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Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems to me like the older the school, and the more Southern it is, the more it has lingering issues with racism and sexism that didn't all go away just because it's modern times and people are different now.
Fifty or sixty years ago, from what I understand, college women in the South were being rated on their attractiveness and whether they belonged to the "right" sorority and were able to attract a man from the "right" fraternity. They could be the most studious bookworms on campus if they wanted to, but that wasn't what was going to get them ahead in life. What was going to get them ahead, both bookworm and airhead, was looking attractive and put-together at all times; following the social rules; joining the right sorority; and getting pinned, then engaged (before graduation; to leave campus with a degree and not a ring was a tragedy) to the right kind of man from the right fraternity so you could marry him, have his children, and move on to a life of genteel wealthy Southern ladyhood.
Of course, this whole society was predicated on others calling the shots. The women didn't choose the sorority. The sorority chose them, and to get in they had to fit in. The men chose them for dates; they didn't choose the men. The men chose to offer them a pin or a ring. Their role was to sit and wait to be offered. The only power they had was in the form of keeping their virginity and keeping any kind of sexual behavior off limits until the proper tokens of affection were produced. Any woman who lost her virginity before this time was a "slut" who quickly developed a "bad reputation." Rape might as well not exist; if a man forced himself on a woman, surely it was because she "asked for it" or "let him." It was never considered to be about violence, but about a woman failing to perform her role of guarding the milk until the cow was bought and paid for.
Today, the only big difference between then and now seems to be that, well, the clothes are more revealing, no promises are made to anyone, and sex is OK! It's still all-important for a woman to be in the right sorority. It's still all-important for her to attract a man from the right fraternity. It's still all-important for her to look impeccable at all times. The men still do the choosing--not the women. The only difference is that the women now know that sex will be expected as a routine part of the relationship, with no commitment implied in return. As a result, men are rated and valued according to how much sex they can get, because how much sex they can get is based upon how many women they can "hook up" with. Any man who belongs to the right fraternity, or the lacrosse team, apparently, has no problems in that department.
If this is so, it's little wonder that the women of Duke feel no empathy for any woman not of their own social class who cries "rape" and points the finger at a lacrosse player. Because, of course, they know better. They know that, I mean, come on, a lacrosse player doesn't have to go "slumming" to get sex...he can get that from nice girls of his own social class! In fact, he can get it from anybody! And when you can get sex from anybody, it makes it impossible for you to even be guilty of rape!
In short, the only kind of man these women would ever see as guilty of rape would be a creepy man from the wrong social class, or a nerd or a freak, who couldn't get sex any other way. That, they could understand as rape. Anything else flies outside their radar. As does the concept that rape might ever be a crime of violence, a crime committed by the relatively powerful against the relatively powerless as a means of reinforcing their place in the world.
There's probably not a female student on the whole Duke campus who would give a moment's thought to the idea that SHE might be a powerless or repressed person, despite her wealth and privilege. Nor a moment's thought to the idea that maybe not everyone has it like she herself has it, yet that such a person might still have value.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's the vibe I get from some of these Southern schools. That not much has changed there since the old days--only the clothes, the music and the variety of acceptable sexual behaviors. Otherwise, socially, things are the same in 2006 as they were in 1956.
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