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Don't get married to someone with whom you have diametrically opposed viewpoints regarding certain things.
If Brad Pitt divorced her because he wanted to have kids and she didn't (which she says isn't true), then I would think the bad judgement would have been on HIS part to get married to someone who didn't want children.
I don't know---my husband and I talked about things like that before we got married, shit--before we even THOUGHT about marriage.
We talked about politics, religion, children, education, jobs, future goals---I just don't see why people get into marriages and either DON'T talk about these things, then get the big surprise when they find out that their partner has a different opinion about it, or marry someone KNOWING they disagree with you on key issues, but then get pissed off because they don't change their mind a few years down the road.
At any rate, I agree with Ms. Aniston. She is no less of a woman, and no less worthy as a wife because of her childbearing choices. Whether or not she wanted children, wants children, doesn't want them, or had 22 of them by the time she was 40.
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I used to work with a woman named Taz and she and her husband were a beautiful couple who had been married for just, oh, 4 seconds before everyone at work started harassing her about having a baby. I do mean HARASSING her. Every day after her marriage, NUMEROUS people would say "Oh Taz, you'd be a great mother!" "Oh Taz, why don't you just go ahead and have a baby--you know you want one!" "Oh Taz, don't you want your parents to be proud and happy?"
It was obscene.
Once, I got SO frustrated by it I stood up and said "You know, did ANY of you ever think that maybe THEY DON'T WANT CHILDREN? Did any of you think that MAYBE THEY CAN'T HAVE CHILDREN? Did any of you think that MAYBE THEY'RE NOT READY FOR CHILDREN? Did any of those thoughts EVER cross any of your minds? EVER?"
I was so pissed. It was grotesque. People would just go up to her and just make these comments. I am NOT exaggerating when I say it was every day, SEVERAL times a day, for MONTHS and MONTHS and MONTHS.
And I should say that Taz would always shrug them off, never giving a definite answer of yes, we want kids, no we don't. She never looked pleased by the comments by coworkers, and thanked me for standing up for her that day.
About 8 months after she was married, she found out she was pregnant. She was THE most reluctant mother I've ever seen. No "glow", no happiness. I feel that in addition to pressure from co-workers, she must have been getting it full force from family (either her own, or inlaws). She just never seemed thrilled with the idea of having a baby, and I distinctly got the impression that she was doing this for the pleasure of others rather for the pleasure of herself and her husband.
SHe quit the job shortly before she had the baby and never returned to work.
I always wonder about her, and how she's doing. This has been about 10 years or so, and I'll just never forget the 9-month-long frown on her face during gestation. I really felt badly for her.
Coworkers, though,---oh god you'd have thought that THEY were having babies. They gave her, like 4 baby showers, and once she announced she was pregnant the harassment CONTINUED with "oh do you want a boy or a girl? What are you going to name it? When are you going to have more? You just can't have one, you know! What about brothers and sisters! Babies can't grow up alone. Wow. This is great. This is great. Can I touch your stomach"
It was nonstop.
SHE was the perfect example of a woman waiting to have a nervous breakdown.
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