On a possitive note... - Democratic Underground

Guy Fawkes

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Sun May-22-05 11:58 AM
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On a possitive note...

we still need to find some way of determining who gets the last name in a gay marriage. Tradition dictates that the groom's last name is used- but what happens if there are two grooms? OR no grooms at all?

I say height- or rock-paper-scissors.

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Anarcho-Socialist

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Sun May-22-05 12:07 PM
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1. Best of three, Jenga tournament

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terrya

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Sun May-22-05 12:17 PM
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2. What about hyphenated last names?

Say for instance, James Anderson marries Michael Tolliver. It would then be James Anderson-Tolliver.And Michael Tolliver becomes Michael Tolliver-Andrerson.

I think that's the really fair way to handle it.

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Guy Fawkes

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Sun May-22-05 12:24 PM
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3. But think of all the jingo tournaments we could start!

see post #1.

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Cornus

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Sun May-22-05 12:40 PM
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4. Each could keep his/her own name

Many straight married couples do that now anyway. Three of my neices never took their husband's last name.

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benevolent dictator

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Sun May-22-05 01:14 PM
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5. How about... pick the cooler last name.

Or, if they're both cool, then you can use any of the other methods, like rock-paper-scissors or hyphenating or jenga tournaments.

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Technowitch

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Sun May-22-05 02:32 PM
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6. My wife and I have each kept our own surnames

However, she's said she considered changing hers to mine on a number of occasions, because mine's *way* shorter and easier to spell. It's her choice, and I'm fine either way she goes on it.

I think the whole 'name changing' thing is passe, a relic of the past when a woman essentially subsumed herself into her husband's family.

Or, to put it another way, hyphenation is all fine and good, but until the day comes when a substantial number of men take their wives' surnames instead (not just hypenated), I will continue to be of the opinion the practice is sexist.

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Placebo

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Sun May-22-05 04:23 PM
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7. I sure wouldn't ditch MY last name.

I love it too much, it first my first name so perfectly. :)

I think keeping their own names should be fine, I mean, it's what famous people do.

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Guy Fawkes

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Sun May-22-05 05:39 PM
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8. Famous people do it...

because they are never married that long.

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Placebo

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Sun May-22-05 05:46 PM
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9. Neither are gay people.

:P

*runs away and hides*

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swimmernsecretsea

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Mon May-23-05 11:55 AM
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14. Well, someone had to say it...

Thank you for volunteering. Now, everyone, LET'S GET 'EM!

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tjwmason

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Mon May-23-05 07:42 AM
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10. Take the first Letter from one name, the second Letter from the other &c.

We couLd come up with some wonderfuL new names that way.

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Cornus

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Mon May-23-05 09:07 AM
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12. Something similar

Another niece married a man with a multi-syllable last name and her last name is just one syllable. They choose a syllable from his name, added her single syllable name, and came up with a whole new name!

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moose65

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Mon May-23-05 09:01 AM
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11. Not necessary.....

I don't think this is a big deal; each partner should keep his/her last name. If I was able to marry my partner, I wouldn't want to change my last name to his... it's MY name, that I've had since birth! Why would I want to change it? I think the whole idea of a woman taking her husband's name is archaic and a remnant of a time when women were considered a man's property. I like the idea that boys should take their father's last name, and girls should take their mother's last name. And a person would keep THEIR individual name for their entire life! Wouldn't that be a novel idea! LOL

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davidinalameda

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Mon May-23-05 10:50 AM
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13. take the name of your 1st pet and the name of the 1st street you lived on

oh wait, that's how you get your drag and/or porn name

never mind

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