Nice article here: 'Caring for you Introvert'.

the beginning is a great description, anyway. It's a subscription service, so I couldn't get the rest of it. What does it say?

Thanks!

DemEx

http://www.crouser.com/books/extrovert.htm

So, let's define it. Extroversion is a personal preference for socially engaging activities and settings. Introversion is a personal preference for solitary, non-social activities and settings. But a Shy Extrovert is a person who performs well socially, but experiences painful thoughts and feelings. Should they be too painful, then working with a professional might be in order. For the purpose of the book she treats introverts, shy folks and shy extroverts the same.

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Childhood is when we all begin to learn to negotiate: whose doll is that anyway? Will you help me build sandcastles? If you had trouble with these early playgroups, you might have trouble functioning on the job. That's because organizations function very much like early play groups. There are always those chosen to be leaders - and then there's everyone else.

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She cites one study that found an astounding 75 percent of all jobs were secured through networking. In my mind, that's astounding because that means 75 percent of all people hired were found through networking and we are folks who generally don't like to network! No wonder we have so much difficulty finding people to work for us.

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Introverts are not great communicators and when we avoid building rapport with workers and when we don't make an effort to stay closely connected, problems rapidly develop. Often, the compounded danger for us lies in how others perceive them. A lot of it is a bum rap. We appear distant or arrogant. Although this may not be true, many people interpret their perception as reality. They wonder, "Are we quietly paying attention or are we quietly thinking they are an idiot?"

EVERYBODY saw it. It was so right on.

They laughed at me.

If you understand this, you can be happily alone in the company of other enlightened loners - and not need to change/change others.
Loners around the world, unite! ;-)

Many of the things he says in the article are similar to things in the book The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney. I read it earlier this year and it was an eye opener....... Seems I'm not "anti-social", I'm an introvert!!

In one chapter she goes into easy to understand detail on how the introvert brain is "wired" different than the extrovert brain, and how it affects our behavior. Pretty interesting. Two thumbs up......

(we love to torture newbies) :evilgrin:

Thanks for the book recommendation. I just checked and the Pasadena library has it. I'm going to go fetch ... not tonight, later. I've been wanting to find more on the subject.

For the welcome! I've actually been lurking for a couple of years, but just didn't have nothin' to say I guess! Just found this group tonight and thought "Hey, they sound just like me!!" :hi:

heh hee hee heh hee hee :evilgrin:

:hi: Greetings, Happy New Year and Welcome, catchnrelease :toast: Wazsup :smoke:

Just when I need to hear it the most. Reassuring and affirming :bounce:

Many thanks for posting it :hi: