Dream of crashing a wedding

I experienced a bizarre dream this morning and think it incorporates astrological elements.

I was in a hotel complex at a convention with my husband, and while he dozed I wandered out of my room looking for food.

I found (and ate) baklava from a communal refrigerator, placed in an alcove the way an ice machine would be, and continued down the hall...

The hallway I was in opened to a banquet hall where a group was about to serve a wedding feast of grilled steak and catfish (i could smell it in my dream!)

I got a plate and sat down with the group to eat. I ate without speaking to anyone, the food was so delicious. Then I stood and cheered with everyone else as the bride and groom, and then the mother-in-law (groom's mother) were toasted. I started to worry that I'd be missed.

So I put half of my plate (enormous serving) into a to-go box to take it back to my husband and snuck back into the hallway I came from.

As I left the room a young girl chastized me for crashing the wedding without leaving a gift for the bride and groom. She was really upset. I was trying to tell her that I would go to the hotel's gift shop and return with a gift but didn't get it out before the Mother-in-law came over to confront me. She bawled me out good, though thankfully out of sight of the rest of the wedding party. But then said that she understood it was impossible for someone to actually get a meal in one of the restaurants around at dinner hour (due to overcrowding). It was almost 7pm in my dream. I told her that it was irresistible and delicious. I apologized for not asking to participate, and she decided that my 'gift' would be to volunteer with her organization... I agreed. I was shown all this typical convention marketing material and swag... and given some... for a group whose mission was to clean up orbital space debris (of all things!) and whose domain was neptune.net. Their colors were powder blue and orange. I couldn't remember the name of the org - it was long enough to become an acronym and wasn't related to neptune.net (which in real life belongs to an IT firm).

Then I was allowed to go.

I've heard astrologers speak of conjunctions as 'weddings' before... so I wonder if I dreamt of the current conjunction involving Neptune.

The drag is that there isn't such an org. that I could find, and it's actually something I'd love to be involved with.

I wonder who the characters could be: bride, groom, mother-in-law, and child. Any ideas? I thought Mom might be Neptune, since she represented that organization but I could be wrong.

:hi: So much symbolism. I find it intriguing that the first thing you ate was baklava. I know baklava is associated with Greece as well as the zodiac (zōdiakos). I wish I had more of a zodiacal answer and I agree there sure seems to be a relationship there.
Overall, to me, it seems perhaps you are hungry for something so important and satisfying that you are ready to take a risk to have. Maybe it's something you need to reclaim at some risk but necessary for growth.
Interesting that the word gift came up in the context of the wedding, in that once upon a time in Greece, a bride was considered a gift, who'd toke more gifts with her to her husband's home. Just like you making sure to take some food back to your husband. So may be the dream has something to do with your marriage and only something you, the gift, can bring that's necessary for the both of you.

I appreciate your insight, I didn't know that much about Greek culture. What you say is thought-provoking. I think it may have resonance.

I was in a hotel complex at a convention with my husband (I am in a temporary place in my life and my male half is asleep while my feminine side wants nourishment), and while he dozed I wandered out of my room looking for food (I go looking for psychological nourishment, ideas, thoughts, things to move me and feed my emotional/mental side).

I found (and ate) baklava from a communal refrigerator (I find some signs of this nourishment that has been kept on ice for the time being in a public type place, something asstd with Greece, for me, the basics of western civilization and perhaps astrology if you're interested in that), placed in an alcove the way an ice machine would be, and continued down the hall...(this is like an organization or set of ideas that's a little off the beaten track but handy and easy of access)

The hallway I was in opened to a banquet hall where a group was about to serve a wedding feast of grilled steak and catfish (i could smell it in my dream!) (I can almost taste the things that could nourish me and represent to me a joining or merging of my two sides, the mind and heart, to me, the male toughness of steak and the feminine and spiritual "cat" qualities of catfish, but the best of these qualities because it tastes so good, i.e., not cattiness but psychic things maybe, self-possession and awareness)

I got a plate and sat down with the group to eat. I ate without speaking to anyone (I am being nourished by these ideas sort of without allying myself with them at the moment), the food was so delicious (and I love the ideas). Then I stood and cheered with everyone else as the bride and groom, and then the mother-in-law (groom's mother) were toasted. I started to worry that I'd be missed. (I'm carried away by the possibilities here but realize I have to make this real in my real life for it to be most helpful)

So I put half of my plate (enormous serving) into a to-go box to take it back to my husband and snuck back into the hallway I came from. (I am trying to bring these ideas back to my own life and situation)

