Twin Flames Re-unite

I haven’t posted here recently, but I’ve been going through an incredible experience that I thought I would share with everyone.

About six weeks ago ago I reconnected via Facebook with a woman I’d lost touch with in 1983. We’d been very close friends for 11 years before that, starting with what was in retrospect instant recognition during our first meeting in 1972.

She found me first, and when I got her friend request on Facebook I almost jumped out of my skin. It happened right on the full moon on March 30. We connected by phone within minutes, and in the first minute of that call we realized we’d made the biggest mistake of our lives by splitting up 27 years ago. Before the call ended we were totally in love.

Since then things have only deepened. We are apparently identical on every level – intellectual, emotional, experiential and spiritual. We’ve both been through very Dark Nights of the Soul, have both made and lost small fortunes and been married twice. We both searched for each other unsuccessfully during our long separation. Despite our widely separated paths we have arrived at exactly the same spiritual position - non-dual awareness coupled to a cosmology based on the teachings of Seth.

She lives in LA (she’s a Canadian ex-pat) and I’m in Ottawa, so we’ve been talking on the phone a lot - over 100 hours in the last month. I flew down and spent a week with her that was absolute bliss. I’m flying down to LA again to bring her back to Ottawa in less than two weeks. Our goal is never to be apart again for the rest of our lives unless it’s absolutely unavoidable, and even then for as little time as possible.

We have never felt so connected, so merged with another human being. It’s like being re-united with my right hemisphere and finally having a whole brain. We feel like we have spent lifetimes together, and I’m starting to get some very interesting memories about her that point in that direction. We’re becoming literally telepathic.

We’re both pushing 60 now, and we had almost given up on dreams like this. But only almost, because both of us kept that little flame alive. And now the twin flames have found each other. It’s like something out of a novel.

A big lesson in all this is about not ever giving up hope. During our dark nights of the soul we both contemplated suicide. We now understand why suicide is considered to produce such bad karma. To have short-circuited something like this would have been a travesty, and discovering later on what we had done would have been devastating.

For someone who has been a hard-nosed, ego-bound, scientific, dualistic, reductionist, materialist atheist for 57 of the 59 years of my current incarnation, this is a completely transcendental, utterly liberating experience. I never imagined that a human being could feel this much joy.

Thank you so much for reading this.

Namaste,
Bodhisantra

I found my true love after two messy divorces and a couple of broken engagements. I was 39 and he was 48. We've been together nearly 16 years now.

We met at a Unitarian Universalist Church.

Yes, you can find happiness when you are older.

:hug:

Let's hear it for gray-haired love! :toast:

Just Wow is all I can think or feel. This is a remarkable story of life's miracles that goes well beyond coincidence.
I wish you many, many more years together of this amazing, natural and wonderful bonding.

thanks for sharing.

overflowing.


I have a friend who has been alone for what seems too many years, but I know someone's coming.

So happy for you, GG! :hug:

Interesting--this very same thing happened to a good friend of mine, right around the same time! She's also over the moon/delirious with happiness. Seems like "it's time" for people to find each other.

It's so wonderful to hear these inspiring, touching stories of twin flames finding each other...at any age!

May you have many happy days for the rest of your lives, GG! :hi:

I told my story to a woman here at work today, and she said that a middle-aged man she knew had just reconnected with his Grade 7 girlfriend, and they've just gotten married. Facebook strikes again - who knew FB would turn out to be a tool of the divine? ;-)

And LOL that's something you don't expect to read: "FB a tool of the divine"!
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But I'm a firm believer that technology is neutral and can be used for good or ill. ;)

I know I've enjoyed reconnecting with my high school and college friends on FB. I may not be close to many people in my immediate geographic area, but it's really comforting to talk with old friends there. FarmVille, on the other hand...
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Your update is so lovely. Would you ever have guessed so much joy and happiness was right around the corner? I am happy you found your soulmate.

yes, you're right- It is like something out of a novel. I've been in love several times and without question it is the most blissful experiences I've ever had. True love is such a mystery and IMO finding one's twin flame could be the answer to the mystery.

This is so wonderful!! I'm so very happy for both of you! Please keep sharing as you feel moved, and take my congratulations with you on your joyous journey! :hug:

absence makes the heart grow fonder; familiarity breeds contempt. but hard work doesn't complain who does it, and misery sure does love company...

honeymoons are fun, but it's the power differentials that come in once the glitter and soft lighting fade that really tests you. ;) keep that in mind 1-5 years from now and you're mostly home free!
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GG, thank you for sharing your story with us. It gives me hope for all those lonely people out there. I, too, have had someone special come into my life recently (last August), although by use of another website. It's funny, that spark of "recognition" when you meet that "stranger". How you feel so comfortable with that person from the very first minute, and how familiar their face and mannerisms are! It's like, yes, I've known YOU somewhere and somehow before, but we've just met! Perhaps we are meant to re-connect with others at this time. One thing that I did, was to consult with Rick the Astro Man, LOL. He confirmed that this was not just my overactive imagination, and there was something monumental in our meeting. You might pm him if you haven't already.

Good luck with your re-kindling, and may UNIVERSE bless you both.

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My new lady had a reading done by a very good astrologer she knows in Los Angeles back in January. He told her that something huge was about to happen in her life. "Over the moon" was how he put it. He also said that there would be one week in the middle of May that would be absolutely horrible. We re-connected two months after the reading was done, and that was the "over the moon" part. We are now in the middle of the horrible week he saw.

My current story is very romantic, but there is a shadow side that needs to be acknowledged and shared. Here it is:

All my life I have felt that my other soul, my twin flame, was out there, and that my task was to find her. Even before I knew of that concept, ever since I was about 12 years old I've known that my destiny was to love as deeply as humanly possible, and ultimately to merge with my beloved. This urge made me look on every new love interest as a potential candidate. "Are you the One?" I would ask. Then I would set out to discover if they were. In order to do that I would open up completely to them, give myself as fully as I knew how at the time, surrender to them, support their life journey as completely as I was able. I would speak to them as though they were the One.

This sort of behaviour is enormously attractive to someone who is looking for love. As a result, a series of women fell deeply in love with me. The first flush of love and the shift in brain chemistry (especially the release of phenylethylamine or PEA) that creates the honeymoon glow made this very easy for me to do and them to accept.

The results have been tragically predictable. As each woman turned out not to be the One, I eventually found myself unable to tolerate the inevitable sense of incompleteness. Rather than settle for what I instinctively knew would be a lifetime of unfulfillment I would resume my search. This has resulted in me leaving a series of emotionally devastated women in my wake.

This is weighing especially heavily on my mind because I just had a long talk last night with my ex-partner. She is the one who helped me awaken a couple of years ago. That awakening is what finally allowed me to recognize and own the pattern I was playing out in my relationships. She is awake, but paradoxically that has made her even more vulnerable to her grief. She knew what we were trying to achieve, saw the potential for it, and still believed that a little more work would get us past our incompatibilities and into the core of union.

Now I find myself on the brink of yet another one. My new partner really does feels like She Whom I Have Been Seeking, but my history suggests that there are other, darker possibilities.

The paradox in all this is that I don't think this sort of complete union can be achieved without 110% commitment, with no holdbacks or reservations. Unfortunately, if a relationship based on that level of surrender ultimately founders the damage to both parties can be horrifying. Both my new lady and I are willingly accepting that level of risk -- even though we are fully aware of the potential damage -- because we are intuitively and consciously aware of the potential if we are right about what we believe ourselves to be.

The chances of actually finding one's twin flame are much lower than the chance of finding someone who is not, but who looks like they might be. Actively searching for your twin flame seems to be a path fraught with emotional and spiritual danger. Anyone who starts down that path needs to be awake to the risks. I wasn't and it has cost innocent people very dearly.

Bodhi
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Your only "sin" (hate that word) was loving too much. How can that be bad? All your previous relationships were with women who were able to think for themselves, no? You didn't intentionally take advantage of anyone who was mentally/emotionally impaired for selfish reasons, right? Well then, all those women knew the risks and yet were willing to enter into a relationship with you. That is mutual consent. Everyone knows that a relationship might not work out. So did they.

And on a personal note, I have been in relationships where I knew, deep down, that this person wasn't "the one", but I either fell for them anyway (talked myself into it) or let them fall for me. We all do it. And it's usually not for self-serving purposes. We all WANT that person we're with to be "the one".

And you know what else? No relationship is ever wasted as long as there were sincere feelings between the two people at some point. You know that when we have a relationship, we're connecting with someone in our soul group, and that means that we're probably working out some karma/helping one another with a lesson, even if we don't "go the distance" with the relationship--again, not wasted.

Please do forgive yourself. If you don't, then that's your impediment to finally being with your true twin flame.

C'mon--in you go, then. Both feet! :hug:

You are of course right in everything you say. My ex-partner is very much in the blame zone right now, and I've always tended to accept blame. Accepting that each of us owns our own path and everything that happens on it is part of my learning. I firmly believe that we are here in "Earth School" and that everything that happens is a lesson to be learned. This becomes clearer as I become more aware of the working of soul group connections in my life.

Mea culpas aren't nearly as necessary or useful as they seem to be.

So yeah, enough whining. Everybody into the pool!
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Exes do tend to do that--scrutinize your subsequent relationship and wonder why they couldn't have that with you. Why not? Because it's a totally different relationship, with totally different dynamics/energy, and with a totally different person, that's why not.

Your story puts me in mind of a guy I have known since college. Nice guy--really nice--and he liked me "that way", but I didn't like him the same way. I loved him dearly (still do), but when I tried dating him in college, all the alarm bells went off in my head, and I broke it off after two weeks. But that guy never let it go. Well, he is ambitious and tenacious by nature, so that was part of it, but damn--years later, he was still bothered by it.

We stayed friends while we dated other people and he married a classmate. His wife was from my area, so they moved here and we hung out a lot (but she was always suspicious of me, so I made sure we didn't see each other too frequently). They divorced, and he looked me up. We went out (he wouldn't call it a date but he thought it was)...unfortunately shortly after I had started dating Mr. MG. He was disappointed but we agreed to be friends, and he even came to the wedding.

Just last week (here it is 12 years on) my mom told me that he pulled her aside at the reception and was angry--asked her if she didn't think that my marriage wasn't awfully "sudden" (implying I had acted rashly) even though Mr. MG and I were together for two years (one living together) before we married.

I never saw him again after my wedding, mainly because Mr. MG was jealous (no matter what I said). I heard he remarried and still lives in the area. I see him on Facebook (mutual friends--alumni) but I don't dare friend him or contact him in any way, because I'm afraid he'll start in again, like he did when I saw him 14 years ago--"Why did you break up with me? Why couldn't we make it work?"

Guilt? Oh yeah, I feel guilt--that I couldn't summon up the same feelings he apparently had for me. Or something. But I try not to beat myself up about it. It is what it is. Can't force what ain't there. :shrug:

I know a number of men (myself most definitely included) who were raised as SNAGs and as a result are very susceptible to guilt. And the guilt about not feeling guilty is one of the most insidious traps of all.

I feel as if there's hope for me! :woohoo:

There's enough hope to go around for everyone!
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