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calling them on their crap. So I limit myself to the occasional "WTF are you talking about?" and the monthly dinners I have with the rightwing "christian" conservative, small business owning, Black child having adopted, glen beck/fox"news" worshiping, friends of my wife.
At these dinners there's usual another Black couple (and their kid) and a self-proclaimed leftist from Chile, who is in fact a slum landlord. We, menfolk, sit outside with a fine Single Malt and shoot the shit.
Before heading out, my wife makes me promise to avoid political and race discussions because she knows I don't let racist or anti-poor stuff slide. I'm usually good until the third pour, when the "leftist" will raise a topic like "was Katrina an example of American-style racism" and the rightwinger goes nuts.
To be honest, the only reason I go to these monthly get togethers is so that I can interact with their Black teenage son (17 years old). I really feel sorry for him. Though I have no doubt that his rightwing "father" loves him as a son, he is being taught that race doesn't matter. I have quietly told his father that while race shouldn't matter, I want my Black daughter to be prepared for those instances where racism rears its ugly head. I've told him that he is doing his son a disservice sending him out into the world completely unarmed.
The last couple of dinners the Black son sits in on our discussions. I, and the other Black guy, encourage him to talk. And, I try to be easy on him when he recites some beckish nonsense. Rather than call him out, like he has seen me do his father, I express that I have confidence in his ability to discern fact from fiction and challenge him to put in the work. I tell him don't trust what I say, or beck says, or what anyone says ... trust only what you can verify. And each time I see him afterwards, I ask him about his statement and what he has discovered.
A couple of months ago, I told this manchild ... look at the issues, then look at whom will be hurt by the various positions. Then ask yourself, "do the people likely to be hurt by the policy look like me?"
I've notice that he is now quieter and more attentive to our discussions.
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