same goals of ridding our society of anti-gay bigotry by getting rid of anachronistic laws such as DADT, DOMA, etc. That being said, I have a hard time understanding the intense level of outright contempt and hatred for President Obama expressed by many here at DU over the past few days, the most recent outrage being a legal action taken by the DOJ that, by law, he had nothing to do with and that the DOJ was obligated to fulfill. We can all agree that DOMA is an awful law and needs to be gotten rid of and we can all agree that the arguments made in the "brief" were despicable but the DOJ has to defend DOMA in court regardless of the administration's position on the issue. Until or unless Obama comes out and says that he believes DOMA is a good law and/or endorses the views articulated in the DOJ brief, I'm not personally worried about it myself. The way that a lot of people here (and elsewhere) are discussing THAT topic, however, makes it seem as though President Obama is advocating for and/or has endorsed the aforementioned laws when he has, in fact, repeatedly endorsed the REPEAL of those aforementioned laws- although, regrettably, he has no power to repeal them himself.

I don't believe that people here are being punished here for standing up for themselves (or anything else for that matter). However, I think at least some of us here are just a bit puzzled and concerned by the way that President Obama seems to have been made the scapegoat for all of the problems and injustices faced by GLBT persons, as well as being made responsible for (somehow) singlehandedly correcting them all yesterday. It's also hard for me and probably some other people here to understand how in the world some people here are already be making the case for supporting an even more GLBT-friendly (is there one?) primary opponent against him in 2012, labeling his Presidency a "failure" after (I hate to say it but it's true) nearly five months in office, or as is more often the case, simply accusing President Obama of reneging on his campaign promises regarding GLBT issues when his positions haven't even changed AFAIK. Some people talk a lot here about him failing to provide "leadership" for getting DADT and DOMA repealed but, until there is a bill for him to fight for, he really can do nothing more than what he's already done. Also, as I pointed out earlier, he cannot just "get rid" of laws he doesn't like nor can he tell the DOJ what laws they're going to defend or not going to defend (or even how they're going to defend them). If he (or any other President) did either or both of those things, then I'd have no choice but to demand his impeachment for such a gross abuse of power. Additionally, except for same-sex marriage (which seems like it is ultimately going to be decided state-by-state for right now), President Obama seems to have all of the "right" positions on GLBT issues. He supports ENDA and he supports repealing DADT and DOMA and he (and Hillary's State Department) is doing everything within the scope of the law and his authority to unilaterally help expand GLBT rights within the federal government. I mean, you can't really ask for somebody better than that for POTUS IMHO. It's almost as if some people here have President Obama's record on GLBT issues seriously confused with previous Presidents like Reagan and Bush II who were infinitely more hostile towards the GLBT community in terms of views and policies than President Obama could EVER be- even on a bad day.

It seems to me that instead of focusing all of this outrage and anger at President Obama- who can realistically do little more than make calls for the repeal of these bigoted laws- for every real or perceived "slight" against the GLBT community and slugging it out with each other here at DU, might it not be a little more productive for all of us to pressure our Congressmen and Congresswomen to take up these issues, specifically pressure some brave soul(s) in Congress to draft bills specifically repealing DADT and DOMA and getting it to President Obama's desk where he can (and will) sign them? :shrug:
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:39 AM
Response to Reply #70
71. The gay leadership HAS been working with the WH, as have individuals
we have worked, e-mailed, telephoned, donated, voted, canvassed.

"... for every real or perceived "slight" against the GLBT community and slugging it out with each other here at DU, might it not be a little more productive for all of us to pressure our Congressmen and Congresswomen to take up these issues..." - Proud Liberal Dem

And there is a bill in Congress on the desk of our politicians - HR1283.

And there is a bill for equal domestic benefits.

"I am also proud to announce my support for an important piece of legislation introduced in both Houses of Congress last month -- the Domestic Partners Benefits and Obligations Act of 2009. This legislation will extend to the same-sex partners of Federal employees the same benefits already enjoyed by the opposite-sex spouses of Federal employees. The legislation has a number of co-sponsors in both Houses of Congress, but among those many sponsors, I want to recognize one in particular -- Representative Tammy Baldwin, who has been a real leader on this issue, and more broadly on the LGBT struggle for equality. Representative Baldwin, I look forward to working with you to achieve the important objectives set out in this bill as it moves through the legislative process. I also look forward to working with the bill's Senate champions, Senators Lieberman and Collins; I know that they will approach this process with the same spirit of cooperation in pursuit of our shared goals that they bring to all of their work in the Senate." - President Obama today.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:47 AM
Response to Reply #70
85. To boil that all down:
The buck stops somewhere else.
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AspenRose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:57 AM
Response to Reply #85
92. Exhibit A.
That person typed out a well-reasoned post that was worthy of respectful dialogue, whether you agreed with the premise or not.

THIS kind of dismissive, snarky response to that kind of post is what pisses people off. THIS is what many on DU are angry about.
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:06 AM
Response to Reply #92
93. I know what you mean about dismissive, snarky posts.
Like when people post heartfelt, sincere explanations of their hopes and fears and the Pep Squad shrieks at them about poutrage and ponies.

Some of us have been putting up with that for well over a year now.
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AspenRose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:09 AM
Response to Reply #93
95. Exhibit B.
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 09:11 AM by AspenRose
This example includes name-calling and broadbrush attacking of a group.

This, also, contributes to the anger and does nothing to foster respectful discourse.

We could do this all day. I still have your back, though.
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:12 AM
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97. Do you honestly deny that the GLBT members of DU have been shouted down, again and again,
when they have attempted to speak for themselves?

Do you really deny that "poutrage" and "you must not have gotten your pony" have been catchphrases around here for over a year?

If so, then you would make an excellent exhibit for a discussion of utter cluelessness.
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AspenRose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:30 AM
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100. That's not what Ruggerson is asking.
Ruggerson is asking why there is anger. I'm pointing out examples why.

Ruggerson's question was not whether there has been a denial of the GLBT group being shouted down time and time again. That's YOUR question, and the obvious answer is yes, of course there has.

Do I think that's right? Of course not. And many, many people here agree with me. We're not arguing with you and we don't deny that this has been going on.

Being so blinded with anger at *everyone* due to the persistent actions of a *few,* however, is never constructive, no matter what "side" of the issue you're on.

Frankly, I'm tired of the snark on BOTH sides. And yes it occurs on BOTH sides. Ruggerson is asking for examples of why people here are angry. For a lot of people (I'd venture the majority), it has nothing to do with wanting to deny anyone anything, or saying people can't stand up for themselves. It has EVERYTHING to do with the more emotional elements on both sides of the debate hijacking rational discourse and burning it down to the ground.

Many of us don't appreciate being targets of, or punching bags for, anger we didn't stoke in the first place. It's turned into mob rioting in here; people arbitrarily destroying allies that are in their way because they're angry, and then feeling justified about the damage they've caused because they're angry. The anger is understandable; not accepting responsibility for the damage caused in the wake of unrestrained anger is not.

But again, I still have your back (though you call me clueless).
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:22 AM
Response to Reply #100
111. You have no right to be angry at OUR anger over this
Having anger at us is very telling -- you should have compassion. YOU should have the same anger WE do.

We are not the ones lacking.
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:58 AM
Response to Reply #97
118.  Domestic Partners Benefits and Obligations Act of 2009 + HR 1283
were mentioned in reply to the gay communities need to get Congressional action and something on their desk.

