Facebook?

I know we don't want to post our full names and such, but if anyone wants to be friends on Facebook, maybe we can PM one another?

I was there doing my daily three-minute perusal of posts and thought of you guys, and wished I knew some of you there.

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I was just looking at my facebook page, reading everyone's posts, and feeling a little...unsatisfied. It's so disconnected. So I came here and - voila! - your post asking about being on facebook!

If you're going to stop posting here, I would facebook friend you, but honestly I prefer the more open give-and-take that this site allows.

discuss anything of importance there. LOLOL. I TRY not to, at least. :)

Still, there's something satisfying about seeing other aspects of friends lives that FB provides.

For discussion, not so much. LOL. Well, not at all, really. ;) I TOTALLY agree!

The people I grew up with, and tend to be connected to via FB are, I'm discovering, VERY conservative, even some hardcore right-wingers thrown in there. I discovered the "hide" button recently. :)

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When I do post there, it's not fluff - and it gets no response from my friends. Why, truly, do people bother? When I have something I want to discuss, this is where I go.

It's an interesting study of society and human nature in these modern times. It's a connection, though not a deep connection in most cases at FB.

Yet feeling connected can mean so much, especially when it's connections to those who knew us in our youth and formative years. There's something very special about that to me.

We don't REALLY know one another, most of the people who are "friends" at FB.

I kind of see it like the proverbial tapestry of one's life, but it's space such as this where the tapestry is lifted to reveal what is behind the tapestry.

I wasn't a fan of FB and still don't understand how people spend so much time there taking quizzes and such...lol...but I've grown fond of it.

:)

I was also thinking of really "torquing down" my FB people and just leaving those I want to hear about my everyday life...keep it more close knit, you know?

hehe...make my connections more conscious, eh?

I think that has more to do with the neck of the woods we were in (South).

I'm a tad reluctant to do the FB thing, because the thing I like about DU is we can form our own images of each other based on our personalities, not our looks. Maybe that's because I don't look so good these days! LOL
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I don't look so good these days either! All my pics are of my kid--now HE'S cute.
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If anybody wants to PM me with their FB names (or look up my name there, for those who know my full name from my blog and articles), give me a shout! My friend list is way too topheavy with old high school classmates I never had anything in common with.
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On edit: What are we all doing up so early (and online no less) on a Saturday morning? Well okay, I can blame MG Jr. but still--! :D

When I read the post on here yesterday, with the video of the Mayan Elder, I was thinking of posting it on Facebook....but then something told me to WAIT ! I want to see the reactions of my family members to the 2012 movie first! I'm sure they will see it, and probably some will FREAK OUT! I'm saving it for when they do. If they don't, well then they probably wouldn't believe it anyway! lol

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Yeah, I often wonder what my CATHOLIC HIGH SCHOOL (many still conservative) peeps think when they see my other stuff on my profile!
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about my upcoming tests. It's like...."I don't want to find out what's going on in my brain"!! I guess I'm trying to bury my head in the proverbial sand!!! I'm having tests done on Tuesday (lip biopsy too)! I NEED MY ANGELS by my side. You know I'll keep you all posted, 'cause I need you guys as much as I need to breathe !! You all understand. Love ya girl!

love & light that those tests go well & turn out good for you. (Didn't want to say "positive" because that might actually be a negative. Well, hope you know what I mean.....) Lots of love. :loveya:
SC

I too have a slight addiction to Facebook, though I've been told I "control my message" very well (!) Like OGR, I like re-connecting with those from my youth....and yes, a lot of them have oddly turned out to be uber-conservative.

My favorite use, as a college teacher, is keeping tabs on my students. I mean, once they're graduated and gone. I don't want to come across as a stalker!

So whoever's so inclined, friend away!

and the reply to me earlier, I think I'm not a great fan because there's no one in my youth (not a youth I'd like to repeat in another life) that I want to reconnect with.

I grew up in a close-knit little community, but oddly didn't really keep in touch with anyone....just started to feel the urge to re-connect when I reached my forties. Trying to find people with shared memories and experiences, I suppose, since the more I learn about the world the more I realize that little community was not quite the norm for most people my age.

Facebook, and I got something like 34%, which seems quite high. I've only been actively using it for a few months, but I've really enjoyed it -- surprisingly. (I was sort of forced to go there initially because my family posted photos there.)

I'd love to be anyone's friend who is interested. However, be warned -- I'm REALLY into FarmVille, Cafe World, etc; you know, the really IMPORTANT things in life! :rofl: (Actually, right before I got into these little games, I had a reading with a gentleman who said that I was supposed to find something fun that was nothing more than that. I wasn't supposed to be concerned about the end result. Immediately after that, a friend invited me to play FarmVille, and the rest is history! Last night, I was thinking that maybe I needed an intervention! ;))

Delphinus, none of my Facebook friends are friends from my youth. Most are family, a few are coworkers, a few are my physical friends, and quite a few are people that have just added me because we've interacted on Facebook. (i.e., friends of friends.)

I really don't discuss politics on Facebook, but I don't hesitate to discuss spirituality when it comes up. There are also some interesting groups on there, although I don't spend much time with them. (I'd like to change that though since I think that there's a lot to learn.)

;)

Actually, nearly everyone I know -- from my teenage daughter to relatives in their 60's on FB -- is doing whatever one does on Farmville. LOL

I'm just afraid to try anything like that because I'll probably get addicted and want to kick myself, so I'm staying strong. :)

I took one quiz: What's your "ho" name or ghetto name...something like that.

I think the fact that I can't -- or shouldn't -- use profanity on FB keeps me from engaging more as well.

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I keep saying "NOTHING ELSE!", but I keep getting pulled in because my friends are having so much fun discussing what they're doing. :D

At the end of the day, it's really a lot of work for nothing but fake coins! Haha!

are you my friend? LOL!!
It is a lovely sense of fake accomplishment.
*remembers she had a 12 hour crop due a day ago in Farmville...damn!!*

I hate it when I go on and things have withered. It usually happens to me when I plant flowers because I want to keep them around as long as I can since they're so pretty. Invariably, I forget when I planted them and they start dying.

I'm definitely only an ARMCHAIR farmer though; I HATE dirt under my fingernails! :D

I keep getting sucked into more and more FB games. Thaking care of my Farmville farm has become just as demanding as caring for my real horses, cats and dogs. But you gotta get those crops before they wither! LOL - "for nothing but fake coins." So true!

:D

:hi:, vanboggie!

I am not into the games, but love posting whatever strikes my warped brain, politics, spirituality, sports (I am a huge college basketball fan, LOL), crafts. I love seeing what kind of reaction I get. I have some fun with a lot of my FB friends, some old friends who have developed along lines that mesh well with my development, and folks I know in daily life currently. Some people who are really RW either never comment, or in the case of one, get inspired to rant and rave all their RW talking points on their own page in rataliation (so funny).

I guess I am just very into my own little craft projects I have started up this fall so would rather take my obsessive nature out on something I can touch than Farmville (though that wouldn't be the knitting I had to pull out because of a guage mistake last night), but a lot of my FB friends are very much into it and enjoy it. Six in one, half-dozen in another. I am AT LEAST as obsessive as anyone on Farmville or Yo-ville.

school, I wouldn't be interested. I have a few DUer's friended. I also have, Edgar Cayce, Nikola Tesla, Nassim Haramein, David Swanson (after Downing street), Cindy Sheehan ... Those are the folks that make it worthwhile for me.

that it was all about connecting to old friends. I joined after finding out that it could be a good marketing tool. I didn't imagine connection with friends and family could be so satisfying, and the surprisingly cool groups, like Cayce's - great place for doses of positivity, grounding, empowerment and never-ending reminders of connection to Spirit.

I just de-friended about half the people on my Facebook...I posted that "if you can read this, you survived the cut. If you aren't up for my bad language, liberal views or other offensive materials, you can either unfriend me or brace yourself!" lol

anyone here at ASAH who wants to venture into that territory of CONSCIOUS CONNECTION can PM me :)

A month or so ago I replaced the picture of myself in a mundane "Kentucky Wildcats" tee shirt with a picture of myself with a picture of the President on it that my sister got me for my birthday and mysteriously the friend requests from the folks I went to school with back in small town Appalachia stopped coming in. Fancy that!

I haven't gotten rid of anyone yet, but if anyone can't deal with me I figure they are more than welcome to unfriend me, LOL! I can get kind of serious and reflective in my posts, though I do some fluff too and like to be funny.

(if they haven't already), and evaluate the patterns of those who use it.

In reading here, I find the whole thing fascinating. :) Why we use it, why we don't, how we use it, etc.

I'm super visual, so I basically just like to see...as much as I can see. What has especially wigged me out is seeing the children of people I went to school with. Keep in mind that I haven't seen many of these people in close to 30 years, so their children are how I still envision THEM.

Very weird...freaked me out at first, but I think I've accepted this age thing now. I don't LIKE it, but I'm accepting it. ;)

In a general forum like FB (well, my friend list is very eclectic to say the least...lol), I really do my best to avoid confrontation. Here, on the other hand, I know I'm coming into a very specific environment for discussion of important things, so I have my suit of armor on when I dive in at DU, though I can remove it here at ASAH. :)

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It's really interesting to read this discussion, but it's like a foreign language to me. LOL It's just never seemed interesting enough to me to get involved. I can't think of anyone from my childhood or even early adulthood who would either actually be ON Facebook, or with whom I'd even care to have any contact. Man, now I feel OLD. :D Out of touch. heh How would anyone from back then even find me, since my name isn't the same? I'm pretty private, too, and don't usually post my picture or pictures of my family or pets or home on the internet. And I'm pretty close-mouthed, generally speaking, about my real name and such online. I guess I really had "online safety" stuff drilled into my head in the 90s. Or maybe I've just had too many bad experiences with internet stalkers (truly, I have). I'm intrigued by this discussion, but still not sure how much I'd get out of it. Maybe I'm just not trusting enough. Or maybe I really am just getting old. ;) Hmmm...

