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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:02 PM
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20 some odd years ago -- my now dead partner and i bought
this place.

i took care of him here, 3 years -- saw my dad out of this world in this house, cared for him day and night for 5 years - i take care of my mom here now, she's 99.


and now i've started the process of paking it all up to move.
oh it's gonna take a while to get the job done. months really.

my mom is going through old photos and letters in the living room right now.
i just packed up a box of old elle decor magazines -- if you're a certain kind of gay guy you'd get what those mean.

my book of common prayer is packed -- i'm contemplating a picture of my dad as a little boy while i type this.

dear lord god -- but did i live all this?




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GodlessBiker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:04 PM
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1. Why are you leaving the house?
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:08 PM
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3. time for a change.
i have dear friends in durham -- and i need fresh air.
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GodlessBiker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:55 PM
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11. That's a good reason. Good luck with the move!
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:57 PM
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12. thanks -- i appreciate that. nt
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create.peace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 05:22 PM
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26. I bet the move will make you energized, a new view! nt
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 06:00 PM
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28. god i hope so -- that's why i've entered into this madness. nt
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:06 PM
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2. My dear xchrom...
You did live it, even though sometimes it seems so unreal, as though it had happened to someone else...

May your good memories sustain you...

:hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:10 PM
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5. ah -- you are so sweet.
yesterday i went through my partner B's memorial book i had done.

i've missed him for many many years.
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AndyA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:10 PM
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4. Time passes by so quickly, doesn't it?
Your parents have a great child in you, and your partner was blessed to have been with you.

When I look back at my life 20 years ago, it was completely different than it is today. I honestly can't say if that's for the better or not.

I hope your leaving your home is a choice that you've made, and not one that's been forced upon you.

Sending you good thoughts to give you strength to make it through this difficult time.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:12 PM
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7. oy -- so fast --
it's a choice.

it's a good choice -- but i'm feeling nostalgic for a moment.
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krispos42 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:11 PM
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6. You uncover a lot of memories when you move.
They come out of the blue, as you dig through a box or a drawer or a bookshelf, and smack you with emotions while you're unprepared.

I have a suitcase and a plastic tote that I lug around as I move from place to place... and I don't have the courage to look in them. And that's just a divorce.


You are going to go through some very hard moments. Given what's in your OP, strength be with you.
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Not Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:13 PM
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8. gentle xchrom
May the many happy memories sustain you for many years to come.
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foxfeet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:21 PM
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9. Hope you find the fresh air you seek.
I hate moving under any circumstances, and yet my partner and I are beginning to discuss moving back East.
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FreeState Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:23 PM
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10. Good luck with the move
their is only one certainty in life - change. Embrace it:)
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 01:59 PM
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13. i just found my platforms from the early 70s -- don't know why
i kept them -- BUT

i really should have won the 'Gays Gone Wild' award one of those years.
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 02:14 PM
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14. Which BCP? 1928 or 1979? n/t
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 02:18 PM
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15. gasp -- 1928?
Edited on Thu Jun-11-09 02:19 PM by xchrom
there were no gays then.

79 -- i love it, it's about memories.
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QC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 03:13 PM
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22. Oh well, I use the 1979, too, but i am a big fan of Rite I.
I guess I just like to acknowledge and bewail my manifold sins and wickedness sometimes, lol.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 05:59 PM
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27. Bewailing is cool.
and dragging my sins out and flogging them ritually is always good.
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mitchtv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 02:25 PM
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16. Dearest,
All the luck in the world. You remind me of what I need to do, go through two lifetimes of photos and get rid of all but the best. What to do with all those family invitations and letters. ( I'm sure no one wants them when we are gone) Partner is struggling with various health problems at 72, and I won't like this big house alone.I hope you find nothing but the best in your new surroundings
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 02:40 PM
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18. so sweet!
lol -- isn't funny what we hold on to?

but they mean so much.

i'm an only child so i really need to edit -- there will be no one for a lot of this to go to.
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mitchtv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 02:44 PM
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20. we both come from large ( catholic) families
still they don't want memories. only the furniture and my better books.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 02:57 PM
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21. ah -- that's sad.
so much of the really good stuff of our lives and families is ephemera.
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indigo32 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 02:38 PM
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17. best of luck with the move
I hope it brings what you desire. It is indeed amazing how fast time flys. But no one can take our memories of a life well lived. Many more years to you.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 02:41 PM
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19. how do we accumulate so much in so little time?
it's gonna takes months to sort it out.

BUT it has begun -- and i'm already up to twenty boxes.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 03:39 PM
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23. I hope your move goes smoothly.
I hope you are going to someplace beautiful, and nice.

:hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 06:03 PM
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30. durham! -- it's gorgeous there.
trees every where -- and the outer banks close -- as the crow flies.
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tekisui Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 04:42 PM
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24. What an experience that must be,
to travel through all those memories. Sound like you have some great genes, and great memories. I wish you the best in your move.
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 06:06 PM
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31. lol -- ya know is don't know aabout my genes -- i'm adopted.
but i do have some fabulous jeans -- prada, dolce and gabana, etc.
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tekisui Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 06:09 PM
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32. You're all set, then.
:)
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 06:14 PM
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33. i can do ANYTHING with my pradas!
:woohoo: really i'm too old for crap like that -- but i wear them anyway.

they go great with a salad of micro greens and fancy mineral water.
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 05:14 PM
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25. You lived it my friend.
Edited on Thu Jun-11-09 05:17 PM by bluedawg12
It sounds rich and full and sad and loving.

I wish I had words of great wisdom, I do not. I wish I could say something funny, I cannot.

This is your life and your journey, it's a transition, maybe some new fresher air? You are still on that journey and I wish you the very best and much more love and life to come.

I do think I understand.

:hug:

edit typo - leave it to me to mis-spell an emoticon. :P
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 06:02 PM
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29. that's what it's about -- fresh air.
and some younger love wouldn't hurt.
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 06:29 PM
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34. When confronted with the march of time
wear very high heel Pradas! :P
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 07:07 PM
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35. Grrrl! -- you FEEL me!
pointy toed very high heeled pradas.

can't you see me now in durham?

san fran fag -- in durham bull's land.

:woohoo:
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Duncan Grant Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 07:57 PM
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36. Once upon a time, I read Elle Decor (c. 1993). It's all about the mirrors. :^)
I'm happy to read that you're taking a few months to complete the process and sorry to hear you're leaving SF.

There might be a new home for some of your things at the GLBT Historical Society. Anything LGBT related (matchbooks, business cards, newspaper articles, campaign materials, t-shirts, bumper stickers, etc.) that you no longer want to keep would probably find a great home there! Especially photographs.

The Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual Transgender Historical Society (GLBTHS) collects, preserves, and interprets the history of GLBT people and the communities that support them. We sponsor exhibits and programs on an on-going basis.

http://www.glbthistory.org/


Please let me know when you put the art pottery on ebay. ;) :hug:
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-11-09 08:04 PM
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37. oh my god -- my stuff at the lgbt historical society!!!
:rofl: do i know you that well?

and how do you know i have art pottery? --

{i hope to volunteer for those guys some day}
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