Notice how there was no reply nor support for those bills voiced?
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:21 AM
Response to Reply #92
109. They are angry because we aren't taking it anymore
Too abd if "teh angry gays" piss you off. Boohoo
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:58 PM
Response to Reply #92
146. I just summed up what it said.
Was my summary inadequate? Or do I need to add a "beg pardon" before every post?
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Proud Liberal Dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 10:58 AM
Response to Reply #85
105. Insofar as we are talking about President Obama's ability to "legislate" or litigate
repeals of laws he does not like: Yes
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:10 PM
Response to Reply #105
163. So what were the campaign promises based on?
"I promise to do something I cannot do, because ultimately it's not within my purview."

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Proud Liberal Dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:09 PM
Response to Reply #163
189. Well, he can't repeal laws by EO
Nor can he wage a legal war himself against codified federal law either. From what I can recall, President Obama has continually promised that he would sign a repeal of DADT and DOMA if and when either of them got to his desk. I'm pretty sure he said that he promised to sign ENDA as well if and when that gets to him as well (where is THAT piece of legislation anyway? I haven't heard anything about that one recently) Is this not so? If not, please direct me to the correct information so that I might become better educated. If those were his promises and he fails to honor them, I'm right there with you in denouncing President Obama for breaking his promise.
Also, please explain to me in a paragraph or less exactly how President Obama can repeal either DADT or DOMA and/or get ENDA into law all by himself (but is refusing to do) and I'll be willing to listen. And for the moment, let's set aside this legally dubious DADT-related EO (which appears essentially to be a Bushian "stop-loss" order that most of us protested against when Bush did it for his own reasons) that a lot of people and some organizations are promoting here for a moment.

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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:33 AM
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:49 AM
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:48 AM
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91. I do hope you are not referring to the OP
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:23 AM
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 02:31 AM
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79. If you were angry in Tehran, that would be different.
:sarcasm:

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CTLawGuy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:41 AM
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84. Why the universal anger at Obama?
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 07:46 AM by CTLawGuy
Some around here act like if it wasn't for him GLBTs would have everything they want. It's just not true. He has said he would sign a repeal of DADT and DOMA--that is the president's only real role in the legislative process. Now our job is to get a bill to his desk, and you don't do that by continuing to criticize him and walking out on HIS fundraisers. You do that by putting pressure on Nancy Pelosi and Harry Reid.

Don't let Harry Reid try to dump responsibility on the President. Reid decides what bills get to the floor of the Senate, as Pelosi does for the House.

I also feel Obama is being held to a double standard. Both DADT and DOMA were signed by another Democrat, Bill Clinton. And yet Bill Clinton is not seen as a demon. In fact his wife, who supported DOMA when it was signed and did not at the time of the primary advocate the repeal of it, had a lot of LGBT support. I don't understand the inconsistency.

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zipplewrath Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 10:47 AM
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103. 'Cause he's in charge
He has a much bigger role in the legislative process than you let on. And the aggrivation starts way back with Warren, and really during the debates with the whole "civil unions, not marriage" position. The explanation was that "he has to get elected". I never bought it and I believe he actually opposes unigendered marriage. And then there was prop 8 and his continued silence on the subject. And then there were legislative successes at the state level, and complete silence on the subject. Then he sends a very nice note to a soldier being discharged, declaring his support for the community, but still continues the policy which he can change. Then there was Lt. Choi. Then there was the court brief. And there was all the confusion between the DoD press secretary and Gibbs on the subject. It hasn't been one thing and it isn't about impatience. It is about a series of things and about what he has actually done and said, as well as all the things he has let pass.

And as for inconsistency, _I_ was angry when DADT became the subtitute for what Clinton campaigned upon. And Barney was actually more responsible for that mess than Bill. And I blew a gasket when he signed DOMA. And one of many of my objections to Her candidacy was that she was defending most of that junk.

So what am I doing wrong?

And do I have to explain ALL of this EVERYTIME I criticize Obama?
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CTLawGuy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:19 PM
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130. No he really doesn't have more of a role
read the constitution. Congress can pass a whole law by themselves.

If DADT is statutory law requiring the discharge of gay military members then the president cannot fly in its face. The president cannot just break the law if he disagrees with it.

I give you credit for being consistent re: Clinton. However, many people aren't consistent.
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myrna minx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:53 AM
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86. K&R for this thoughtful essay.
I have your back. Almost everyone I love is gay, so civil rights for LGBTQ is near and dear to me. Even if it wasn't so personal to me, I would still have your back as a civil rights issue for all, because it would be the right thing to do.
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Orsino Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:17 AM
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98. Guilt.
There are no reasons why discrimination survives--only excuses. It's going to take long years of struggle to achieve equality, and those of us who are not working around the clock may not like constant reminders of our failures.
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Phx_Dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:02 AM
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106. Naturally, you've missed the entire point. It has nothing to do with
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 11:06 AM by Phx_Dem
standing up for yourself, which everyone should always do. It's about DEMANDING that your issues take prescence of everything else during a time of economic crisis. It's also about the veiled threats about "bringing him down," and "we got him elected and we can keep him from getting reelected," "he's betrayed us!" and "he's a failure" bullshit I've read on several blogs, including and especially AmericaBlog.

It's been six months for Christ's sake. Can we get health care passed before you all decide to weaken the President to the point he won't get a fucking thing passed, including the legislation you want.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:06 AM
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107. This is why the anger - the deceptive practices of those that
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 11:06 AM by merh
depicted the Smelt brief as they did, that twisted it and distorted the arguments. That used bigoted and flawed assertions to inflame and hurt. The reaction to the negative descriptors without reading and understanding the brief itself.

See Barney Frank's Press Release

“When I was called by a newspaper reporter for reaction to the administration’s brief defending the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act, I made the mistake of relying on other people’s oral descriptions to me of what had been in the brief, rather than reading it first. It is a lesson to me that I should not give in to press insistence that I comment before I have had a chance fully to inform myself on the subject at hand.”

“Now that I have read the brief, I believe that the administration made a conscientious and largely successful effort to avoid inappropriate rhetoric. There are some cases where I wish they had been more explicit in disavowing their view that certain arguments were correct, and to make it clear that they were talking not about their own views of these issues, but rather what was appropriate in a constitutional case with a rational basis standard – which is the one that now prevails in the federal courts, although I think it should be upgraded.”

“It was my position in that conversation with the reporter that the administration had no choice but to defend the constitutionality of the law. I think it is unwise for liberals like myself, who were consistently critical of President Bush’s refusal to abide by the law in cases where he disagreed with it to now object when President Obama refuses to follow the Bush example. It is the President’s job to try to change the law, but it is also his obligation to uphold and defend it when it has been enacted by appropriate processes. It would not be wise, in my judgment, for those of us who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, or who sympathize with the fight for our rights, to argue for a precedent that says that executives who disagreed politically with the purpose of the law should have the option of refusing to defend it in a constitutional case.”

“I strongly opposed DOMA when it was adopted and I will continue to fight for changes. I support very strongly the lawsuit brought by the people at Gay & Lesbian Advocates and Defenders (GLAD) that make the cogent argument that DOMA’s provision denying federal recognition of same-sex marriages blatantly violates the equal protection clause. And I will work with the Obama administration as they have promised to do to enact laws protecting LGBT people from hate crimes, from job discrimination, and from discrimination in the military. I will also be critical when I think inappropriate language is used. But after rereading this brief, I do not think that the Obama administration should be subject to harsh criticism in this instance.”

http://www.house.gov/frank/pressreleases/2009/06-17-09-doma.html


What he writes is what many DUers have been arguing. And when debating the issues, those who do not agree with the negative are then mocked and called homophobes.