I've always been very private (I've primarily been a ghostwriter, for cryin' out loud...lol) and I don't DO pictures, taking them nor having them taken of me.

If you sign up including your maiden name, they'll find you. :)

I was stunned. Within 24 hours of signing up (just because I felt I should for business reasons, NEVER intending to actually engage...lol), I had like 50 people from ages ago friend me. It's like an online class reunion. I can't imagine my high school is much different from others. I know people in their 50's and 60's saying the same thing, experiencing the same thing.

Plus, many people are signing up simply to stay in touch with kids and grandkids...to have instant access to photos and just a daily connection that younger people are apt to do via Facebook than email or any other means of communication.

And having a teenager and seeing how it is THE means of communication (though they chat privately and don't put all their "stuff" on the public walls...lol), it became more normal for me.

I hear what you're saying though.

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I am pretty basic and boring a lot of times on Facebook, but then will post a bunch of stuff to make the steam roll out of my conservative home town people's heads (especially my first cousin who doesn't think the term "Christian Conservative" is conservative enough for him).

I have really gotten into old Facebook though and post quite often, it has enabled me to reconnect with some great people and connect with people I dearly love on a more frequent level. It has even allowed me to get to know the mate of my dearest childhood friend, so in those respects is a great tool. But it has also resulted in my posting things the "Yoville" and "Farmville" players would never dream of posting in their cautious game addictions; like things regarding social issues and politics.

So if anyone would like to be my Facebook Friend and can stomach seeing my more mundane posts about college basketball, or the joy of getting new knitting needles, please PM me; I would LOVE it. I am sure most of you have seen my somewhat sarcastic sense of humor here so that would be nothing new! :P

the video and photo I've "shared" from my DIL's account isn't showing up for other people on my Wall!
:grr: I had a friend on the phone last night and even though I can see it on my Wall, she can't.
Any idea what's up with that?

Don't feel bad, I'm still learning my way around the "site"!! I'm trying to figure out at the moment, how to keep EVERY post from my list of "friends" from being sent to my email!!!! It's mind blowing!! I actually had to get MG's help to post pictures of my Bichon posted to my profile!

I can see them on my Wall, but no one else can? They are *Shared* from my DIL's account. Could it be she has made a setting that doesn't allow me to share her video/photo?

I get an Oops message that something went wrong & they are in the process of fixing it. Been almost a month now & no fix yet. I suspect it's because I'm on dial-up, but not sure. If you have broadband access, I would think your problem might be otherwise.

My inbox seldom comes up on the first click.I have to hit it several timed or refresh several times before it loads.

I reconnected with lots of my cousins, who I typically only see once a year, if then. They are all good Irish public servants like myself, and I love reading their posts about what mundane thing they're doing that day, like me.

In another instance, an estranged high-school pal found me and friended me. Because of her married name, I had no idea who she was, until I saw the pic. I then knew her immediately and said okay, why not? A week later she called me on the phone, we laughed and talked for an hour, my husband overheard my end of the conversation and said "say hello to your mom for me." Who else would I talk to like that? LOL. After 20 years being estranged over a rather stupid falling out, we are friends again now.

Yes, I think about deleting some people I have friended, but haven't yet (but for one or two) and I hide the posts of people I don't really care about. I am very careful what I post, because employers do use it (I once asked the daughter of a friend of mine to facebook search for a couple of people I was thinking I might hire).

The very first person who sucked me into facebook was one of my night-class students. Low and behold, immediately I discovered we had another person in common from a completely different area of our lives. I keep waiting for that to happen again.

All in all, an amazing tool. Yet to reach it's potential, I suspect, much like the internet at the start.

It is such a small world, really. Maybe if we all found each other on facebook, it would turn out that we know people who know people, you know?

"I keep waiting for that to happen again. All in all, an amazing tool. Yet to reach it's potential, I suspect, much like the internet at the start. It is such a small world, really. Maybe if we all found each other on facebook, it would turn out that we know people who know people, you know?"

Callie, I agree!! It's already happened this morning, though not to a significant degree. I have this sense that I'm coming down the stairs Christmas morning, knowing there is a delightful surprise awaiting me.

Whether it's the Internet in general or Facebook, I have always felt a delightful -- perhaps life changing -- connection is only a moment away.

