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OK, I'm posting this here because GD is full of trolls and idiot children lately. Oh wait, it's always been that way - there's always been more wheat than chaff (and I've been on DU since March of 2001).
If you feel like sharing, share your stories about unexpected/unwanted pregnancies here and what you did about them.
I've only been reasonably certain I was pregnant once. I was 17 years old. I'd been on the pill with my first boyfriend the year before, but had dropped off it when we broke up. I was seeing a boy who was even younger than I was at the time, and I can't even remember what I was using for birth control. I might have been dumb enough to have "risked it," because the boy was a virgin that first time, and I don't think either of us were expecting "it" to happen. But it did.
I was six weeks late. I'd never been late before. I had not a dime to my name. There's no way I'd have ever had the courage to tell my mother, and my stepfather was a violent, drunken child-molester - I stayed as far away from him as possible. My older sisters might have helped me, but neither of them lived anywhere nearby, and in any case, it never occurred to me to call them. No one in my family had money (I'm the youngest of 13, and grew up dirt-poor in the projects). The boy was out of the question - as I said, he was even younger than I, from a devoutly Catholic family, and probably didn't even have an allowance.
I hadn't yet gone to Planned Parenthood for a pregnancy test (this is before you could buy them in drugstores, and I'd have had to shoplift one, anyway, I couldn't have come up with the money for one). They were my only real hope, once my body started to change and I could no longer deny that I was probably pregnant. But my previous boyfriend had been a total granola-hippie-health nut type, and I remembered something he'd said about herbs. I went to the PCC Co-Op, and found the herbs he was talking about - and the warning labels did indeed say that pregnant and nursing women shouldn't use the herbs (I don't want to mention them here, I don't want the FCC banning the damn things). There was no Internet to research these things in those days, and certainly you couldn't go to the library and check out a book on herbal abortifacients, so I had to guess at combinations and dosages.
I was lucky. The herbs worked for me. Nowadays, you can research these things on the Internet and share what's worked for other women.
But how can we possibly, in this day and age, be back to an era when one fears having those herbs made illegal, when abortions are unavailable in more than 90% of counties in the U.S., when girls who cannot possibly tell their parents without fear of severe violence have no options? How can we possibly be turning the clock back to the days of coathangers and caustic douches and back-alley butchers?
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