I posted earlier that the anger should be directed at those responsible, at those who do hold the negative and hateful views, at those that made DOMA happen and are allowing it to remain law, those that have the power to repeal it.

The Congressional Report on DOMA is horrendous, people that want equality should use that report to shame today's Congress. They should use the stupid and hateful comments found in that Congressional Report and ridicule Congress for standing by it or shame them into repealing DOMA.

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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 02:54 PM
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135. The "deceptive practices " and "twisted" and "distorted arguments" of whom?
The original response to the DOJ brief by Rep. Frank was posted on Wed., June 17, 2009, in the GLBT forum, based on an interview with Rep. Frank in the Boston Herald. His opinion at that time was similar to other analyses of the DOJ brief and Rep. Frank’s opinion was consonant with the opinions of legal experts at a time proximate to the release of the DOJ brief last week and who were cited in discussion by members of the GLBT community and allies. The press release you cite, by Mr. Frank, was from Thursday, if many based their opinion of the matter on Wednesday, by what Mr. Frank actually said on Wednesday, that is not deceptive.

We might have guessed but did not know that he would walk it back.

Rep. Barney Frank Wednesday:

http://bostonherald.com/news/us_politics/view/2009_06_17_Barney_Frank_rips_prez_s_%E2%80%98big_mistake_:_Fuming_over_anti-gay_wed_filing/srvc=home&position=6

Barney Frank rips prez’s ‘big mistake’
Fuming over anti-gay wed filing
By Dave Wedge
Wednesday, June 17, 2009

U.S. Rep. Barney Frank, one of the nation’s leading gay rights champions, blasted President Obama yesterday over a controversial anti-gay marriage court filing and is calling on the commander in chief to explain himself.

“I think the administration made a big mistake. The wording they used was inappropriate,” Frank (D-Newton) said of a brief filed by Obama’s Department of Justice that supported the Defense of Marriage Act.

The DOJ brief, which has touched off a firestorm of anger in the gay community, argued that states should not have to recognize same-sex marriages from other states, just as states don’t have to recognize incestuous marriages or unions involving underage girls.



Rep. Barney Frank Thursday:

http://www.house.gov/frank/pressreleases/2009/06-17-09-doma.html
PRESS RELEASE
Congressman Frank Corrects Media Reports on his Response to DOMA Brief
June 17, 2009
Congressman Barney Frank issued the following statement in response to a newspaper story regarding his position on the brief by the Department of Justice about Smelt v. United States.



However, failing to disclose the original article and only posting the press release from Thursday and using that press release as proof of “deceptive practices” and “twisted” and “distorted arguments” is highly questionable.

Your reply below, blames the gay community for incurring the "anger" of supporters and would- be supporters, for not knowing a priori what Rep. Frank would say from one day to the next, and, as if Rep. Barney Frank were the sole legal arbiter in this matter.

“This is why the anger - the deceptive practices of those that depicted the Smelt brief as they did, that twisted it and distorted the arguments.” - merh



Mr. Frank is a politician who has to work within the system, he is free to change his spin day to day, “Go along to get along,” is understandable in politics.




http://bostonherald.com/news/us_politics/view/2009_06_17_Barney_Frank_rips_prez_s_%E2%80%98big_mistake_:_Fuming_over_anti-gay_wed_filing/srvc=home&position=6

Barney Frank Rips Obama: "Big Mistake" On Marriage Act
Barney Frank rips prez’s ‘big mistake’
Fuming over anti-gay wed filing
By Dave Wedge
Wednesday, June 17, 2009 - Updated 11h ago

U.S. Rep. Barney Frank, one of the nation’s leading gay rights champions, blasted President Obama yesterday over a controversial anti-gay marriage court filing and is calling on the commander in chief to explain himself.

“I think the administration made a big mistake. The wording they used was inappropriate,” Frank (D-Newton) said of a brief filed by Obama’s Department of Justice that supported the Defense of Marriage Act.

The DOJ brief, which has touched off a firestorm of anger in the gay community, argued that states should not have to recognize same-sex marriages from other states, just as states don’t have to recognize incestuous marriages or unions involving underage girls.

“I’ve been in touch with the White House and I’m hoping the president will make clear these were not his views,” Frank said.

The controversy has prompted some prominent gay political donors and activists to boycott a gay/lesbian Democratic National Committee fund-raiser being co-hosted by Frank next week in Washington, D.C., Vice President Biden is slated to be the keynote speaker, but protests could mar the $1,000-a-head event.

more...




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merh (1000+ posts) Thu Jun-18-09 04:06 PM
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107. This is why the anger - the deceptive practices of those that
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 04:06 PM by merh
depicted the Smelt brief as they did, that twisted it and distorted the arguments. That used bigoted and flawed assertions to inflame and hurt. The reaction to the negative descriptors without reading and understanding the brief itself.

See Barney Frank's Press Release


“When I was called by a newspaper reporter for reaction to the administration’s brief defending the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act, I made the mistake of relying on other people’s oral descriptions to me of what had been in the brief, rather than reading it first. It is a lesson to me that I should not give in to press insistence that I comment before I have had a chance fully to inform myself on the subject at hand.”

“Now that I have read the brief, I believe that the administration made a conscientious and largely successful effort to avoid inappropriate rhetoric. There are some cases where I wish they had been more explicit in disavowing their view that certain arguments were correct, and to make it clear that they were talking not about their own views of these issues, but rather what was appropriate in a constitutional case with a rational basis standard – which is the one that now prevails in the federal courts, although I think it should be upgraded.”

“It was my position in that conversation with the reporter that the administration had no choice but to defend the constitutionality of the law. I think it is unwise for liberals like myself, who were consistently critical of President Bush’s refusal to abide by the law in cases where he disagreed with it to now object when President Obama refuses to follow the Bush example. It is the President’s job to try to change the law, but it is also his obligation to uphold and defend it when it has been enacted by appropriate processes. It would not be wise, in my judgment, for those of us who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, or who sympathize with the fight for our rights, to argue for a precedent that says that executives who disagreed politically with the purpose of the law should have the option of refusing to defend it in a constitutional case.”

“I strongly opposed DOMA when it was adopted and I will continue to fight for changes. I support very strongly the lawsuit brought by the people at Gay & Lesbian Advocates and Defenders (GLAD) that make the cogent argument that DOMA’s provision denying federal recognition of same-sex marriages blatantly violates the equal protection clause. And I will work with the Obama administration as they have promised to do to enact laws protecting LGBT people from hate crimes, from job discrimination, and from discrimination in the military. I will also be critical when I think inappropriate language is used. But after rereading this brief, I do not think that the Obama administration should be subject to harsh criticism in this instance.” http://www.house.gov/frank/pressreleases/2009/06-17-09-doma.html


What he writes is what many DUers have been arguing. And when debating the issues, those who do not agree with the negative are then mocked and called homophobes.

I posted earlier that the anger should be directed at those responsible, at those who do hold the negative and hateful views, at those that made DOMA happen and are allowing it to remain law, those that have the power to repeal it.

