WATCH THE EYES FOR THE LOOK OF A PREDATOR....

:evilgrin:

Look at their words,first,always.. they are so nice,kind,engaging,concerned about YOU,they sweet talk,love bomb,listen to your woes and care like no one else bothers to,
almost like a lover,without being one,..
And thery will continue that way,until you trust they are safe,that they are not a perv and could not be, than look at their eyes.. They will be resting on your crotch,the mask will be fading, as they fake listening to you talk about whatever you say,they nod and it appears one way but it appears another way too.

While you tell yourself in your own thoughts they are not staring THERE, you try to tell yourself of any rationalization that this is NOT happening,they are tired,they are distracted by coffee I spilt there,and just don't wanna be rude, ect.ect.. That's when they'll say it, something so shocking, so rude .so lewd,and Out of Character,it takes you off guard . The Pervert, like a skilled stage hypnotist,with a slight of tongue and a flippant distraction moves in for the goal of the whole time..While you are confused by the cognitive dissonance covering your thoughts in a conflicted catch 22,and a war inside your head about what is real and what isn't.. Just like that, your consent is deftly engineered away from your control in an instant,you are betrayed by the manipulator of own psychology,your own needs to feel safe, need to trust, and your own natural good heartedness is twisted against you,and you not wanting to think this monster is molesting YOU,will swallow the pain, take the blame for the perverts desires and when he threatens you, this kind man,he is a monster and the two contradictory faces of evil threaten to tear your mind apart,and a fatal distraction seals the crime into the recesses of your unconsious mind, the THREAT, Now you fear for your loved ones,and you feel a deep shame of someone who has been had and dirtied,and society reinforces that blame the target stance,so you bury it deep inside as a secret,and it will come back 10,20,30 years later,when every guy you fall in love with betrays you,or hurts you,and you cannot stop falling in love with the kind of creep you are attracted to, retraumatization comes to remind you,.Even though it is NOT your fault you carry the wounds..and sometimes it never heals.


As for the perpetrator he goes on to find another vulnerabvle lonely unprotected child to abuse when he tires of you......That is what these monsters DO.
So do not look for the eyes, look for the words wait for the two faces these creatures have,the worst one is hidden, the visible one is a lie,a mask..Beware.

...:grr:

Unfortunately a lot of children learn the hard way about people they thought were so nice....

People who have been through this NEED to educate people,tell thier stories,speak out,online in person,tell people WHAT to look out for and WHY.Let them see and feel your wounds.And do not let the shame and fear that should belong to the psychopath be yours.
There is no shame in being targeted as a kid and hurt. The shame belongs to the molestors. Let THEM swallow it.Let kids be supported enough,safe enough and secure enough in thier person,to know better than to trust a molestor,and not have to trust one because they are so vulnerable and feel so alone,rejected,unsafe, or unloved they will fall for the poison love bombs..rather than die unloved.

I dunno,about "brave"..All I know is it has to be said.I was messed up by a monster and I am not gonna pretend about it and hide the wounds and play like it never hurt me and all that crap..I'm tired of carrying the shame and pain that I did not create in my life as if it was all my fault .I was a vulnerable kid who got hurt by an asshole adult because I was not secure in my own person like some kids are,because I wasn't fortunate to have a family home that was capable of taking care of me in the ways I needed to.I was seeking a friend in the wrong place and I got hurt for trusting....

The only way to heal yourself and society of this kind of thing at all is to stop playing the perps little protection racket and stop stifling your own voice,twisting the truth of your pain and letting the bullies and enablers and victims in denial call you crazy and treat you as if you are inferior or are the problem..No people that are in pain from what was done TO them and speaking out are not the problem,it is the people insisting on DOING the molesting covering it up,and the abuses, THEY are the problem,they should own ALL the shame..and secondly I in a smaller way I blame the enablers and bystanders of perpetrators ,any witnesses who chose to close their eyes in selfish cowardice if they witnessed any trauma to a child or person as an adult and than lied,excused the perp or denied the truth..By standing is a kind of callous negligence too often not addressed..

wonder what Delay's doing with all the spare time these days?