New questions about Gay Marriage (no, really!)

As I've stated previously, Paul and I are planning to get married in April of 2010. We've decided to go to Hartford Connecticut because of it's proximity to other states that we'd like to visit. (I don't get to travel much so this will be a bonus for both of us.)

My question is this: Due to the fact that Wisconsin outlawed gay marriage via constitutional amendment, do we still purchase our rings locally or should I look for a place in Hartford that will do them for us and keep the money where we're actually welcome?

Also a co-worker last night asked me an important question. He asked if we really wanted to wait till April and asked how sure we were that gay marriage would not be overturned in those states. Does anyone know the likelihood of this happening? I do not want the most important event of my adult life to be ruined by bigots.

Thanks for your time!

If the place in Wisconsin wasn't homophobic, I don't see why you couldn't get rings there.

Gay marriage isn't going to get overturned in CT.

But I just am not sure how I feel about taxes, etc going to a state that considers us 2nd class citizens.

I know it doesn't make a lot of sense and apologize for it.

There is virtually no chance that marriage equality will be reversed in CT, VT, MA. Small chance in NH and ME.

As for purchasing your rings, maybe you could find a gay friendly jewler or craftsperson in Wisconsin and keep your purchase local.

Gotta admit though, I don't get why you chose Hartford. There are much nicer places both in CT and in VT, MA, ME and NH. Hartford is a depressing kind of city. And all of NE is pretty convenient to all other parts of NE, except for the far reaches of northern Maine. Boston is convenient, so is the Northampton area- very gay friendly. Porland in ME and Portsmouth in NH. Burlington is a neat city and there are lots of gay friendly inns throughout VT.

I'm a fan of the Mystic/Stonington area.

so is Litchfield County and the towns along the river down to the coast.

They opened a new science center in Hartford. Paul wants to see it, so he gets his wish. It might change, though. I did tell him about the comments here. He's not much on a "romantic" getaway. He's more into things that wow him.

we already considered ourselves married (and had been wearing wedding bands) for nearly 24 years. They were purchased in Ohio long before our marriage was used to drive conservatives to the polls to vote for Bush in 2004. Ten years earlier our marriage was recognized by our faith community. At that point we (accidentally) swapped rings - we had them engraved and mine needed to be resized and the jeweler accidentally engraved them in the reverse of what we had requested. It was a nice accident - she wore the ring I'm now wearing for the first 13 years of our marriage, and she is now wearing the one I had been wearing.

We did a quick legal elopement when I suddenly woke up to the fact that Ohio had passed its marriage discrimination amendment, but that it had not yet taken effect. On the legal theory that it is harder to take away rights than not to grant them in the first place (which those with California marriages will understand), we planned a quick trip to Victoria, BC, so our marriage predates the effective date of the amendment banning recognition of our marriage.

Best wishes for a long and happy marriage!

I think that giving money to people who support us is important. To that end, even though a jeweler in Milwaukee might support us the state will not. To that effect I don't see giving them more money than I already have to.