My man. Unsure if he's loving or leaving. Please send vibes.

So my dream guy, the one I thought was "The One", is clearly distancing himself from me.

This is a guy who has always been loving, cuddly and warm and very physically affectionate. He tells me he loves me pretty regularly (about every other day). When we are together, he can't keep his hands off me (not sexually--just lots of pets and caressing).

Two weeks ago we had a big fight. Lots of tears and drama on my end--the whole thing lasted a couple of hours and left us both emotionally exhausted. In the end, we decided to stay together because we both feel a strong bond and we love each other.

Since then, he has stopped 75% of his affection. He almost never pets me anymore, although he still wants to have sex. He is colder now and in two whole weeks has not said "I love you." Tonight, one of our usual date nights, he opted to just stay home, and got pissy with me when I acted disappointed.

I guess I have lost him. I love him so much and feel so sad right now. :( I am a Leo and he was my perfect Aries guy...

As a Leo, I'll offer some advice. Leave him be. Don't call. If he realizes your value and decides he wants the relationship, let him call you. Give him space to make that decision. If it doesn't happen, it wasn't meant to be.

First of all, go to inner guidance and ask if you have lost him. Trust your guidance. If it says there is a chance,
then have a heart to heart with your man. Ask him what is wrong, what you can do to mend the relationship.

Sounds like he needs a bit of space. When people need that, about the only thing that works is to give it to them.

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When someone treats me like they no longer appreciate me, I take the hint and find my own space.

Some guys are kind of allergic to drama. It may have scared him a bit. It's odd the way people react to drama--some people thrive on it and others just can't tolerate it. Maybe it is related partially to astrology.

I am sending intention into the situation, for the best result for the highest good of all concerned.

:hug:

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Could he be distancing himself because he doesn't want to be "taken advantage of"? Some guys get like that (Mr. MG is one)--if they find themselves off-balance after a fight, they feel like they put too much of themselves "out there" with affection and all "that stuff", so they circle the wagons.

Sending light so your situation sorts itself out with the best result for all involved. :hug:

and that I hurt his trust in me.

He basically said he feels that just when things are going well, I have a dramatic outburst that makes him retreat. It's happened a few times but this last was by far the worst.

He said he didn't know if he could put himself "out there" again. I asked what "out there" meant, and he basically said being emotionally available and with his heart on his sleeve.

So now his heart is not on his sleeve, and hasn't been for two weeks. In fact, I can't tell where his heart is at all now. It is almost like he finds me annoying somehow. I so miss his little affectionate touches and "I love you's". They meant more to me than I realized.

I finally broke down today when we were lying in bed, and I just said "I love you". I was scared he wouldn't say it back, but he did. So that is all I have to go on right now. That and the fact that he hasn't totally ended it.

How do you feel about what amounts to "conditional love"?

Maybe I'm influenced by my personal experiences, but lately I've been starting to think it might not be such a hot deal, not so easy to overlook.

But the affection might be. Which I can somewhat understand (if I were upset deeply by someone, my affection level might change for awhile I guess).

Very few go smoothly all the time. Hopefully this will get back on track soon.

Just a guess. ((((( amitten )))))