Tough love. How do we send light and still be tough to people who deserve it.

I'm not talking about beating people up or insulting them or anything like that. But sometimes people get my goat and I can't help telling them directly who they are and what I think of them. It actually makes me feel better although it doesn't often win you friends and influence people. I guess I get especially annoyed when people are being verbally being beaten up without being around to defend themselves (* excluded) and I find I have to go in and defend them. How do you guys handle this or do you prefer not to have any confrontation at all?

that we're all each others students and teachers. So when you feel it absolutely necessary to express yourself, then do so. I have done so, as well. But as you say, not by insulting. I've taken the other route and work at home because, IMHO, office politicking is such a waste of good energy and time. You are a true warrior, defending the defenseless. Wish there were more co-workers like you in the workplace!

very subject. I don't remember her exact words, but I recall her saying that words are very important, that they have an essence all of their own and linger on, so that we must choose our words very wisely. She said that people can be like chickens that pick and pick at each other with words, until there is nothing left. Never, ever tolerate it...she said that when she comes into contact with people like this, she tells them in no uncertain terms, NOT AROUND ME! This is negative energy, remove yourself immediately.

I love that woman, I think she is so full of mother-earth kind of wisdom. It just makes my heart sing when I think of the love and nurturing she exudes. Can you tell she is one of my all time favorite women?

You are so right to feel indignant when people trash others in a cowardly fashion.
Don't stand for it, and never feel you are wrong in letting them know. Confrontation of this sort is more likened to education, IMHO. Some are in dire need of it.

Wish I worked along side of you, Cleita. Hugs and blessings in the new year, thankfully the goddess/female energies are gaining traction. Be proud of the phenomenal woman in yourself and in all of us...rejoice and revel in that energy.
The world is so small when we accept less for ourselves.

ask them to handle it in a manner they know best and be sure to say thank you as you go. Above the cognitive/affective tree line, all energy is the same, so they get it as a gift no matter what the content or how we feel about it. :hi:

and he spilled his drink.

I'm not trying to fight anyone right now, but I certainly wish those who like to fight would just leave so that I can concentrate on prayer and visualization. As you can tell, it's more important than ever to concentrate (and ask help) on bringing the light, even just visualizations or prayer.

Perhaps enough light will disrupt the negative.

I said to the person initiating the crap...you aren't making fun of me are you? They get embarrassed and it ends.....until the next time.....may not be a great thing to do...but it ends the crap at that time...and they get confronted and walk away sheepishly....and no blood is spilled!!!!!!!

Gin :)

in an otherwise blue sky. And pray for all humanity regardless.

When I read your post, the first thing I thought of is are the things they said in that class:

"Let go and let God." ie, recognize that maybe you can't fix this, or it's not really yours to fix.

"Say what you mean, mean what you say, and do what you say you're going to do." So if you use your good words with this gossiping co-worker and ask them please not to talk about folks who aren't present to defend themselves, because it puts you in an uncomfortable position, and they do it again, you just get up and leave or ask to take a break or something to make it clear you're not going to sit there and listen to that.

It also occurred to me that, as laudable as your defending the absent co-worker may be, maybe getting a rise out of you is exactly what the nasty co-worker is seeking. Negative attention can be, for many people, better than no attention at all.

Not knowing more about the situation, it's hard to say how you need to handle it. Sometimes you do just need to avoid that person's negative energy, and that's not always possible at work, so then you have to set limits with them and stick with your limits. Maybe there are others at work who feel as you do and you could enlist their help in turning this negative person around?

can always talk to each other whereas we can't. This doesn't mean that their Higher Self will tell them, but it is definitely a start.