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I tried to post this situation before, but tonight I have hardly slept, I am in a great deal of pain, and I need to talk to SOMEONE who understands what this is all about. This is not for a counselor, and worse, my friend told me not to tell anyone, but the pain here is beyond belief.
How does one cope with ghosts who have ruined your life, your relationship, your whole world? I am *not* making this up, these are actual ghosts. It somehow has to do with me, they did not want me around someone I love dearly. I finally left and was gone for over three months, and I was told that while I was gone, they completely disappeared, and everything is a lot better. It KILLED something inside me to think I brought such a thing there. I actually felt my heart breaking...I have never felt such pain and I have lived a painful life. They almost drove my friend crazy. I did not think they had anything to do with me. I thought I was being protected and that it would help to know they were protecting him as well.
Today I have to go to work and pretend everything is normal when it is not. I am usually good at this because I know most people do not understand. But today, well, I do not even want to face anybody or anything. I have to but i am not sure I am going to do it without breaking down.
The guilt here is: This is a relationship of 15 years. I do not want my friend to hurt and he told me it had gotten to the place where he was fighting for his life. He asked me if I wanted that for him, and of course I don't! Of course I am glad he is better because of my absence. But I am hurt beyond belief at the same time. I caused this...and I am furious at those spirits for ruining our lives, furious at him for allowing it, furious at myself for bringing them there. He says I should not think I caused it, but what the fuck else could it be, if they are gone now because I am no longer in his life?
I am not sleeping, I cannot eat, I am keening it is so painful, I am in a place where I wish the pain would just go away. He says he loves me still, he says he misses me, but I could never ever step foot in his place again knowing what I know now. When I told him it was breaking my heart to know that, he tried to tell me not to let them ruin my life, but they already have! It is agony to know I have to make a choice between my mental health and his, because my presence caused his agony. But it is a terrible choice. It is bad enough to know a relationship is ending....but because of fucking GHOSTS??????
I am violating his request to talk about this, but what the hell am I supposed to do when my world is crashing in? Who can I talk to about such a thing? How do I want to even exist on this planet when I know I bring such evil? I do not have any money to consult anyone and even if I did, whom could I trust to even talk to, much less help?
Please pray for me, I am a good person, I did not dream I could bring such a thing into anyone's life. This is *not* some flaky reason for breaking up this relationship. This is real. I talked to a counselor but they just don't get it. Those fucking spirits took my loved one from me and they won. Now I am now terrified I will bring it to others ~ and maybe already have. I am glad you are all here, I do not know where else to turn.
Cat
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