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Minimus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-01-04 06:51 PM
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I had to put my best buddy down today. I am so so sad.
It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do but I keep telling myself he is at peace now. He had another really bad time last night and it was selfish of me to keep him around to satisfy my needs.

Please, anyone that has been through this, tell me I will not feel like this forever. I am so upset, I feel this gigantic hole in my chest and the emotion just overwhelms me to the point that I feel I may not recover.

Rest in peace my sweet little boy. Please know how much mommy loves you and how wonderful you made my life. I miss you.

Sonic
1991-2004
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Shoeempress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-01-04 08:26 PM
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1. It will get better, but not for a while. I'm so sorry. Had to do it with
2 so far, and it never gets easy to do. I really am so sorry, it just sucks.
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Princess Turandot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-01-04 09:05 PM
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2. I'm so very sorry for your loss..
you'll know in time that you acted selflessly with his best interest in your heart.
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underseasurveyor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-01-04 09:48 PM
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3. Oh sweetie if I could wrap my arms around you
and hug you right now........ (((I'm so sorry Minimus)))

The hole will be there for a while, expect that, but it will get better I promise it will. Sonic had a most wonderful life filled with comfort, happiness and joy and he was the luckiest boy to have shared his life with the warm loving heart of you, his Mommy.

I know it's tough right now but someday soon when you think of Sonic you will smile as you remember the sheer joy you brought each other and how you are so blessed that Sonic loves you and trusted you to take care of him and in return he without hesitation shared his great animal heart and spirit with you.

Today you unselfishly returned that love and trust in full.
You honor Sonic's precious life and he will forever be a part of you.

Big Huge Hugs to you Minimus
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SnohoDem Donating Member (915 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-01-04 10:57 PM
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4. My best friend, Mac,
my little Scotty, died yesterday. I know how you feel. It is devastating but you will recover. You did the right thing.

I work at home, and for the last ten years Mac's always been right here with me, sleeping quietly in my office while I worked, then happy and running about when I was done for the day. He helped me do everything from cooking to painting the house to gardening. I miss him terribly.

But if the pain we feel for weeks or months after our pets die is the price we pay for the years of joy they give us, then that price is cheap, and I will gladly pay it.


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underseasurveyor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-01-04 11:24 PM
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5. Big Hugs for you too SnohoDem
I'm sorry about the loss of your Scotty dog, Mac. :cry:
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Scout Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-01-04 11:45 PM
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6. it will get better eventually....
I had to put one dog down years ago; I'd had him half my life! It was awful, I cried and cried. But he was suffering, and it would have been a slow death.

Ten years ago my other dog ate a whole bottle of No-Doz while I was gone. I came home and she was dead of a stroke or heart attack. I really felt bad over that, and can still make myself cry if I think about her.

Both times I lost my companions, it was awful for a while, and still hurts some even now. BUT, my house did not feel like a home without a dog in it for long, and now I have my 10 year old labrador. I raised her from a puppy. She has been great and we've had lots of fun together, I hope she has many more years.

Go ahead and let yourself feel bad. Get out your sweeties photos, and make an album. Keep a little toy or his tags put away with mementos, but remove all other reminders of him that you can. At least for a while, until you feel better.

:hug:
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Longhorn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-02-04 08:16 AM
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7. I understand.
I had to do it almost three years ago to Sandy, our sweet cocker spaniel/golden retriever mix who was 17-1/2 -- we adopted him from the shelter when he was just about 10 months old.

We know when we adopt these pets that they won't live forever but it is especially difficult when we have to make the decision ourselves. However, what you did was out of love and your little Sonic knew that he was loved. The pain will subside but he will not be forgotten. I'm sorry for your pain but thanks for sharing Sonic with us. :hug:
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-02-04 12:00 PM
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8. You did the right thing..it won't always be like this
You will remember your Sonic as the vibrant friend he was, not the ill dog that was in pain.

I am so sorry you had to go through this but he is out of pain now and perhaps it is the most generous thing we can do for our pets is to let them go rather than suffer.

