May I ask for some psychic (or otherwise) impressions on a work issue?

I have been over-thinking this - and having other reasoned people look at this may help clear my thinking...

Three years ago when I worked for a non-profit, I became friends with our computer guy. He is quite good at what he does. Very gentle, kind person and very very organized and smart. He was with a company at the time but went independent when the owners of that company sold it to someone else.

Two years ago this spring, I stopped working for the non-profit and I met with this friend as he was looking for a contract employee to help him as his firm grew. He had a programming component to his work and with me, he could grow the website side of it and I could learn the rudiments of the programming. Sounded perfect as I needed a job. A week after we talked and got excited about the possibilities, his wife took their three small kids and left him.

His attention was pretty much focused on that for a year. It was quite a horrific divorce. Last summer, we spoke again as his divorce was winding down and he hoped to have it finalized by the fall. It did finalize but his lawyer cautioned him about starting anything new in that fiscal year or else his wife could open up the money issues again in court.

So, in January this year, I called him. He said probably the second quarter is when he would be ready for me. Probably after taxes were in. In April, I called him and said, I was probably the most patient person he had ever met but I would need to start working a second job for someone very soon - and would prefer it was him. He thought about it and called me back in an hour and said he had been delayed because he was so far behind in his bookkeeping. If I could help him with that, then eventually we could start the programming/website contract work. Which would pay me well enough I could quit my current lower paying job and have money for like food, shelter, health care, etc.

So, I did his bookkeeping in April. Brought him close to being current and THEN... he had to unexpectedly move to another apartment in his complex (long story but was the apartment complex request to accommodate another tenant) the first week of May. He does work long hours normally and when I have called him a few times these past weeks, he says he had a new client with a huge project and he's just not unpacked yet to have me do his bookkeeping.

Long story - I know. Thanks for reading this far and staying awake to do so. :P

My question to my ASAH friends, do you get a feeling on this at all? AM I a fool for thinking this could be a real paying gig anytime soon? He is one of the nicest people I have met in a work situation and I think we are compatible in our working styles. He may have issues that I am of the same gender as his wife. But as I am 10-15 years older than him, I thought I had escaped that female thing and was filling an older sister/aunt role instead.

Any psychic impressions you get and are willing to share would be appreciated.

you to believe. In today's economy that isn't too hard to understand. Maybe you should be looking around for something else.

But I have seen his financials and his incoming work and it looks overwhelmingly busy to me that if he doesn't take someone on, it's not going to get done. But I do appreciate your pov because I am getting a strong sense of that too despite what I saw in his books.

But don't hold it against him. You may be able to squeeze him in when he calls. From what you say he doesn't seem to have his stuff together right now.

unfortunately, I was hoping his gig to warm me in skills I have but I haven't used for a couple of years. But I may have to do it backwards from what I was planning.

This isn't going to happen soon. You may work with him at some point in the future, but it feels like it would be beneficial for you to look elsewhere for employment right now.

He's so mixed up in both his personal life and his business life that taking on a partner doesn't even seen like a possibility to him at this point. He wants to work with you, but he can't and won't until he gets his life under control.

Sorry, but that's what I feel on this one. Sending you peace and prosperity energy.

:hug:

someone's life so messed up as this guy. His priority, as it should be, is on his 3 kids as his wife's focus is not on them at all. This really is a deal where the dad should have gotten the kids.

... as well. There is work there for you both but now is not the appropriate time for this to coalesce. It feels to me that your "I'm here in the wings" energy has helped him through this last difficult bit of his life and perhaps that is why you were drawn together.

I would begin looking for something else, as others have said. You know this intuitively and just needed some validation to follow your own instinct. Here you go. :)

Love and peace to you.

He sincerely wants to take you on--and I'm not getting any sense that he's projecting his negative feelings about his ex onto you or anything--he likes you--but he is in the middle of a maelstrom. Part of it is of his own making--he had chaos in his life that he let take over and now it's his WAY of life. Not blaming him--this happens to a lot of people.

I also think that he's been hit with the Shift, like so many of us have--left his job, started his independent business, got a divorce, moved (even just switching apartments can be oh-so-stressful)... And if he's unaware of the Shift, he must be losing his mind over all the changes going on in the past few years.

Your boy needs to get his head straight, and sometimes that amounts to just needing time to settle in. I'd say look for another job :( and tell him so, but don't use the information to try to nudge him into action. As one friend to another, just keep him apprised of your situation. Tell him you really still want to work for him, and when he's ready, to contact you and you'll see where you are in your life and if it would still be a good fit for you. (Because, you know, you might find a job that you really love in the meantime.)

Is there any way you can help him out on an "occasional" basis--like when you helped him with the books--for a one-time fee each time? That could help you keep your hand in.

I really appreciate your kind words. I agree with all of the above. I was doing the bookkeeping on an hourly for him... I think he also has a very strong 'be-perfect' thing going on which I also do so I see it in him. Things have to be just so before he can take the next step.

Sigh. It would have been much simpler if he had been ready to take me on as a contract person now. It was part of my 'just so' strategy and I know I have to rework how I am going forward. Dang it.

He said he's just been over the top busy and was dumbfounded I thought he was perhaps avoiding me or angry for some unknown reason. He is meeting with one of his clients this week to find out if she does want to move forward with one of his proposals. If it's yes, he will need me to jump in asap.

So, it looks like it's 'on' again. Please send me some light if you can spare it? I think I am back on the roller coaster. Willingly of course and with my eyes open - but this would certainly give me a toe-hold on moving to other more meaningful and lucrative ventures than I have time to pursue now.

Good vibes, for this or something better.

:hug:

He may be organized & nice, but the divorce has really set him on his ear (though he may not show it).
Of course, LIFE on top of that, throws more curves into the mix.

I sense he needs more help in ALL aspects of life than just the bookkeeping, but may be to proud or embarrassed to ask for help. You could volunteer to help him get his new place in order as "a friend", & this might move the business activities on a bit.

I do sense he is a nice guy, but just trying to recoup after a tornado hit his life.

Best of luck, whatever you do. :)