Do you signify? I saw this documentary on PBS

kumbaya

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Sat Sep-05-09 09:30 PM
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Do you signify? I saw this documentary on PBS

Edited on Sat Sep-05-09 09:37 PM by kumbaya

called "After Stonewall" and they mentioned that in the past, lavender scarves were used to signal that a person (man) was gay. Well, in 2009, can a man (or woman) walk up and ask someone out without knowing that s/he's gay? Does it depend on location (like it's safe in a large city) or neighborhood?

*Edit: I was in the city today and it's an area which is popular with college students, as well as a big area for the LGBT community. I nearly fell out when I heard some stoopidly drunk college guy yell about some 'gay guy who's in the Army' and going on and on. Scary.

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imdjh

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Sat Sep-05-09 09:46 PM
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1. Other than in movies, do heterosexuals just walk up to someone and ask him or her out?

I personally, in my "Damn I'm good looking and who wouldn't want me?" period, which lasted about 5 years in my late teens and early twenties (circa 1980) have picked a guy up at Sears auto center waiting for my car, standing in a phone booth in the financial district, the electrician where I worked, a cop who picked me up for passing out in public, and assorted other spontaneous arrangements. But no, I have never walked up to the clerk at Burger King and said, "Hey Joey, would you like to come over to my house (or substitute some ruse) after work?"

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kumbaya

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Sat Sep-05-09 09:52 PM
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2. As a woman, um...yeah...all the damn time! Men are pretty forward

(although the most pushy are usually the types I wouldn't go for). I hardly think it's fair to compare, given our society. It could be dangerous for a gay man to approach a homophobic (maybe even latent) "hetero" man. I don't think with women it would be as bad, but still...

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Beregond2

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Sun Sep-06-09 12:15 AM
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3. Even in the palmy days of the late

seventies and early eighties, I never hit on some guy without knowing he was gay. Hell, even in a gay bar, it usually took me six cocktails first! But I knew some guys who did that all the time, and it amazed me how often they were successful. But that was pre-AIDS, when everyone wanted to try everything at least once. Now, if a guy is giving me the eye, it usually turns out he is going to try to recruit me for his right-wing church. Sigh.

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