The Congressional Report on DOMA is horrendous, people that want equality should use that report to shame today's Congress. They should use the stupid and hateful comments found in that Congressional Report and ridicule Congress for standing by it or shame them into repealing DOMA.


..............

Many in the gay community also relied on the opinions of legal experts who condemned the DOJ brief regarding the Smelt law suit cited below, among them the ACLU and Lambda Legal. Rep. Franks not- with- standing, legal experts denounced the DOJ brief.

LGBT Legal And Advocacy Groups Decry Obama Administration's Defense of DOMA
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: June 12, 2009
Contact: Paul Cates, ACLU

We are very surprised and deeply disappointed in the manner in which the Obama administration has defended the so-called Defense of Marriage Act against Smelt v. United States, a lawsuit brought in federal court in California by a married same-sex couple asking the federal government to treat them equally with respect to federal protections and benefits. The administration is using many of the same flawed legal arguments that the Bush administration used. These arguments rightly have been rejected by several state supreme courts as legally unsound and obviously discriminatory.

We disagree with many of the administration’s arguments, for example that DOMA is a valid exercise of Congress’s power, is consistent with Equal Protection or Due Process principles, and does not impinge upon rights that are recognized as fundamental.

We are also extremely disturbed by a new and nonsensical argument the administration has advanced suggesting that the federal government needs to be “neutral” with regard to its treatment of married same-sex couples in order to ensure that federal tax money collected from across the country not be used to assist same-sex couples duly married by their home states. There is nothing “neutral” about the federal government’s discriminatory denial of fair treatment to married same-sex couples: DOMA wrongly bars the federal government from providing any of the over one thousand federal protections to the many thousands of couples who marry in six states. This notion of “neutrality” ignores the fact that while married same-sex couples pay their full share of income and social security taxes, they are prevented by DOMA from receiving the corresponding same benefits that married heterosexual taxpayers receive. It is the married same-sex couples, not heterosexuals in other parts of the country, who are financially and personally damaged in significant ways by DOMA. For the Obama administration to suggest otherwise simply departs from both mathematical and legal reality.

When President Obama was courting lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender voters, he said that he believed that DOMA should be repealed. We ask him to live up to his emphatic campaign promises, to stop making false and damaging legal arguments, and immediately to introduce a bill to repeal DOMA and ensure that every married couple in America has the same access to federal protections.

Signed,

ACLU
GLAD
Lambda Legal
NCLR
HRC
NGLTF



Regrettably, your post fails to make the case why many are angry and “why the anger - the deceptive practices of those that depicted the Smelt brief as they did- merh.”

However, in a paradoxical turn, your reply may demonstrate why many in the gay community may feel anger, lack of support and unfairness when it comes to representing our position fairly on civil rights issues for GLBT Americans.

While, “The number of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people killed in bias-motivated incidents increased by 28 percent in 2008 compared to the previous year, according to a national coalition of advocacy groups,” (1)

While, “A plurality of DU ranks equal rights as their least important issue.”(2)

While more senior members of our community face real life issues of health care and life and death illness, and post here that , “I owe taxes on my hub's medical benefits,” (3) because their marriage as a same sex couple has no Federal standing.

While our right to privacy and peaceful assembly and freedom of association are threatened, a cause that should inflame progressives. (4)

While people lecture us on how we should be “doing more” even as it is pointed out to them that gay leadership is involved in trying to work and communitctae with the administration, HRC’s Joe Solomonese was at the Presidential memo signing yesterday, and we point out that, “The gay leadership HAS been working with the WH, as have individuals - we have worked, e-mailed, telephoned, donated, voted, canvassed. And there is a bill in Congress on the desk of our politicians - HR1283. And there is a bill for equal domestic benefits.” (5) There is no acknowledgment of that reply made in answer to this comment:

"... for every real or perceived "slight" against the GLBT community and slugging it out with each other here at DU, might it not be a little more productive for all of us to pressure our Congressmen and Congresswomen to take up these issues..."

nor to those facts, nor a scintilla of voicing support for those bills.

"...step-at-a-time people whose every step is just a little shorter than the preceding step."



(1) http://www.cbsnews.com/blogs/2009/06/17/crimesider/entr...
(Original thread in DU GLBT)

(2) DU GLBT today.

(3) DU GLBT yesterday.

(4) DU GLBT Yesterday
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/politics/20093472...

“The 58-year-old senior power analyst for Seattle City Light, who is not gay, has crashed gay-rights events at City Hall and sued when he felt he was being excluded from such meetings.

A conservative Christian who describes himself in public papers as "a Caucasian with no African-American blood," he became a dues-paying member of the City Light Black Employees' Association.

Now he's picking another fight: A judge today will hear arguments on whether the city should release to Irvin the names of anyone who has either attended, or received e-mails to attend, meetings of a city-sponsored affinity group at Seattle Public Utilities — the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered, Transexual (LGBT), Questioning Employees and Friends group.”


(5) Posted today on GDP
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:10 PM
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139. Of Ameriblog and others who felt it important that they demonize
this brief rather than see it for what it is. The ones that twisted the words and alleged bigotry that wasn't there, that gave power to the DOJ that they don't have and that ignore the rule of law to place the blame on Obama for what is a just a legal argument filed in one of many cases filed on this and other issues concerning equal rights.

Perpetuated by you and others that take their words and quote them as gospel and as if you understand them. And yes, by the likes of Barney Franks who listened to the emotions and did not use his knowledge and common sense to read the words. At least he is adult enough and wise enough to know he made a mistake, he is willing to admit his was wrong. As he said "I made the mistake of relying on other people’s oral descriptions to me of what had been in the brief" that is exactly what you and others have done.

The shame of it is the distortions and untruths come from a people that have been discriminated against because of their sex lives yet they created and perpetrate lies that demonize people because of their sex lives. They use "demon" words to inflame, they use bigotry to try to make their point.

The Smelt brief is not new. Yes, it is a new filing in a newly filed case, but this is Smelt II. The arguments are not new. Shame on the authors of all the articles about this brief for just now paying attention to Smelt and Hammer. Shame on them for dishonestly reporting this brief as if the arguments were just created and for trying to blame Obama for the arguments the DOJ attorney who signed the brief, the same attorney that litigated the first Smelt case filed in 2004, litigated in district court, decided in 2005, and appealed, briefed and argued in the 9th Circuit in 2006 (Smelt v. County of Orange, 374 F.Supp.2d 861 (C.D.Cal.2005) Smelt v. Orange County, 447 F.3d 673 (9th Cir 2006), certiorari denied October 10, 2006) http://altlaw.org/v1/cases/1139664 .

The arguments are not new. The attorney who litigated and briefed the issues in Smelt I is the attorney who is litigating Smelt II.

Here is the 2005 brief filed by Smelt in the 9th Circuit, you can read the same arguments.
http://74.125.47.132/search?q=cache:6dWMNwjjNHYJ:www.do

This article discusses the case.
http://newyorklawschool.typepad.com/leonardlink/2006/05/

And Smelt I was a weak case and SCOTUS declined to hear the appeal and Smelt II has not been made stronger.

The argument made was not new, the argument made was legitimate legal arguments that had been made in the Smelt I case. The cases were not cited to compare gays to pedophiles and incest. That is a bigoted interpretation by the authors, not the brief writer, printed for the soul purpose of inflaming their readers. The truth was not their goal. The sad thing is, some of the most vocal that have spurred this on are lawyers. Its a shame they don't know the law and understand that they are the ones that are using bigotry to try to make their point.