Very cool. :)

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That is exactly how I feel about it. It's a great tool! I like reconnecting and connecting more with people. I am INTENSELY shy and don't call people on the phone and often don't even want to trouble them with email, so it has been a very good way for me to renew and enlarge some relationships.

I don't like to push myself on people. Facebook is a nice way to interact. :)

It's weird; you don't seem shy. :hug:

But I don't initiate well, just don't want to be a bother. I am fine when discussing things I am interested in but have trouble entering conversations with people I don't know well, throwing stuff out on FB is fun because I don't feel like I am trying to enter a conversation with a specific person and can interact if someone responds.

I wouldn't have pegged you for shy either.

Well, you just keep throwing stuff out there, 'cause I think you're brilliant and funny and enjoy you tremendously.

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You are very kind to this frizzy-haired, nerdy gal originally from Paintsville, KY (all of 5,000 people!).

Truth is, when I interact with someone in person or even online like here, whether it is very positive or not I feel like hiding immediately afterward, strange sensation. I so easily over-load with people, but I also love people. Maybe just being a Cancer in full, want my shell now and then.

Guess i picked the wrong site to diss facebook on lol:blush: i agree that it could be useful, and there are certainly a lot of people from my past life that i wouldn't mind catching up with...

Three things bother me: that you can't look someone's pictures without registering (at least i haven't figured it out); the kind of high schoolishness of it all as people "unfriend" and flame each other (a total waste of time and energy imho); and most of all, the complete lack of privacy that seems to be getting worse...per this link...

http://www.thebigmoney.com/articles/0s-1s-and-s/2009/08/11/now-facebook-really-owns-you :tinfoilhat:

Doesn't say somewhere in the bible that in the endtimes everything would be shouted from the rooftops? lol

:)

Pros and cons to everything, and for most here both are very, very visible.

Your first point doesn't concern me, about not being able to see pics without registering. I know the whole registering thing can be overwhelming and part of selling one's soul, 'cause you know people are making money off of it, but I don't want my "stuff" visible to just anyone. Personally, I'm okay with that aspect.

I haven't experienced the flaming stuff, but I've DEFINITELY been surprised by the conservative nature of most of the people from my past. Very surprised. In fact, it feels like the Internet in general has been taken over by right-wingers in the last year. :(

And, yes, to the third point. Just being online in many ways benefits those we decry having so much power. *sighs* A give and take all the time. I'm always weighing the pros and cons, but this is a huge deal. I agree.

I was also going to post how, for security sake, I never post my real birthday. I mean, I think this is the ONLY site (other than linkedin for business) where I use my given name. But I never accompany that with the correct birthday. I think the combination of the two are dangerous for identity theft reasons.

So when FB shows it's my birthday, it's going to be incorrect. :rofl:

Oh well....but, please feel free to post whatever your thoughts are here. We're pretty diverse about our opinions, and respect is the core of our relationship here. :)

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EDIT for clarity and because my brain is numb

i never use my real birthday, not for identy theft so much, but that i always lie about my age :evilgrin:

And then for good measure, i always use the address i lived at 10 years ago, and if something random asks for my zipcode, i lie about that too...i know that if anyway really cares they can look up the ip address, but oh well...

It does seem like the biggest generation gap right now is between us middle age folks who are suspicious of all authority and marketers and the younger kids who give up all their personal information (including nude pics,what's that about???) without a second thought.

It does seem to be an age thing, though I've tried to hammer these things into my daughter for years. I think she is more cautious than most (I hope!).

Now I'm trying to impress the same on my mother, who is new to all this.

I do the same thing with the zip code. ;)

I'm pretty paranoid about online privacy too, and didn't sign up on FB for a long time because of it. And I hate to admit it, but its been great. I've reconnected with old friends and family, and even an aunt that we lost track of 15 years ago.

I used my real b'day on facebook but I don't have it displayed. And instead of my real first name I used my nickname that I was mainly known by "back home". Aside from privacy, that made it easier for old friends to connect as well.

I don't even have my birthday showing. I don't even want the day mentioned here in this group, although I don't mind anyone in this group knowing it. It's only because it really is too visible for my comfort level.

I think it does!

I resist aggregation. I don't use the year of my birth at FB. youtube would now allow me to use my gmail account to logon, but I resist. I keep my old identity which is completely separate from my google business. My name is very common, so a google search will turn up lots of false positives. I did discover that my amazon wish lists were "public", so I changed them all to "private". I keep all my flickr photos marked "private" also. I think twitter is boring. And Digg never seems to work for me.

If you dislike Facebook, that's certainly your prerogative, and you definitely have the right to voice it here. :)

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I'm on MorningGlow's list; last name starts with K. Same picture that I posted here a while back is my profile pic. If you still have trouble; PM me.
:)

When my furnace problem is "resolved" I intend to "freind" you ! I'm on MG's list too! Initials BJS!!