I'm going to take a bit of exception to your remarks anyway.
I think one of the things often overlooked about the feminist movement is that it paved a road for women to CHOOSE. I have friends who work from home by choice. I have friends who are stay at home moms by choice. I also have friends who work in the corporate world. I have friends who are single by choice and I have friends who are married by choice. That's the point, isn't it? CHOICE.
Maybe progressive women are more unhappy because they have woken up to the fact that they have been sold a bill of goods when it comes to marriage... The entire institution is inherently sexist and oppressive.
This might be true for some progressive women, but I highly doubt it is true of all progressive women. (For instance, the one here typing this message to you -- the only one for which I'm allowed to speak.) I also have to wonder if you would feel the same about any marriage, or only a heterosexual one. Would a marriage of two lesbians also be inherently sexist and oppressive? Two gay men?
I cannot disagree with your belief that marriage makes it "even harder to realize one's full potential as a woman and a human being." For women who want a life which extends beyond their home and family, having those obligations always make the process more difficult -- but not impossible. On the other hand, if I'm unable to go march on Washington because of responsibilities at home, I can either sit and sulk or I can make the best of the situation (organize a local march, watch the televised event with my children and explain to them why it is important, etc.) There are women in this world, however, who believe the only way they will reach their full potential is through their home and family. Shake your head in bewilderment all you want about those ladies, but they are entitled to their belief and their choice.
Finally, I'm not sure how to explain my last point without diving into my own personal experiences. Although I've done everything within my power to balance my home and family against my own personal aspirations, there are always women who want to tell me that I'm somehow failing at life. When I'm among mostly other stay-at-home moms, I'm shunned because I do not place my entire focus on my home and family. When I attend meeting with work-outside-the-home moms, I'm shunned because I do not place my entire focus on my career. If any of those women would take time to talk to me, they'd learn that I am happy with where I am right at this moment. In my opinion, I've found a solution which works for me. Why should other women be trying to place such a guilt trip on me for it?
I have a friend who is a stay-at-home mom. While I often shake my head when she tells me she needs to rush home to help get the kids in bed or whatever, she just smiles. One night she told me (as she was slipping on her coat to leave a meeting early), "I think what people don't understand is that I like being a part of the group, but, for now, it makes me most happy to concentrate on my family. The girls won't be young forever and I just don't want to miss a thing. When they are all in school, not only will I be able to do more for myself, but I'll be able to do it with a clear head."
I thought about her words for a long time that night. At first I wanted to tell her that she shouldn't feel guilty for not always being home to put the girls to bed, but then I realized the reason she felt guilty wasn't because someone had pushed that on her. She felt guilty because it was something she truly wanted to do more than anything else.
While I'll not sit here and lie to you by telling you how perfect my marriage is, I will tell you that I'm lucky enough to be sharing life with my best friend. We have our moments of disagreement just like people in any relationship (inside or outside of marriage) are going to have. I know from experience, however, that when I'm hurting, he is the only person I want to comfort me. When I've been presented awards or honors -- even those times when you're asked to stand at a meeting as those around you applaud your hard work -- they mean so much more when I can share them with him. The best thing about marriage, according to us, is that we walk out into the world with the full knowledge and understanding that someone else always has our back.
The problems in our society aren't going to be solved by traditionalists who believe all women should be in the home or by (what I'll refer to as) radical feminists who believe no woman should ever partner with a man. I think we, as feminists, have a responsibility to the whole of women to set up a table with amazing opportunities. Once a woman comes to that table and selects one, we shouldn't be berating her, but rejoicing in the fact that she made the choice. Our primary focus should be on the women in our society who, by circumstance or design, have had their choices stripped from them. (The woman who's husband left her alone to raise three kids and now she's working two jobs. The woman who can't take six months from her corporate job to spend time with her newborn. The woman who loses her job because her son or daughter is always sick and she must miss work. The woman who is degraded by society because she chooses to be single.)
There are many things we, as feminists, can do to better the overall plight of women. I do not feel, however, painting all women with the same broad brush is one of them.