Feeling abused? Here's why...

Check out this article...and let's keep on keeping on...


http://mathewgross.com/blog/archives/001041.html

"Listen to George Bush say that the will of God excuses his behavior. Listen, as he refuses to take responsibility, or express remorse, or even once, admit a mistake. Watch him strut, and tell us that he will only work with those who agree with him, and that each of us is only allowed one question...

And watch the Democratic Party leadership walk on eggshells, try to meet him, please him, wash the windows better, get out that spot, distance themselves from gays and civil rights. See them cry for the attention and affection and approval of the President and his followers. Watch us squirm. Watch us descend into a world of crazy-making...

How to break free? Again, the answer is quite simple.

First, you must admit you are a victim. Then, you must declare the state of affairs unacceptable. Next, you must promise to protect yourself and everyone around you that is being victimized. You don’t do this by responding to their demands, or becoming more like them, or engaging in logical conversation, or trying to persuade them that you are right. You also don’t do this by going catatonic and resigned, by closing up your ears and eyes and covering your head and submitting to the blows, figuring its over faster and hurts less is you don’t resist and fight back. Instead, you walk away. You find other folks like yourself, 56 million of them, who are hurting, broken, and beating themselves up. You tell them what you’ve learned, and that you aren’t going to take it anymore. You stand tall, with 56 million people at your side and behind you, and you look right into the eyes of the abuser and you tell him to go to hell. Then you walk out the door, taking the kids and gays and minorities with you, and you start a new life. The new life is hard. But it’s better than the abuse."


WOW!! Now I know exactly what it is like to be abused, because that is exactly the trauma I feel. The US Supreme Court should be the "Shelter" we run to to escape this insanity, to protect us, but alas they are in with the abuser. WHERE exactly do we go, all 56 million of us?

Fuck you George & Co.

Big kick!

it was a brilliant analogy. And welcome to DU! :hi:

thank you for posting this article. Very insightful.

and the writer is spot on . . . excellent work . . . thanks for posting . . .

Battered Woman's Syndrome. The problem is that the abusers are always pretending to be the victim when they are the monsters. The true victims are falling for this garbage.

Maybe one or two of the wussies will get the message.

Yes, I'm going to send it out to Dem leadership. Good suggestion. They need to get this perspective--to begin to accept how far the abuse has gone and the degree of damage inflicted. Challenge them to take part in the "recovery."

In mass psychology, often the macrocosm mirrors the microcosm. This analogy (abuse by our "authorities" = same mechanism as abuse in interpersonal relationships) is not far-fetched at all IMO. I'm sure there are scholarly dissertations I could cite to substantiate this, but it rings very true at a gut level. I see this pattern often at every level of our society.

Thanks forintegrity

and welcome to DU
:hi:

I am close to weeping, this is so apt..
thank you
:hug:

Thanks for posting and sharing.

Now, what makes a battered woman finally get up and leave? Can we draw any insights from that?

When she realizes he will not change,no matter how obedient,accomodating,nurturing,passive or how dutiful she is.
When she realizes she deserves better than that and aknkowleges she has been manipulated,used and abused..
When she finds a social safety net or another way to survive without"him".
When she escapes his controlled environment for long enough to see her life is unhappy and see there is hope in escape.
When she says I don't want to live this way with this asshole anymore.
When She refuses to accept her"lot" in life with this creep.
And when She stop believing the abusive message this asshole tells her as true or valid.

Kick this thread

Thanks. :)

Gyre

Now I understand what is going on with our representatives. I read the depressing letter from Barney Frank on another thread which was so full of frustration and despair. They don't know how to break free and stand up to the abusers. I hope we can help them.

From the Gilles article --posted by forintegrity above:
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"We have a mandate to be as radical and liberal and steadfast as we need to be. The progressive beliefs and social justice we stand for, our core, must not be altered. We are 56 million strong. We are building from the bottom up. We are meeting, on the net, in church basements, at work, in small groups, and right now, we are crying, because we are trying to break free and we don’t know how."

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I like that--the idea that we now have a mandate also....
we have put up too long.