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and I was in a class for gifted and talented kids. one of the things we had to do that year was debate different topics.
Among the topics were global warming, abortion, death penatly, etc.
I kind of new what abortion was but wasn't sure. I told my teacher that I wanted to debate abortion and she said "oh but that's such a horrible thing!" and I figured she was a smart lady and knew what she was talking about.
At the time, my mom had a friend--a single mother with 1 child, living below the poverty level. There was one weekend where we had to babysit her daughter for the weekend and I happened to ask my mom why and she said "Because X had to have an abortion. Do you know what that is?" and I said "I think so. My teacher said it was horrible though. I thought X was a good person. Why would she do a horrible thing?"
So my mom sat me down and talked to me about abortion. I already knew the birdz-n-beez because my mom was a single parent who had me through unprotected sex and I was quite the epitome of an unplanned pregnancy. I knew that pregnancy could happen, and that there were alternatives if you didn't want to be pregnant. I didn't know what those alternatives were, though.
So she told me about abortion, and she said that it wasn't a horrible thing, and that i was to never let her friend know that I knew she was having an abortion.
Back then--late 80's, Charleston, SC--no planned parenthood. The only abortion place in town was this absolutely crummy office building in a drug-infested part of town. There were always horrid protesters outside with pictures of aborted fetuses. Until my mom talked with me, I never knew why those people were there, or what they were showing pictures of.
I asked her why those people were protesting, and she said that some people don't like women who have abortions. I asked why it was any of their business and she said "it's not". I remember saying that there were alot of things I didn't like, but I wouldn't stop someone from doing them, and my mom said "that's the point"
That was my first interaction with Abortion. My mom's friend had a few more over the years, and I have no opinion of that because, much like the protestors outside the building, it's not my business. I'm sure there are many things I do on a daily basis that several people would find unseemly or whatever, but it's not their business, and I have no room to comment on something that 1) I don't know occured and 2) isn't my issue.
Now, looking back, I wish I knew more about abortion at the time so that I could have stood up to my teacher. Over the years, she made a few other hateful comments towards things she didn't like, like homosexuality and things like that. Again, I was too naieve to stand up to her and let her know that not everyone felt the way she did.
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Don't feel badly. You were a child, and you were being taught by people who had no regard for the feelings or experiences of others.
In my time, i've taken friends to abortion clinics, walked through picket lines, and held the hands of girlfriends whose boyfriends abandoned them at the mention of the 'p' word.
I hope that my actions as I was older makes up for the naievity of my younger years. We're not born with knowledge, and I think that when we know we thought or did wrong, and make active strides to change our thinking and make the world better, that absolves us of our unmature thinking skills in childhood.
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