Anyone here near Rockville/Gaithersburg?

I have another post in the Lounge (sorry, I don't know how to link to it). In a nutshell, I'm recovering from brain surgery and while doing okay physically, I could use some help emotionally. To add insult to injury, my husband, who has become a heavy drinker, cannot handle the medical bills and wants a divorce.

I'm going to start going to Al-Anon and group therapy, but getting together with a fellow dem who could maybe dispense a hug, or just chat would really boost my spirits.

I'm so sorry that you're going through so much, all at one time. I'm in Derwood, not far from the Shady Grove metro. And I'm struggling with being unemployed. I'll PM you.

LibE

:hug:

We're neighbors! :)

I used to live in the great state of Maryland. I called that home for a very long time until I got married and travelled with my husband. We finally ended up in TN where his parents were elder and he was an only child. Am sure you are having a terrible time. It is good for you to reach out. There was a time my husband had a very difficult time at his job and I thought he was going to loose it and kill himself. I stood by him. I guess that comes when you say your vows when you get married. He wanted to leave and he couldn't even tell you why he wanted to leave. It came upon him all of a sudden he said. He said it wasn't me it was him. He never cheated on me because that isn't his way. We always told each other the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts. He said he loved me and than I finally said it was worth working it out. Just talking about it helped. To this day he can't tell you why he wanted to leave me. That was over 15 yrs ago. We have been married 30 years this past Dec. If your husband isn't there to give you the support than you need to find it where you can. I would recommend strongly once you are able to get involved doing things for others. Work in soup kitchens at church. Do anything that will take your mind off your problems. I found that it helped me at my lowest time of my life. Also talk to your priest or minister. I feel for your husband because he doesn't know how to deal with cancer. My sister-in-law the same. She couldn't even be bothered to cook for him. He was the one who usually cooked and cleaned the house. She was an only child and spoiled. Her mother booked a trip to europe knowing that he was going to be having surgery. He had the support of his sisters and brother-in-laws, we all loved him that much and did whatever it was necessary to make what time he had left happy ones. He got sick right before christmas and lasted 4 months. My sister had him in her home while his wife went to europe with her mother. As it turned out he was happy she was gone because he enjoyed himself so much. So god put him where he wanted him. He died the day before his birthday at the age of 39, but like he said what time he had left he enjoyed even though he wasn't ready to go. His wife and her mother made a nice show of it at his funeral. We didn't say anything. God will judge us all in the end. She told my sister she wouldn't be over much because she feels upset at my brothers passing and everything reminds her of him. I think its guilt. But we never say anything bad because god will judge not us. Well friend I told you alot about me. Hopefully, I have taken up some of your time. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless you and may the angels surround you.

I am very fortunate that my tumor was 100% benign; also, no follow-up radiation was needed -- the surgeon got it all. I am expected to recover fully, and for that, I am truly grateful.

However, the whole ordeal was traumatic. I was one day a seemingly healthy person, then the next thing I was waking up in the emergency room, finding out that I had a fist-sized mass pressing on my brain, being wheeled into surgery, waking up in the ICU -- the list goes on.

Unfortunately, this coincided with my husband not being able to be there for me. His drinking has increased tremendously. When he accompanies me to doctor appointments, he seems very uncomfortable. I would be better off going alone.

I appreciate your suggestions, and your prayers mean a great deal to me. And thank you for sharing your story. :hi: