Information On How To Help A Budding Empath?

Hello All:

I usually do not post here much, I sometimes comment, and I always come here for insight. Because of the entire Net, I know of few other places where a group of folks of so many different abilities congregate.

I am wanting to know how to help a young woman, my niece, who is beginning to manifest some very powerful psychic abilities. She came to me yesterday seeking help.

Let me explain a little about this young woman. She is 19, almost 20 years old. She was born December 4, 1988 I am not sure what time in the day, but it was in the afternoon, I was there at her birth. Her mother, my niece, gave her up in an open adoption to a non-related family when she was 9 months old. The family she grew up with are some of the most wonderful people I know. Over the years, since I was the contact person for them I have also grown close to the family, especially her adoptive mother to the point I am sure we were sisters in some other time. I am now raising this young woman's half-sister, same mother. different dads. Her birth father is nowhere to be seen, but of course her birth mother is a member of my family and I see her sometimes, though she is on the street and mentally ill. I know the circumstances of this young woman's birth, I was there and 2 weeks later gave birth in the same place to my youngest son and they are friends. She grew up in a "normal" family, people who do not understand these things such as psychic or empathic abilities. They try to see what she is talking about, they have never talk down to her or ridiculed it when she has tried to talk about it to them, but she says they do not "get it" and are uncomfortable with it.

This young woman has many talents. Thanks to her loving and supportive middle class upbringing, she is one of the most "balanced" young people I know as far as having sense and kindness coupled with above-normal intelligence. (Her birth mother would have had some of these things as well if she had not had such a horrific childhood, thanks to my sister, this young woman's mother). This young woman is an accomplished violinist, an amazing visual artist, and she is also into physics, math, genetics, and many other things. She told me yesterday she is "a scientist" and so the "other" things that have especially began to manifest itself, such as an out-of-body experience at the age of about 12, seeing ghosts at times, and her awareness of her almost overpowering empathic abilities ~ picking up on animal's and people's feelings, "seeing" things that have happened to others when she has no idea they happened, recalling in vague detail other lives, the ability to know what someone's house is like even though she has never been there, and more, something she is not sure what to do about.

The reason she came to me is that, one time as a small child of around 8 years old we were together at a store and she pointed out to me a woman who she told me was sad (the woman was a stranger). I explained to her that she was manifesting a "talent" (more like a curse sometimes to me, lol) of empathic abilities that ran in her birth family. So she knows I am aware of some of what she is going through. Those things are beyond imagination to her adoptive family, who are so ...normal. I tried to express her as "super-normal" but she takes deep pride in being different, she thinks being called normal in any way, is an insult, lol. She told me she had only one other person in her life at this time who "knows" about what she is experiencing, an art teacher who she is close to who, even though this young woman is no longer a student, this older woman has remained in her life. I met this teacher and immediately loved her myself and so does this young woman's adoptive mom. However this teacher and I, my niece said, are the only two who "see" her abilities and understands that she has them. I do not think either of us mentors she is looking to, know what to do from there except be sympathetic and recognize them.

Now she is seeking help with further information as to what she has and what to do with these amazing yet misunderstood abilities, especially in the academic world and well the world at large. I told her at least she knows what she has, this was a good start. I shared some of my experiences and told her I did not even know or recognize what they were until well into my 30's. I told her I never developed them, and wish I had at the very least knew what was going on, because it was very confusing to have them and not even know I did or understand what was happening. At times I thought I was crazy, while she at least knows she is not, lol. She is a very logical young woman, seeking science and the "scholarly" ways of understanding and developing her abilities in a ways that blends with both. She is a college student and wanting to become a veterinarian as a career, even though she has so many other awesome well-developed talents such as art and music she could study, those are more her "hobbies" but she could make a living off of either of them if she had a degree in them, I would think. She is very poor at this time, a struggling student so she does not have anything to pay for help, however perhaps there could be some other ways that someone would take her under their wing and apprentice her or at the very least give her better guidance as to where to seek information on line or in her community that I have (she lives in Olympia WA as a student and also grew up In the Seattle area). She is a hard worker and ready to up her sleeves, but ...how?

This woman came from an apolitical background and is not that interested in politics, but this forum is about the only place I know where perhaps we could find some information as to where she could go from here, so she is not a DU member, nor interested in being one I suspect. I told her I would post here and give her a link so she could read what you all suggested and I am hoping we get some good sites and folks she could go to that could give her some assistance. If I have gotten any of the information wrong or she wants to add anything, I told her I would correct/add whatever she thinks should be. I am quite busy today and so is she (she is leaving her parents' home and moving 100 miles away for school) so neither of us will be able to keep up with the post today during the day). I will try to keep an eye on it though tonight and I am home tomorrow to keep an eye out. She may not be able to respond for a couple days until she gets settled in.

I just know if I post here, the ought to be a few folks who would help this young woman. She is going to be a marvelous addition to this world, this I know as far as making it better. But she needs guidance to help her with that. Any ideas? Oh I love you guys!

Love
Cat In Seattle

That's some of the core knowledge of the land where she lives, Turtle Island (now known as North America).

In traditional ways, your niece would be given opportunities to go into nature, safely with the intentional prayerful support of Aunties, Uncles and friends, and to spend time alone in contemplation and reflection, offering up her voice to ask for guidance. If she asks sincerely, support and guidance will come. That's the traditional understanding of our land that has arisen from long experience.

Meegwich and Many Blessings to her on her journey, SH

I am in my mid-fifties and I KNOW that, why did I not think to tell her that in the given time, the right time, a teacher will come?

She is a very solitary young woman, always has been because she is so ..her own person. Yet at the same time has some deep and close relationships with childhood friends and sees them as her extended "family". But solitude she told me was important to her. I am hoping whomever is with her in spirit speaks to her.

I am wondering if she is an Indigo child, she has many of the traits, and I did not think to tell her about that either. I just do know it was important enough to me to post here, because something tells me if she has the guidance she would become a light worker who adds a great deal to our development. She is one of the most spiritually beautiful young women I know ~ and this is not just "Auntie" talking, she just is. All who know her well, love her, are awed at her varied abilities, and trust her sense of wisdom. She already has that at 19.

Maybe by posting here "Auntie" can help her begin her journey ...I will pray, thanks Spirithawk!

Love
Cat

try to keep her from the "reading the future" stress that pervades these arts and emphasize its manner to receive decent instruction from the Higher Selves. we all are our greatest teachers, if we learn to listen. i find a steady divination discipline works well in learning HOW to listen (or more appropriately, how to read). and it opens one to wisdom of greater teachers if one is interested in their own time.

another thing she can do is journal her experiences in a diary. that helps get the ideas and experiences out there and no longer cluttering up her head. it is it's own form of self-discipline in a way, but remarkably freeform. it usually is an emotional outlet than a true Higher Self instructor, so it won't necessarily provide the guidance she may need. but it's always great to have a safety valve of sorts.

hope those ideas help! :hi:

I hope most of all she learn she is not alone, that there *are* people out there who know of what she speaks besides me and who have some insights as to how to work with what she has.

Love
Cat

Grounding keeps one blanaced and from spacing out (or at least it keeps me from going off into the ozone). Shielding can be as thick or thin as a person wants and is needed by all to some degree. If you have ever felt like an angry person's energy was shredding your aura or otherwise as if you were in nearly physical pain from it then you need to reinforce your natural shielding as your aura's edge is too permeable. Energy clearing whether using smudge, incense, wiping down your aura, Reiki or other technique is a great way to clear away any residue from the day. Just like your clothing picks up odors you are probably picking up bits and pieces of other peoples energy without meaning too. Their stress, worry, physical aches and pains, anger, fear and even the positive emotions can be overwhelming. When I was a kid going to the movies would have me laughing uncontrolably half way through the previews.

I am empathic and pesonally have found the best thing that helped me get more concious control of this ability was being attuned to Reiki. Reiki is universal healing energy but something about waking up the ability to channel that energy sensitized me further to other energies which then helped me block off the bad vibes. I also put Reiki into the edge of my aura to make it less permeable to harmful energies. Reiki is a wonderful easy system of healing where once attuned you simply put your hand over an area needing healing and the energy will flow automatically without effort. Addtionally there are people willing to teach for free over the internet which is great for those on a tight budget or who can't find a teacher in their area. My favorite site is Reiki On http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Reiki_On

My last bit of advice is to check out any new age type stores in the area and see if there are any that are offering sampler classes. Sometimes places will have a freebie day where people can get mini treatments and the like. This might lead to your friend finding a mentor or at least some friends who have similar innate talents who can then share their techniques. What works for one many not work for another but experimenting with say different viziulizations can lead her on to finding a variation that suits her needs.

BTW she might want to look into dowsing. I once knew a man who did that and was being mentored by an older gentleman who wanted to pass on the old techniques before they were lost as there weren't many who had the knack anymore that wanted to learn. You see they both could sense leylines as well as water and the mentor could even move negative ley lines and do things to clear wells of impurities in the water.

I will pass that on. All is appreciated.

Cat

so there have been discussions about many of those through the years. Searching the archives may prove fruitful and as I said before even finding out things that don't work can be very helpful I have found as they can lead me into figuring out what does.

Is she also in Seattle? If so, PM me and I can give you some contacts that might interest her.

I have just found out how very helpful THAT is myself.

But as I read she is studying to be a vet, she may be very interested in this Amelia Kinkade's work with animals. Books are available thru the library system here so I would think she could pick up one or two there.

http://www.ameliakinkade.com/books_products

She and others she has taught do offer classes around the country - she may be interested in attending them someday.