What the critics have overlooked as they mischaracterize the cases and the arguments made, as they complain of the "tone" of the DOJ brief is history - the history of our society.

For years under aged women, minor females, were allowed to marry. It was a part of the the culture in many states, society not only accepted it, they expected it. Women were considered spinsters if they were not married . My grandmother was 14 when she lawfully married my 21 year old grandfather. Grandfather was not a pedophile, he was no pervert, he was no criminal. Now, the state they were married in has a law that says under 18 needs parental consent, under 16 needs court order. Society changed, the culture changed and evolved and the state laws changed to reflect the change.

The case cited in the brief that critics label as "comparing homosexal marriage to pedophilia" did not deal with pedophilia, it dealt with one state recognizing or not recognizing the lawful marriage performed in another state. To make that argument recognizes the validity of same sex marriages.

Wilkins v. Zelichowski, 140 A.2d 65, 67-68 (N.J. 1958) held that the marriage of 16-year-old female was invalid in New Jersey, regardless of validity of the 16 year old female's lawful marriage in Indiana. Indiana allowed 16 year olds to marry. New Jersey law allowed for an adult female to have her marriage annulled if she married at the age of 16.


That is not a case discussing pedophiles, it is a case that discusses the conflict between states regarding the legal age for a female to marry.

There are some cultures to this day that allow and encourage marriages between relatives to keep the "blood line pure". The cases discussing marriage to relatives were not about incest, they were about one state not recognizing the lawful marriage of another state (or one state not sanctifying the cultural practice as enjoyed by persons of that culture).

Apparently, in 1957 New Mexico allowed first cousins to marry. Arizona did not. In re Mortenson's Estate, 316 P.2d 1106 (Ariz. 1957) (marriage of first cousins held invalid in Arizona, though lawfully performed in New Mexico, given Arizona policy reflected in statute declaring such marriages "prohibited and void" .

In 1961, Italy allowed an uncle to marry his niece. Connecticut didn't recognize the marriage. Catalano v. Catalano, 170 A.2d 726, 728-29 (Conn. 1961) (marriage of uncle to niece, "though valid in Italy under its laws, was not valid in Connecticut because it contravened the public policy of the state".

DOMA is federal statute that says states have the right to pass laws that either restrict or allow marriages as the states deem appropriate. Thus, the cases cited were on point - they were cited in support of a legitimate legal argument supporting the contention that one state has refused to recognize the marriage performed in another state. This argument uses a legitimate legal tenet called “conflict of laws” - that area of law that deals with what happens when one state's law is in conflict with another states.

Yes, most of the brief was the recycling of previously made arguments. But what the critics do not bother to mention is that the brief upheld the validity of same sex marriages performed in states that permit them. The brief argued that one state need not recognize another state’s marriage if the state believes the marriage to violate public policy. That argument recognizes that there are states that have legalized same sex marriage and other states believe that same sex marriages violate their public policy.

The brief did not use the repugnant Bushco argument that kids raised in heterosexual married households are better off than those in gay households. It did not try to vilify same sex couples as had been done in the past and it did not argue that no same sex marriage is valid as was the argument put forth by the bush admin.

Protest DOMA and DADT, argue against them using the facts and your wits, not with emotions and distortions. Keep pushing Obama to take a stand and to push Congress to repeal DOMA and DADT.

Rip the Congressional Report on DOMA apart and use it to your advantage. Make this the focus of your efforts and your anger and educate people on the stupidity and hate that is in the report. Shame today's Congress that this is the reasoning behind DOMA.
http://thomas.loc.gov/cgi-bin/cpquery/z?cp104:hr664

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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 03:52 PM
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144. Difference in analysis is not "demonizing." The ACLU agreed with Ameriblog
Ameriblog said they went too far that's not demonizing this brief.

Demonizing a legal brief? A legal brief?

You - "Rip the Congressional Report on DOMA apart and use it to your advantage. Make this the focus of your efforts and your anger and educate people on the stupidity and hate that is in the report. Shame today's Congress that this is the reasoning behind DOMA." Make that the focus of your efforts.

You go back and undo that piece of legislation from September 21, 1996.

http://thomas.loc.gov/cgi-bin/cpquery/z?cp104:hr664
House Report 104-664 - DEFENSE OF MARRIAGE ACT
July 9, 1996- Committed to the Committee of the Whole House on the State of the Union and ordered to be printed

I'll stay in 2009:

"But this Presidential Memorandum is just a start. Unfortunately, my Administration is not authorized by existing Federal law to provide same-sex couples with the full range of benefits enjoyed by heterosexual married couples. That's why I stand by my long-standing commitment to work with Congress to repeal the so-called Defense of Marriage Act. It's discriminatory, it interferes with States' rights, and it's time we overturned it. - President Obama


As did the ACLU:

"The administration is using many of the same flawed legal arguments that the Bush administration used. These arguments rightly have been rejected by several state supreme courts as legally unsound and obviously discriminatory."

Citing documents from the Bush era, 2005 and 2006 doesn't help prove anything, other than the resurection of Bush era thinking.

Here is Ameriblogs analysis, let others decide for themsleves.


From: http://www.americablog.com/2009/06/obama-justice-depart...

Commentary from by John Aravosis at American Blog, juxtaosed next to the new DOJ the Court document.

Holy cow. Obama invoked incest and people marrying children.

The courts have followed this principle, moreover, in relation to the validity of marriages performed in other States. Both the First and Second Restatements of Conflict of Laws recognize that State courts may refuse to give effect to a marriage, or to certain incidents of a marriage, that contravene the forum State's policy. See Restatement (First) of Conflict of Laws § 134; Restatement (Second) of Conflict of Laws § 284.5 And the courts have widely held that certain marriages performed elsewhere need not be given effect, because they conflicted with the public policy of the forum. See, e.g., Catalano v. Catalano, 170 A.2d 726, 728-29 (Conn. 1961) (marriage of uncle to niece, "though valid in Italy under its laws, was not valid in Connecticut because it contravened the public policy of th state"); Wilkins v. Zelichowski, 140 A.2d 65, 67-68 (N.J. 1958) (marriage of 16-year-old female held invalid in New Jersey, regardless of validity in Indiana where performed, in light of N.J. policy reflected in statute permitting adult female to secure annulment of her underage marriage); In re Mortenson's Estate, 316 P.2d 1106 (Ariz. 1957) (marriage of first cousins held invalid in Arizona, though lawfully performed in New Mexico, given Arizona policy reflected in statute declaring such marriages "prohibited and void").


Then in the next paragraph, they argue that the incest and child rape cases therefore make DOMA constitutional:

The fact that States have long had the authority to decline to give effect to marriages performed in other States based on the forum State's public policy strongly supports the constitutionality of Congress's exercise of its authority in DOMA.


