NJ DYFS is the worst of the worst for families

to say the least ... IMO 
This is an FYI for all of you who have been abused by the DYFS
system. 

A cousin of mine worked for DYFS between the late 1990's and
up until about 3 years ago. I cannot release her name. She was
a high school teacher prior to working for DYFS. She was fired
for having sex with several high school seniors (male)
students (in her classes) who had already reached their 18th
birthday and who were quiet or depressed and low in the
self-esteem area. She picked her victims carefully. She also
carefully selected a profession where she could get away with
sexual abuse. She was never charged b/c she waited until they
turned 18 to have sex with them ... in her home with her son
in the next room, no less. 

She also sexually abused her own son when he was a toddler and
pre schooler. She was never charged with this crime. Her
ex-husband wound up with custody. Her son is now over 21 yrs
old, but he's so emotionally disturbed that he barely speaks.
Only God knows what other things this sicko did to this poor
child ... and yet she was hired by DYFS to go into the homes
of people and manage sensitive cases while making major life
decisions for families. I couldn't believe my ears when she
told me she was working for DYFS. Thankfully, she no longer
works there. She left DYFS a few years ago when she was
eligible to receive her teaching pension (that she didn't
deserve) and when her inheritance came through. 

My point -- they hire anyone who has the proper degree. This
is who is making decisions about your life and that of your
family. They DO NOT do anything to keep families together.
NOTHING. 

FACT: One of the main characteristics of a sociopath
(socio-pathology)  is ... an individual who intentionally
tears apart relationships and families, either directly or
indirectly -- that IS what they do ... amongst other awful
things. Sociopaths purposely seek out jobs where they can get
way with this, such as social worker ... "My word against
your word", abuse of power. Google this search string and
you will see for yourself. You will also see they lack a
conscience, but they appear to be normal everyday people. But,
there is nothing normal about them.  

MY OPINION: DYFS hires sociopaths and sociopaths hire more
sociopaths. Normal people (empaths) cannot work with or work
for sociopaths, so they leave and find a new or different
job/career. DYFS is a very dangerous sociopathic run
organization.  

   I have had a similar experience with DYFS.  Short version,
I had taken my daughter’s cell phone away and told her she’d
better not punch anymore holes in the walls or there’d be
serious consequences. She punched a hole in the wall when I
went out grocery shopping and called a friend to boohoohoo.
Her friend called the police “anonymously” asking them to
check on the kids. The kids told the police they were afraid
to be in the house and the officer, without my consent, took
the kids into protective custody. The officer called DYFS
telling them I dragged my daughter up to her room and beat,
kicked and punched her. I was arrested when I got to the
police station. When I gave my version of what happened I was
told they were taking the kids to the ER to determine if
"I" had physicaly injured them. I asked both the
officer and DYFS worker to have the doctor take a look at her
hand because it was most likely injured from punching a hole
in the wall. Of course they didn't and the doctor found no
injuries or signs of abuse. Neither put any reference I made
to the kids being out of control in their reports and DYFS
returned the kids a week later, my daughter with an untreated
fractured hand. (The irony of it is, according to the law on
child abuse and neglect, DYFS was negligent with my daughter
by refusing her needed medical treatment) Instead of treating
us as a family in crisis to get the kids needed counseling and
copping skills for the recent divorce, their main goal was to
substantiate me for abuse and push all kinds of “services” on
me. They even had enough nerve to tell me, in front of my 12
year old, that I was “required to negotiate” whether or not
she could sleep at a friends house on a school night. 
   It was at that time I decided I’d had enough and would
start recording the conversations. The social worker showed up
at my front door last week with a court order demanding I now
do random drug screening. This was due to my ex-husband's
refusal to take responsibility for his poor choices and is a
confirmed drug addiction (thru DYFS). He told her I was the
one with the problem not him as his excuse for not going
rehab. During our recorded conversation she also stated that
even if the initial DYFS investigators had accurately reported
what occurred the kids would have been taken into custody
anyway and I still would have been substantiated as an abuser.
   I talked to my attorney who agrees with everything everyone
says about DYFS. It doesn’t matter if they break the law. They
have free reign to do whatever they want. He advised me not to
do anything with the recording because it would end up getting
me into more trouble when I go to court for the fact finding
hearing. (NJ law says it is legal to record a conversation as
long as 1 person knows they are being recorded)
   DYFS has there own reports they take to schools, hospitals,
pediatricians, where ever else they go to humiliate or violate
your privacy. They take the reports with them and there is no
paper trail to validate any of their misuse of power. From
what I recorded my case worker saying, it was apparent to me
that it’s an acceptable standard of practice for DYFS to lie
in reports to the court as well as give false testimony. If
you ask to see your file their legal department will only let
you read what they deem to be appropriate and you are not
allowed make copies. 
   Recently I read (what pertained to my situation) the
Federal December 2010 rules and regulations that DYFS is
supposed to abide by. However, it turned out to be 255 pages
on procedural rules to follow for federal funding. Could it be
possible they would tear families apart in an effort to
support their fiscal budgets? All I can say to any parent who
finds themselves in a similar situation is there is no hope
for change unless we can ban together and file a class action.