Here's a :hug:
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SW FL Dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-02-04 12:09 PM
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9. I am so sorry!
I had to put my Maggie down in 1999, it still hurts but I know I made the right decision. You showed Sonic how much you loved him by ending his suffering. When I lost Maggie, my vet sent me a poem "Rainbow Bridge" that helped me. Here is a link to an online version.

http://rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm

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gypsy11 Donating Member (286 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-02-04 12:36 PM
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10. I had to do that
to my beloved Gizmo cat in May of 2003. She was my animal soul mate and we were together for 14 years. I thought I would die when she left me... But it did get better. I still miss her and think of her often. I keep her picture by my bed.
:hug: to you... It will get better...Time heals.
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Pathwalker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-02-04 01:00 PM
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11. Time WILL lessen the pain, I promise.
You will never forget your wonderful companion, but in time you will be able to recall wonderful moments you shared, and believe it or not, laugh through the tears.

May I make a suggestion? Find a favorite picture and have it photocopied onto heat transfer paper, iron that onto a piece of cloth that you can attatch directly to a pillow or iron it onto the pillow itself. You can hug, kiss, or just talk to the pillow, or go to sleep with it in your arms.

I did that on a pillow for my Beloved cats who died last year. I had to put down one of them, so I know what your pain feels like. Keep a picture around for now - it will help.

Sending you thought hugs. :grouphug:
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devinsgram Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-02-04 04:05 PM
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12. I am so sorry for your loss,
My cocker spaniel, Molly, is in bad health, and I am dreading that I may have to do this soon, but I just don't know how I will bring myself to do it.
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Coyote_Bandit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-02-04 11:08 PM
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13. Hugs for You
Edited on Fri Dec-03-04 12:02 AM by Coyote_Bandit
I have 2 little boys. The youngest is a renal failure dog diagnosed at 5 months of age. I know everyday with him is a gift. And I fear the inevitable - knowing that if I love him someday I will have to choose to let him go rather than prolong his misery through a slow painful death. All of my furkids have had a special place in my heart. It hurts to lose them. It also hurts to watch them suffer. Sometimes it seems as if there are no good choices. Perhaps a peaceful passage might be considered a final gift by and to one who is suffering. I'm sure you did the best you could for the little furkid entrusted into your care.

On edit: My 300th post. Wow. Hope you found some comfort in it.
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Minimus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-03-04 10:34 AM
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14. Thanks to all for your kind thoughts and words
It has been a really hard couple of days. I still have these overwhelming moments of sorrow that I feel I will never recover from. I miss Sonic dearly. At times I think I see him or hear him in the house and the grief just overtakes me.

I did find a poem that has helped, although I cannot read it withour bawling my eyes out. I want to share for anyone who would have to go through this tough decision. Sometimes what is best for our loved pets is not what is best for us.


From a Grateful Dog

You're giving me a special gift,
So sorrowfully endowed,
And through these last few cherished days,
Your courage makes me proud.
But really, love is knowing
When your best friend is in pain,
And understanding earthly acts
Will only be in vain.
So looking deep into your eyes,
Beyond, into your soul,
I see in you the magic that will
Once more make me whole.
The strength that you possess,
Is why I look to you today,
To do this thing that must be done,
For it's the only way.
That strength is why I've followed you,
And chose you as my friend,
And why I've loved you all these years...
My partner till the end.
Please, understand just what this gift
You're giving, means to me,
It gives me back the strength I've lost,
And all my dignity.
You take a stand on my behalf,
For that is what friends do.
And know that what you do is right,
For I believe it, too.
So one last time, I breathe your scent,
And through your hand I feel,
The courage that's within you,
To grant me this appeal.
Cut the leash that holds me here,
Dear friend, and let me run,
Once more a strong and steady dog,
My pain and struggle done.
And don't despair my passing,
For I won't be far away,
Forever here, within your heart,
And memory I'll stay.
I'll be there watching over you,
Your ever-faithful friend,
And in your memories I'll run,
... a young dog once again.

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Phentex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-03-04 12:27 PM
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15. I know how it hurts.
we had to do that in the past and it is so difficult. But it's the right thing to do. Hugs to you!
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xultar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-04-04 06:38 PM
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16. Just know he's @ the rainbow bridge waiting for you....
O8)
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Eurobabe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Dec-04-04 07:12 PM
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17. Tragedy when we lose our furkids, sorry for your loss...
feel better soon, your angel is across the rainbow bridge.
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