DOMA is good because it saves the feds money

"The constitutional propriety of Congress's decision to decline to extend federal benefits immediately to newly recognized types of marriages is bolstered by Congress's articulated interest in preserving the scarce resources of both the federal and State governments. DOMA ensures that evolving understandings of the institution of marriage at the State level do not place greater financial and administrative obligations on federal and state benefits programs. Preserving scarce government resources — and deciding to extend benefits incrementally — are well-recognized legitimate interests under rational-basis review. See Butler, 144 F.3d at 625 ("There is nothing irrational about Congress's stated goal of conserving social security resources, and Congress can incrementally pursue that goal."); Hassan v. Wright, 45 F.3d 1063, 1069 (7th Cir. 1995) ("Protecting the fisc provides a rational basis for Congress' line drawing in this instance."). Congress expressly relied on these interests in enacting DOMA: Government currently provides an array of material and other benefits to married couples in an effort to promote, protect, and prefer the institution of marriage. . . . If were to permit homosexuals to marry, these marital benefits would, absent some legislative response, presumably have to be made available to homosexual couples and surviving spouses of homosexual marriages on the same terms as they are now available to opposite-sex married couples and spouses. To deny federal recognition to same-sex marriages will thus preserve scarce government resources, surely a legitimate government purpose."


DOMA is constitutional (thus screwing us on any future lawsuits)

The constitutionality of Section 2 of DOMA is further confirmed by the second sentence of the Full Faith and Credit Clause, which expressly empowers Congress to prescribe "the Effect" to be accorded to the laws of a sister State. See U.S. Const. art. IV, § 1, cl. 2. Although the broad contours of this provision have not been conclusively established, the power exercised by Congress in enacting DOMA clearly conforms to any conceivable construction of the effects provision....

Under this view, Congress obviously acted within its plenary effects power in enacting Section 2 of DOMA. If the Constitution itself does not declare "the effect" of the law of "one state in another state," McElmoyle, 38 U.S. (13 Pet.) at 325, but instead leaves that "power in congress," Mills, 11 U.S. (7 Cranch) at 485, then Congress clearly had the authority in DOMA to declare that no State is "required to give effect" to the same-sex marriage laws of other States. 28 U.S.C. § 1738C.


"DOMA Is Consistent with Equal Protection and Due Process Principles." This is important because it means that Obama wasn't content to simply argue, based on technicalities, that this case should be thrown out. He went out of his way to argue that DOMA is actually constitutional, and then went into detail destroying every single constitutional argument we have for opposing DOMA in court. This will screw us on every lawsuit we file on every gay issue, in every public policy debate we have in the states on any gay issue.

DOMA Is Consistent with Equal Protection and Due Process Principles Plaintiffs further allege that DOMA violates their rights under the Due Process Clause of the Fifth Amendment, including its equal protection component. DOMA, however, merely preserves for each State the authority to follow its own law and policy with respect to same-sex marriage for purposes of State law. And it maintains the status quo of federal policy, preserving a longstanding federal policy of promoting traditional marriages, by clarifying that the terms "marriage" and "spouse," for purposes of federal law, refer to marriage between a man and a woman, and do not encompass relationships of any other kind within their ambit. Thus, because DOMA does not make a suspect classification or implicate a right that has been recognized as fundamental, it is necessarily subject to rational-basis scrutiny, see National Ass'n for Advancement of Psychoanalysis v. California Bd. of Psychology, 228 F.3d 1043, 1049 (9th Cir. 2000), which it satisfies.


Gays have no constitutional right to marriage, or recognition of their marriages by other states

Plaintiffs are married, and their challenge to the federal Defense of Marriage Act ("DOMA") poses a different set of questions: whether by virtue of their marital status they are constitutionally entitled to acknowledgment of their union by States that do not recognize same-sex marriage, and whether they are similarly entitled to certain federal benefits. Under the law binding on this Court, the answer to these questions must be no.


Praises DOMA as "cautiously limited"

DOMA reflects a cautiously limited response to society's still-evolving understanding of the institution of marriage.



Sounds to me like Obama just came out against the Loving v. VA case that ensured that people like his parents could marry

On the merits, plaintiffs' claims that DOMA violates the Full Faith and Credit Clause and their "right to travel" both fail as a matter of law. In allowing each State to withhold its recognition of same-sex marriages performed in other jurisdictions, Congress was merely confirming longstanding conflict-of-laws principles in a valid exercise of its express power to settle such questions under the Full Faith and Credit Clause. That Clause ensures that each State retains the authority to decline to apply another State's law when it conflicts with its own public policies. DOMA is fully consistent with that constitutional principle, as it permits States to experiment with and maintain the exclusivity of their own legitimate public policies — such as whether that State chooses to recognize or reject same-sex marriages.


Gays don't deserve same scrutiny in court that other minorities get

Because DOMA does not restrict any rights that have been recognized as fundamental or rely on any suspect classifications, it need not be reviewed with heightened scrutiny. Properly understood, the right at issue in this case is not a right to marry. After all, the federal government does not, either through DOMA or any other federal statute, issue marriage licenses or determine the standards for who may or may not get married. Indeed, as noted above — and as evidenced by the fact that plaintiffs have married in California — DOMA in no way prohibits same-sex couples from marrying. Instead, the only right at issue in this case is a right to receive certain benefits on the basis of a same-sex marriage. No court has ever found such a right to federal benefits on that basis to be fundamental — in fact, all of the courts that have considered the question have rejected such a claim. (And even if the right at issue in this case were the right to same-sex marriage, current Supreme Court precedent that binds this Court does not recognize such a right under the Constitution.) Likewise, DOMA does not discriminate, or permit the States to discriminate, on the basis of a suspect classification; indeed, the Ninth Circuit has held that sexual orientation is not a suspect classification.


Argues Republican position on how judges should review cases

DOMA therefore must be analyzed under rational-basis review. Under the highly deferential rational basis standard, moreover, a court may not act as superlegislature, sitting in judgment on the wisdom or morality of a legislative policy. Instead, a legislative policy must be upheld so long as there is any reasonably conceivable set of facts that could provide a rational basis for it, including ones that the Congress itself did not advance or consider. DOMA satisfies this standard.



The twisted logic of this paragraph is sickening. Pat Robertson could have written this:

Likewise, Section 3 of DOMA merely clarifies that federal policy is to make certain benefits available only to those persons united in heterosexual marriage, as opposed to any other possible relationship defined by law, family, or affection. As a result, gay and lesbian individuals who unite in matrimony are denied no federal benefits to which they were entitled prior to their marriage; they remain eligible for every benefit they enjoyed beforehand. DOMA simply provides, in effect, that as a result of their same-sex marriage they will not become eligible for the set of benefits that Congress has reserved exclusively to those who are related by the bonds of heterosexual marriage. In short, then, the failure in this manner to recognize a certain subset of marriages that are recognized by a certain subset of States cannot be taken as an infringement on plaintiffs' rights, even if same-sex marriage were accepted as a fundamental right under the Constitution.



DOMA is a good thing:

It adopts on the national level, and permits on the state level, a wait-and-see approach to new forms of marriage. DOMA thus maximizes democratic flexibility under our federalist scheme, by simply preventing some States from requiring other States and the federal government to grant benefits to forms of marriages that, under their own constitutions, state or federal governments are not obligated to recognize. Because it is rationally related to legitimate governmental interests, plaintiffs cannot overcome the "presumption of constitutionality" that DOMA, like all federal statutes, enjoys.


DOMA is rational and constitutional:

Its cautious decision simply to maintain the federal status quo while preserving the ability of States to experiment with new definitions of marriage is entirely rational. Congress may subsequently decide to extend federal benefits to same-sex marriages, but its decision to reserve judgment on the question does not render any differences in the availability of federal benefits irrational or unconstitutional.

Provides legal argument against gays' right to privacy

Second, the right to privacy encompasses only rights that are constitutionally fundamental, and, as noted earlier, the right to receive benefits on the basis of same-sex marriage (as well as same-sex marriage itself) has not been recognized by the courts as a fundamental right.


