I got the evil eye this morning

I happened to catch my normally modest 14 year old bending over the counter. Her shirt was rather skimpy so I told her her boobies were hanging out. She whipped around and with a remarkable resemblance to Linda Blair in the Exorcist told my husband and I "You guys are just so mature" She then ran to her room and changed her shirt without further discussion.

I'm so happy that I have an "easier to raise" teen-ager.

her "boobies" were hanging out.

TELL me you used different words!

If not, and since you said it in front of dad, she was probably horrifically embarrassed - at least it sounds like she was.

With our three daughters, we use a different approach. First of all, we don't call their breasts tits, boobs, boobies, or funbags - you get the idea. They're breasts. Secondly, if they need a wardrobe adjustment, I simply say something gentle such as, "Are you going to have trouble at school wearing that shirt?" They get the message without being embarrassed. Thirdly, I make sure that I DON'T say things in front of their dad that would make them feel uncomfortable.

So, if she had been my daughter was bending over, and SINCE she is usually modest, I probably would quietly say, "I don't know if you realize it, but when you bend down, I can see your breasts. You might want to change that shirt. Just telling you."