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Unless they could ASSURE that you would remain healthy and of sound mind.
My husband & I have been caring for his mother in our home for 7 years now. She has Alzheimer's and to say there's not there... there IS NOT an understatement. I can't tell you the number of times I've said, PUULLLEEEZZEE don't EVER let me live long enough to have to live like she does. It's so unfair. And I'm not talking about our care-giving. We can do that and have been doing it. The problem is, she has NO quality of life! She is not aware of what is going on. We do get her up each day and make sure she gets some exercise so her organs won't shut down or that she won't get bed sores, as each day goes by it's harder and harder to make her understand what we are asking of her. She is completely dependent upon us, she can doe NOTHING for herself without our help. Oh she may start to say something, but stops halfway through because she forgets what she wants to say. We just finish the sentence for her and all is well. She no longer feels much pain on any level, she has no idea of when she has to use the bathroom, she doesn't know she's supposed to eat, mainly she tells us, no it's not time or that she's not hungry. Some days my husband is her husband or her brother or a friend. Some days I'm her sister or somebody she doesn't even know. Some days she thinks I should leave because I don't live here. It's all over the place.
But there's also this point... her husband retired from the military, she has Tricare for Life and pays NOTHING for health care. I'm happy about that, but she also receives a Social Security check each month, which is helpful with her care.... but here's the point. I can't say she's in a vegetative state, but what state is she in?? We take very good care of her, we've had doctors tell us this all the time, but is it a waste of money to have the government pay this way. I'm sure only one of millions of people who are living the same way. Recently she had to visit the hospital and spent the night, they sent home health care out and one of the women who has a green card came to see her. She was talking about this and she said to me, one of the reasons I don't give up my citizenship in the Netherlands is because they believe in Euthanasia. She said she would NEVER want to live like my mother-in-law does. I realize my mother-in-law isn't aware of how she's living, but I would bet dollars to donuts, if she were aware... she would want to pull the plug. I KNOW I would! She's alive, she breathes... but what is the quality here??? We can't interact with her in any way, she just sits and I can't fathom what she may be thinking, she has to be watched all the time in case she gets any bright ideas about getting up and going somewhere. She can't stand by herself, so she'll fall on her face. Communicating with her is almost nil!
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