DOMA was actual a very "neutral" law, rather than anti-gay:

Section 3 of DOMA reflects just such an approach: it maximizes democratic flexibility and self-governance under our federalist system, by adopting a policy of federal neutrality with respect to a matter that is primarily the concern of state government. Because all 50 States recognize heterosexual marriage, it was reasonable and rational for Congress to maintain its longstanding policy of fostering this traditional and universally-recognized form of marriage. At the same time, because Congress recognized both the freedom of States to expand the traditional definition, and the freedom of other States to decline to recognize this newer form of marriage, a policy of neutrality dictated that Congress not extend federal benefits to new forms of marriage recognized by some States.


read the rest at...
http://www.americablog.com/2009/06/obama-justice-depart...


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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:04 PM
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147. Demonizing
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 04:06 PM by merh
The brief did NOT equate gay sex to incest and pedophilia, it used a often used and valid legal argument - the conflict of laws analysis. The marriage to the 16 year old was a legal marriage in one state, the other state just didn't recognize it as the case discussed. The marriage of relatives was legal in one state and in other nations, the other state just didn't recognized it as discussed in the cases.

And more importantly - the conflict of laws analysis recognizes as valid same sex marriages as made legal in some states, it does not argue that they should be held invalid, it does not demonize them.

You can spend the rest of the day quoting the opinions of others, they are still built on the same untruths and they still fail and fail miserable, as do you.

Where have you put out a call to help Smelt & Hammer - where have you argued that now is the time for the Equal Rights Amendment to be championed.

I examined the brief and disproved the lies, you just continue to argue them. The DOJ is doing its job, just as Franks has opined in his last press release. The legal arguments are not new, they are valid arguments, it is up to the courts to consider them and to decide if they are valid.

Congress creates the law, the President enforces the laws and the Judiciary interprets the law.

Use the DOMA Congressional Report to make your arguments. It has the hatred and the emotions you seek, it is filled with stupid arguments and conclusions. Use it to shame Congress into repealing DOMA. Use something that is a legitimate reflection of the body that acted within its lawful authority.

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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:16 PM
Response to Reply #144
166. I guess if merh says it's so, it's so.
And anyone saying anything else is a demon.

BWA-ha-ha! What hubris!
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 10:05 PM
Response to Reply #166
199. No, there have been others who posted what I have written
There are law professors who have opined similiarly, hell even Congressman Franks has said the same.

But as is the norm with many, instead of challenging the reason you attack me and post nonsense as if your mockery proves something about what I wrote or about me. All it does is reflect badly on you.
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Mattylock Donating Member (36 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 05:47 PM
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160. The truth
Excellent analysis.
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 05:58 PM
Response to Reply #160
161. As I said yesterday -- name noted
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:30 PM
Response to Reply #160
201. thank you
and welcome to DU :hi:
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:38 AM
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116. No anger. I fully understand.
Although I think you are mischaracterizing the comparison. Differences in minimum marriage ages do not amount to pedophelia which is an abnormal attraction to small children, not to teenagers. Likewise, the maximum degree of relation that one is allowed to have and still be married does not amount to incest. Marriage to first cousins, for example was once common. It did not make it incest.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x8854161
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justiceischeap Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:45 AM
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117. Why I'm an angry lesbian democrat who voted for Obama
Obama signed a presidential memorandum yesterday giving gays in the federal government some benefits that their straight brethren were already receiving due to their "straightness." What happens when Obama leaves office and, let's say for the sake of argument, he goes no further in his campaign promises to the gay community. Then, for the sake of argument, let's say Sarah Palin gets elected as our next President. What happens to that Presidential memo he uses to give the federal gay employees benefits? The next President who isn't in favor of gay rights rescinds it. It was a nice gesture and all but what percentage of the gay community has a federal job? I think 1% of the entire population of the US has a federal job, out of that 1%, how many of those are gay? The larger part of the community, the 10% of us regular folk are left hanging.

Yes, I understand there are lots of other issues and that he has 3.5 years at the very least however, too many people, politicians included, think that standing up for the gay community in their first term is too costly. What if he doesn't get reelected in 3.5 years and he's held onto his "political" capitol? We're screwed yet again because someone in charge wasn't brave enough to make the stand. That's why I'm angry. I'm also angry with straight people who have all their rights telling me my wanting all of my rights needs to wait because something else is more important. I've been hearing that for 20 years and I'm tired of people and politicians telling me to wait my turn. I personally have waited 20 years, others have waited longer. How much longer must we wait?
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:06 PM
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119. I'm thinking the window of opportunity is shorter than that.
It's a year until Congressional elections hit full swing.

In 1964 and 1965 LBJ ran civil rights bills down Congress' throats. I cost us the South for many years. Now LBJ and Nixon are gone, but the Civil Rights Act and the Voting Rights Act are still law and no one can open be a segregationist openly and hope to win an election. In 40 years people will look back and wonder why equal rights for gays was even an issue. We need to strike while the iron is hot.
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justiceischeap Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:13 PM
Response to Reply #119
121. People don't seem to understand what it's like to be told
You're not important enough, you cost us the election, you'll cost us reelection... I didn't even think about Congress because I find it difficult to believe the Repug party can turn itself around in a year but that is naive of me to think that way.

But, I agree with your point, time is ticking away and promises aren't being kept and if I read one more post telling me I don't have a right to be angry about being denied rights, because that's what it comes down to, I may just scream. It makes me want to point out and ask those people telling me I don't have a right to my anger, how long have you waited to have your equal rights guaranteed?
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liberation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:29 PM
Response to Reply #119
170. Right on!
I couldn't have said it better myself. A lot of people in this site seem to think in terms of elections... there is always another "most important election of our lives" to be concerned about to what happens in between elections.

Ir is the proverbial carrot on a stick. The problem is that some people here tend to try to silence anyone who complains that they are just getting crumbs, I think in the back of their mind they have a perennial fear that the master may get piss off and take the carrot away if we rock the boat too much. Never stopping to think, that if the master falls of the boat, then the carrot is there for us to take...

Anyhow. I am not gay, but I can understand the frustration of being asked to subdue one's attempts to reach equality for the shake of some blurry and undefined objective...
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:17 PM
Response to Reply #170
197. I used to be a wait-and-see person.
I eventually lost patience with it. I'm not gay either, but I understand their frustration. MLK and the civil rights movement was told to wait until the time was right. The wait-and-see-ers will kill you every time.
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PhilipDC Donating Member (68 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:34 PM
Response to Reply #117
124. Action vs. anger
"Obama signed a presidential memorandum yesterday giving gays in the federal government some benefits that their straight brethren were already receiving due to their "straightness." What happens when Obama leaves office and, let's say for the sake of argument, he goes no further in his campaign promises to the gay community."

What Obama did yesterday was just a first step and technically all he could by Presidential order. The next steps are up to Congress. Easiest one: grant the rest of the Federal benefits for Federal workers. Harder: repeal of DADT. Harder still: complete repeal of DOMA. The anger is justified, but it's going to take a cooperative effort to ge tthe next steps passed through Congress.
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justiceischeap Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:39 PM
Response to Reply #124
125. As I understand it
The rest of the Federal benefits cannot be granted per Congress because they are denied via DOMA. However, my understanding of that could be wrong.
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PhilipDC Donating Member (68 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 12:46 PM
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126. Legislative process
"The rest of the Federal benefits cannot be granted per Congress because they are denied via DOMA. However, my understanding of that could be wrong."