As I left the room a young girl chastized me for crashing the wedding without leaving a gift for the bride and groom (a younger side of myself doesn't feel good about not putting enough of myself into this new level of understanding or perhaps this new group of public associations or friends). She was really upset. I was trying to tell her that I would go to the hotel's gift shop and return with a gift but didn't get it out before the Mother-in-law came over to confront me. (I'm trying to do the right thing about all this but the feminine side that is associated with my husband or maybe with "law" or doing the right thing, my conscience, makes me feel guilty about this because I've taken the ideas perhaps without giving enough of myself to this new source of wisdom and growth). She bawled me out good, though thankfully out of sight of the rest of the wedding party (This is happening within me and not out in public thankfully). But then said that she understood it was impossible for someone to actually get a meal in one of the restaurants around at dinner hour (due to overcrowding) (There would be problems in finding ideas like this because of the lateness of the hour, that is, there aren't many organizations at the moment where I can be nourished like this or perhaps because of my age, but I really want to do the best thing about it). It was almost 7pm in my dream (early evening so I still have time to get this right within me before night and then another awakening time). I told her that it was irresistible and delicious. I apologized for not asking to participate, and she decided that my 'gift' would be to volunteer with her organization... (I'm being given the opportunity to do something more public and involving others and I agree to it, a gift that fits me, perhaps not something "psychic" but more practical) I agreed. I was shown all this typical convention marketing material and swag... and given some... for a group whose mission was to clean up orbital space debris (of all things!) (I'm being shown how to clean up my high flown ideas, the "spacey" type ideas, to make them more practical maybe) and whose domain was neptune.net. (not sure what you associate with Neptune, but to me it would represent the divine control of the sea, i.e., the great unconscious where all spiritual qualities good and bad come from) Their colors were powder blue and orange (powder blue to me would represent the meditative, contemplative attitude and orange, a merging of the mind, yellow, with action or energy or passion, i.e., red). I couldn't remember the name of the org - it was long enough to become an acronym and wasn't related to neptune.net (which in real life belongs to an IT firm).

Hope something in there rings a bell. I would think that you feel you're not putting enough energy into some inner growth pursuit and have some feelings of guilt and doubt to overcome, but it's a wonderful dream it seems to me.

Good luck.

Thanks for the kick in the rear. Perfect for Monday!

I appreciate the time and effort you gave me. Your interpretation is compelling and at least, it's really good advice.

I love baklava, and do gravitate towards Mediterranean/Middle Eastern celebrations because I think their traditions are older and wiser. I'm also reading a novel about a Greek family. Before coming here, I associated Neptune with the Ocean.

I have been slacking off and promised myself a productive week this morning. So I think I'd better get back to work. Thanks again.

At this point I am pretty much lost in interpreting dreams. But since I am planning a wedding, sort of, I wanted to say how much I appreciate your posting this.

This was really fun to read! I love it when I have an active dream like this, which is rare for me.

One thing I have come to realize is that we dream things for a purpose. It is an attempt to clear things in our lives. If you want to "seal the deal" you might want to read your post aloud when doing EFT.

But dreams are a way, in and of themselves to do this, using a natural form of EMDR.

When's the Blessed Day? I hope everything comes together for you.

What's EFT and EMDR? I'm not familiar with those acronyms.

I have to plan it because she is in Tokyo, and the wedding is here. This is a kind of adventure for me as my mom planned my wedding ages ago, and another daughter planned her own. I'm getting lots of help. I just ordered the invitations today. But anything wedding related, like your dream, and I just feel attuned to it.

EFT is Emotional Freedom Technique, www.emofree.com that uses tapping on acupuncture points to clear things. It is a self help thing, mostly.

EMDR- is Eye Movement Desensitization (not sure what the R is). This is a way that some trained psychologists use for post traumatic stress syndrome. It involves reliving the stress while moving the eyes certain ways. I have a feeling that they got the idea from REM sleep states or something like that. Eyes move when dreaming.

I do that sometimes--I'll dream about something I have discussed or thought about earlier in the day. I wondered if maybe wedding dreams were running rampant in the group after discussing food for your daughter's wedding!

:hi:

I dunno why, but for the last few days I keep coming back to a quote from the movie Auntie Mame. It goes something like, "Life is a banquet and some poor suckers are starving to death." It has come up several times in the last few days and I have NO idea why...

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Laura

Maybe it is contagious!! I'm sort of amused at my own reactions to all this wedding planning business. It feels a bit foreign to me, but I am forging ahead.

I do have a Facebook account because my kids post pictures there. A woman that used to work at the energetic practioners office saw there that I was planning a wedding and insisted on helping me. She's going to do the flowers and bunches of stuff. She is holding my hand on everything. At the first I thought it was slightly strange that she was insisting on helping me, but I easily gave in, and really it is now more fun than a chore. We went to lunch and we talked energetic stuff and weddings, and ordered a sample invitation. She's just a bit older than my daughter. I don't think she has any vegan recipes, though. That part is on hold for now.

thanks

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=245&topic_id=89816&mesg_id=89816

Please know that I was not diminishing the value of your dream in any way when I speculated about what triggered it. I've had any number of times when I'll be thinking about a specific subject during my day and then it plays some type of role in my dreams that night.

Seems pretty a pretty unlikely scenario if you didn't see the thread to begin with, however...

:hi:


Laura

I was completely off topic and not knowing where to turn. To think that this inspired a wedding dream is more than amusing to me. Bizarre, and probably not AT ALL related! I loved hearing about this dream, though. Unfortunately, I am worse than bad at dream interpretation.

Now, when I have a wedding dream all of you guys will hear about it. I'm trying to tone down the wedding stuff for now, though.

I thought daily life was supposed to leak into dreams, anyway.

Thanks for the link! I'm interested in the wedding food.

Sorry I haven't been around so much.