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I understand what you mean and it is curious. My husband's ex-wife had ovarian cancer and knew that death was close, but there was time to wrap up all her life's business and made plans for the care of the kids. But in the dream when she rejected the hug and my husband explained he was happy to see her doing okay in death, she reeled in shock, as if she didn't know.
Yeah, visitations can really be cool. When my mom's dad died in Africa the summer I was 16 (I didn't really know him), he visited me that day and scared me to death; seeing this old guy smiling at me, who was visible from the knees up. When I told my parents, my mother knew it was he after constant prodding about what he looked like, how tall, what he was wearing, on and on. But what I learned was that he told my dad at the airport the day we left the continent was that he would never see me again (I was three). The other thing I learned was, Wow!, this man loves me that much and with all his will came through to let me know. I'll never forget it and it's sustained me when I've thought in the past that life is too hard.
Sometimes I think they do visit but we're too oblivious to see. Many, many times, we see orbs just twinkling about and we know someone is with us, but send out that they can stick around if they're here in love and for our good.
Interesting you say you knock on the door. That's the way my husband has been visited by his ex-wife and his high school friend. There's always the knock on the door, he opens it and there they are.
The white candle suggestion, that just popped into my brain. I thought it was too far-fetched to include that I strongly felt that you should get a white candle that burns for 7 days. But since you say you've had the suggestion before, maybe you should try it.
Like you, my mom is a natural medium but she's scared of it too. I just think she'd be more at peace if she just accepted that aspect of herself. I just think Christianity has really set up a wall that's difficult for her to crack but I chisel away at it nevertheless :)
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