Congress can amend any individual part of a law or repeal the whole thing.
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jeremyfive Donating Member (434 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:08 PM
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129. New York Times? Hasn't been a friend.
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 01:10 PM by jeremyfive
Those of us who have been around awhile will recall that the New York Times was one of the last major news sources to adopt the word "gay" as appropriate for use--the very term that gay people chose to call themselves. The Wall Street Journal, for God's sake, was using "gay" to refer to gay people for quite some time before the NY Times came around. This is very comparable to continuing to call blacks only "negros" (or worse) when they have made it known they prefer simply "black" or alternately, "people of color".

Even very lately (I haven't heard that it has changed), the New York Times was filtering the word "gay" from their search engine, just as they would any objectionable or foul word.

So while I fully believe the New York Times may have our interests at heart at times, they are late to the party.

For me, I'm still waiting for Obama to disavow the language of his court brief--it was offensive in its support for DOMA.

We are taxpayers. We matter.
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:20 PM
Response to Reply #129
131. Rosenthal's homophobia was legendary.
They say it was hell working for times back then.
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varelse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 01:49 PM
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133. K&R
I will have more to say when I've got a bit more time.
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livefreest Donating Member (378 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 02:38 PM
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134. i think it's working. but still Pres Obama's reaction is very timid
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AtomicKitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:10 PM
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149. I would suggest it's the gratuitous epithets thrown at people here.
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 04:31 PM by AtomicKitten
IMO it's crap strategy to heckle the only avenue for the change you demand. The object of the game is to cultivate allies, not kick them to the curb.
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jumptheshadow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:34 PM
Response to Reply #149
156. And it's a crap strategy...
to call a significant part of the Democratic donor population "whiners" and demean their justifiable anger as "poutrage."

It's a real crap strategy.
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AtomicKitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:37 PM
Response to Reply #156
157. more reason for an improved dialogue to create common cause solidarity
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TheWraith Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:26 PM
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153. Nobody is pissed that people are pissed.
Edited on Thu Jun-18-09 04:27 PM by TheWraith
What DOES make people angry is the grotesque exaggeration, the antics, the wild-ass accusations that Obama is personally slitting the throat of gays everywhere, a bigot, gay-basher in chief, all this wild shit that is without any grounds when you consider that Obama had never even seen the brief or knew about it until the walls caught fire. All this because they didn't catch on to this Bush appointee DOJ lawyer. Hammer that guy and demand his firing, if you want to do something useful. But don't spend your time and effort attacking the people who are on our side.

It's particularly irritating since we continually see this same bullshit from every angle--there is NOTHING that Democrats seem to love more than trashing other Dems. We elect an anti-war President, and two minutes later people are screaming bloody murder calling him a warmonger because it's going to take time to get the hell out of Iraq.

The entire population of DU, Daily Kos, and all the other major left-wing websites really could do with switching off the computer, having a glass of wine, and letting go of the paranoia. The Bush years are over, and while it's going to take time to fix things, they ARE going to get fixed.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:12 PM
Response to Reply #153
165. You first.
"The entire population of DU, Daily Kos, and all the other major left-wing websites really could do with switching off the computer, having a glass of wine, and letting go of the paranoia."
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Starry Messenger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:55 PM
Response to Reply #153
173. Total straw man.
And the gay people here have tried on a number of occasion to explain their positions with eloquence and class. It is a loud majority of straight people here who inflame the situation by defending bigotry and making inflammatory and uncaring comments. "All that wild shit" is your exaggerated caricature of the position of the information that people have tried to post here. Prism has a wonderful thread in here that is sinking like a rock. Go check it out.
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Kermitt Gribble Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:27 PM
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154. Don't let the fan club
distract you from the importance of this. Throughout this thread are replies of "it's only been 6 months", "now is not the time, there are more important issues to be dealt with". There are many major issues we need to deal with now: Equal rights, ending the wars, the economy, health care, govt transparency, corporate corruption of our govt, upholding the Constitution, to name a few. They are all equally important to the well-being of this nation and there is not one more important than the others. We need to fight for all of them now with the Dems having the White House and a majority in congress, for who knows when we'll have this opportunity again or for how long we'll have it.

The fan club needs to realize the pressuring and criticisms of Obama are a good thing - these things shouldn't be seen as attacks, but as input from a citizenry seeing it's best chance in the foreseeable future to actually get something accomplished.

Great post.
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grantcart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 04:39 PM
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158. Not angry but am disappointed


Its natural for people who have been mistreated by their government to be angry. Its not just this government but thousands of years of hatred and violence.


I understand GLBT who are angry and want to express that anger.


But we are now at a crossroad, do you want to concentrate on that anger or on achieving results?


I spent a couple of Saturdays going door to door handing out "no" on 8 leaflets. I had several gay friends that were very angry about "8", but didn't go door to door.



With regards to disagreements within the party and here at DU they are largely tactical and strategic. DADT and DOMA there is well defined agreement on what the end result should be. President Obama apparently has a strategy that takes more time. He has also been very successful in getting things passed, so I defer to his strategic planning. For many here a tactical or strategic difference of opinion is seen as being equivalent to being opposed on policy issues. It is not.


Had the "no on 8" campaign been more effective in engaging people in the middle we would have been in a different position today.


Some people think that their justified anger allows them to cast any slur on their allies, comparing Obama to Pat Robertson for example, or casting aspersions on their allies here. It maybe cathartic (although I am not so sure), but it is not very effective in building broad based alliances to pass real legislation.


Calling President Obama a homophobe along the ranks of Pat Robertson may bring some self affirming feeling of righteousness, I am at a loss to see how it increases the number of people who want to change our state law, DOMA or DADT.




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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:30 PM
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171. Deleted message
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twitomy Donating Member (756 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:43 PM
Response to Reply #158
172. Well, since every person who believes Marriage is only
between a man and a womand is considered a bigot and/or homophobe by the good DU folks here;

And since Obama has stated the same belief;

I say if the shoe fits, he ought to wear it..
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grantcart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 06:57 PM
Response to Reply #172
174. thereby proving my point, thank you
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twitomy Donating Member (756 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:38 PM
Response to Reply #174
181. Dude I'm just looking for some consistency...
thats all...
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grantcart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 09:31 PM
Response to Reply #181
198. and I am looking for victory, at the ballot and in the legislature, dude.
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twitomy Donating Member (756 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-19-09 08:00 AM
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203. I hear ya NT
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dionysus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 07:08 PM
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176. it's not the anger at the brief ruggerson, it was the instantly blaming Obama personally as if he
had written the damn thing himself. surely you can see the difference :hi:
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 08:13 PM
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192. I'm not angry at gay people for standing up for themselves...
nor at any straight or bi people for standing up for civil rights.

I'm angry at people who resort to distortions or outright lies, especially when those distortions and lies are used in order to (once again) divide the left.

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ohheckyeah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-18-09 11:54 PM
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202. No anger from me
towards gay people. All of my anger is toward a society that thinks it's ok to discriminate against gay people. I honestly don't know how you stand the injustice of it all. The squeaky wheel gets the grease so I say be as loud and confrontational as it takes to get the rights you deserve - shit fire and damnation, there shouldn't even have to be a discussion about equal rights for gay people. Whatever happened to all men are created equal?


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