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Today begins Day-3 of my visit with my family in MN...
My dad's political views makes rush limbaugh look reasonable and ann coulter seems sane in comparison- so when I visit I try to avoid discussing anything that would lead to a political discussion. This is difficult, because even chatting about the weather ends up in a debate about global warming.
I am only able to see my family about once a year, so I try to bite my tongue when my dad goes off on one of his ditto-head-o'reillyest rants. Usually by the time I leave my tongue is bruised from biting it so much.
Yesterday I went to my niece's school and spent some time as a "media aide" for her 4th grade class. I was a bit taken aback that my niece's class had 33 students - that's alot of students for one teacher to handle. Well, at dinner last night, my sister asked how it went at the school. I mentioned the large class size, and said it seemed very large and is this typical?
My sister said, sadly 30-35 students per classroom was typical since the "no-child-left-behind" stuff started. To compensate for reduced federal funding, the schools reduced the number of classrooms and cut out the paid-teacher aide positions. They are depending on parents to come in and help. Unfortunately, there are few homes where one parent is not working and therefore able to come in to help. the majority have either both parents working or are single-parent homes.
I told them that when I was a work supervisor in a sheltered-workshop (working with mentally retarded and/or physically disabled adults) that I often had to supervise up to 30 workers all with varying degrees of abilities. It was near impossible to give the attention needed to each of them - and most of the time the best I could do is just maintain control - so I could imagine the level of education the kids are getting at school.
This set my dad off on a tirade about how putting special needs kids in regular classrooms was ruining education and it's all the liberals fault. I blew up - told him that in my experience the adults I had worked with who did the best - were the ones who were raised at home and attended schools which had Main-Stream type programs - whereas those who grew up in institutions or "special schools" had the most problems.
From there - my dad went on a tirade about how now that the "woodstock tie-dyers" are in charge it's the decline and fall of the country, going the way of the roman empire...
We got into a shouting match, a pained look from my mom made me shut up, I basically said to my dad "I'm only here once a year for a visit, let's not fight." He grudgingly sort of agreed, but through the rest of the evening took periodic pot shots at me, and my sister would lightly kick my leg from under the table to remind me to bite my tongue.
There is a slight ray of hope, I saw a sliver of that light last year during my visit, when my mother bluntly stated she regretted voting for bush (both times) and thought he was the worst president ever. this year the ray of hope was a bit larger - as my mom and I watched TV later last night, she told me that "..listening to your father go on about politics is like listening to re-runs of that rush limberger, limbaugh, whatever, idiot on the radio or that other jerk on the TV - (O'Reilly) - and she wish there was a way to block those channels so she didn't have to listen to their stupidity..."
She went on to tell me that I was right about what I said at the dinner, but "..you know your father, he's stubborn and thinks he's right about everything and if you don't agree 100% then you are stupid..."
She asked me to try not to bring up politics - I said I would, but it's difficult because dad turns any subject into a political debate - even the pros and cons of using a wooden pencil v.s. a mechanical pencil ends up with how the increase use of mechanical pencils is putting wooden pencil manufacturers out of business and it's the "libral's fault".
To give you a better idea of what my dad is like - I noticed a list of books he is going to buy today at Barnes & Noble:
Culture Warrior - o'reilly 100 people who are screwing up america - bernard goldberg the end of the world as we know it - mark steyn The terrorist living among us - steve emerson
My flight on tuesday can't come soon enough. Hopefully I can survive until then. Later this morning, I'm going over to my sister's house to help her put together new beds for my nieces, and tonight my sister, mom and I are going out to dinner with my brother and his s/o. Dad is staying home with my nieces because he doesn't like the "nut & twig" restaurant.
Tomorrow is a big family get-together to celebrate one of my niece's and mom's birthday. So the morning and early afternoon is going to be filled with getting the house and food ready. I have already checked the liquor cabinet, and there's plenty for me to drink.
I think next year before I visit, I'm going to talk to my doctor about some drugs to "cool me out" - but I don't know if they make "reich-wing blockers" lol
wish me luck - approx. 72 hours left and counting
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