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(And perfectly clear, I worry about myself as well lately)
I think part of the problem is an ignorance between the difference of biological differences and society imposed gender roles. I was just reading a thread where a poster who identified herself as female seemed to think that men are biologically driven to 'spread their seed' as it were, in as many women as possible, where women, with more to lose, look for the 'provider'. Superior seed, I guess. (then there was the 'do you watch porn with your spouse' thread in the lounge, a very interesting thread, where a couple of people decided that if a man claimed he didn't like porn, he was lying)
From an evolutionary standpoint, this is most likely both true and false. One of the responses to that type of thinking is our common neighbor (say, Bonobos or Chimpanzees)society groups often have sexual hierarchies, and not all the guys get the girls by any means.
AND, If it were true, women who proven child bearing skills as well as the marks of childbirth on their bodies would be more desirable--there are a dozen ways to pull that kind of thinking apart and point out what are basically logical fallacy's.
Men are perfectly capable parents. My husband for instance was raising his two tiny little girls alone when I met him. He's become disabled by Multiple Sclerosis, so I'm the primary 'bread winner', he does what he can to maintain the household, so technically, I guess that makes him a 'househusband' Isn't there such a huge difference when we use those terms? Housewife, househusband? And there shouldn't be. When people ask what 'does your husband do' and I have to answer he's disabled with MS, I follow that up with "he takes care of me" (And he does) Two of my children have been in the military. My son is in Iraq right now, my daughter served in Afghanistan before she got out. Both are 'good soldiers', although my guess is my daughter was a better one. My daughter had a tougher time with interpersonal relationships, promotions, sexual harassment, everything you'd expect from a female in the military because of institutionalized gender roles in the military, as well as the head start those roles get in society. And she's a tough, incredible woman. (Who just happens to be carrying another grandchild for me right now, joy, joy joy!!!!!!)
And Thomcat is right. I actually think sometimes that a sort of litmus test of gender roles can be done looking at all the wonderful Gay couples who are parents. The child's needs are met independent of gender. Except Gays are simply human beings and shouldn't have to be anybodies 'test'.
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