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bluestateguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 04:46 PM
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Words that are like fingernails on a chalkboard to me: "The homosexual lifestyle"
I just hit the roof when I hear that condescending tripe.
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Cirque du So-What Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 04:53 PM
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1. Stereotyping writ large
Another one that is particularly galling is 'the homosexual agenda,' which implies a sinister conspiracy. That's the type of propaganda that feeds the practitioners of hate, providing a rationale in their twisted minds for carrying out acts of violence. That phrase was the deal-breaker for ceasing attendance at my wife's church over 20 years ago.
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plantwomyn Donating Member (779 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-25-10 01:35 PM
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21. I saw a sign at the march on Washington.
Gay Agenda
1. Equality
2. See #1
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paulsby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 04:54 PM
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2. because there is no such thing
just like there is no "heterosexual lifestyle"

who you are attracted to, does not define your "lifestyle". and there is obviously vast diversity in same amongst gays, just as there is amongst heteros.

it's simply factually inaccurate
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MikeE Donating Member (637 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 05:06 PM
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3. I couldn't agree more
It makes me crazy when I hear that. I usually use something a comedian once said as a reply: Buying an RV and going driving around the country is a lifestyle, being gay is an orientation.

:grouphug:
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eShirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 05:11 PM
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4. the left-handed lifestyle
the hazel-eyed lifestyle

etc
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Hissyspit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-24-10 10:12 PM
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17. Yes, the word "lifestyle" itself is pretty worthless. nt
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RetiredTrotskyite Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 05:17 PM
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5. That Makes Me Go Ballistic, Too.
I have been out for almost 40 years now and I have yet to see a "one size fits all" "lifestyle." You're right--it IS condescending tripe and I correct it every chance I get. I guess if they can convince themselves that it is a "lifestyle", they can believe it is a choice, which means (according to them) we can change, and we should then be penalised for refusing to do so.:banghead:
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Not Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 05:39 PM
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6. It's even worse when they inject the word "choose" into the sentence
Some people don't get out enough.
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Strathos Donating Member (713 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 07:28 PM
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7. Absolutely
Agree 100%. Funny how different races run around screaming about being discriminated against and yet those very same people will discriminate against homosexuals.

Face it folks, Gay is the new Black!
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Libertas1776 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 07:33 PM
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8. Ooh,
don't forget the "homosexual agenda," you know, they teach ya all that stuff at gay boot camp when you join the team :sarcasm:
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xfundy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 11:30 PM
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10. Well...
I, for one, am still enjoying the fabu toaster I got when I decided to join "the homosexual lifestyle." It was made in AMERICA, too, as I was a child when I was reassured by every book I could get my hands on (including boy scout and other religious materials) that it was "just a phase."

praise the many gods it wasn't! And the toaster weighs a ton and could withstand the impact of most any modern vehicle.
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jgraz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-23-10 07:36 PM
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9. I make a point of using the phrase "The Christian Lifestyle" as much as possible.
Try it around your Christian friends and family. Fun for everybody.
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Betty Karlson Donating Member (902 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-25-10 02:46 AM
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18. That phrase has already been coined
and defined. It includes:

* be humble
* equality between man and woman, slave and freeman, all races
* love your fellow man
* do not hold your own opinion to be equal to God's law

When you think about it, there's an awful lot of Christians NOT living the Christian lifestyle.
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plantwomyn Donating Member (779 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-25-10 01:39 PM
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22. It should include
be humble enough to realize that your interpetation of God's law may be wrong
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Betty Karlson Donating Member (902 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-25-10 07:44 PM
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23. It does.
At least ever since Gadamer developed his brand of theology.
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HippieCowgirl Donating Member (242 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-24-10 12:54 AM
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11. I've seen a copy of the homosexual agenda...
And the god-fearing bigots need to be afraid.

It was posted on my uncles' fridge: It went something like this:

Don't Forget!
Post office
Home Depot
eggs, lemons, muffins
P/U (Name) after school

Shocking, isn't it?
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Yurovsky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-24-10 04:13 PM
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15. How could you forget...
"recruit others to the lifestyle"

Rev. Falwell warned us all to beware! FWIW, I wonder if it's hot enough down there for the Rev???
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Meeker Morgan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-24-10 08:56 AM
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12. And how!
A particularly galling variation is being told by someone who thinks they are oh so tolerant " ... but I don't agree with your lifestyle"

Not that it makes any big deal difference, but I'm an older man who was in the closet a long time and who managed to get by on a masculine appearance and a shoeshine. At least that was the theory.

That lifestyle didn't agree with me.

I have been out since 1991. Such a relief. No I didn't start mincing, nor grabbing every male ass in sight.

What is my "lifestyle"? Mostly it's just minding my own business, but without hiding what I am like a deep dark secret.
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muffin1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-24-10 10:00 PM
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16. Something about the word "tolerate"
irritates me, too. It seems much nicer to be "accepted".
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Toasterlad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-24-10 09:19 AM
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13. That And "Preference".
Drives me nuts.
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beyurslf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-24-10 01:53 PM
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14. I have asked people what that is supposed to mean anyway.
I am single, not dating, have 4 kids, work full time, go to school, have a wide variety of friends, and spend a good amount of free time with family. Do I live the "homosexual lifestyle" simply because I am attracted to the same sex because my life is pretty boring.
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amb123 Donating Member (764 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-25-10 07:03 AM
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19. Answer: "Homosexuality is Life - Not a lifestyle."
:patriot:
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closeupready Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-25-10 11:43 AM
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20. Men who employ that term are almost always struggling with their own homosexual desires.
Because in their minds, gay people are those who 'lost' that struggle - overlooking the inconvenient fact that most of us who are gay are NOT attracted in any romantic or sexual way to the opposite sex.
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