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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:42 PM
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The use of the word "faggot" towards gay men is offensive and inexcusible.
It doesn't matter what context, it doesn't matter that there are different meanings of the word, whatever.

It's wrong. Period.

Just to clear up any misconceptions.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:43 PM
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1. Thank you.
I can't believe that even needed to be said. :sigh:
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blonndee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:44 PM
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2. Yes it is!!! And people who try to minimize it by citing an antiquated definition
of it know goddamned well that they're being hurtful. Not to mention juvenile and lazy. I don't even allow my freshmen to use dictionary definitions in their work.
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:49 PM
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10. While I agree the use of the word as an insult against another is wrong,
I found it fascinating what the original meaning used to be. Rather how how 'gay' once meant 'happy'.

All that isn't to give a 'not guilty' verdict on that poster, but still...

Arcane knowledge...

And nobody around here ought to go to Great Britain. Talk about culture-shock...

And I'm assuming people who write movies and plays and make a vile character who goes around calling people f-words and n-words just to show, in whatever context, how vile they are, won't go to jail for using those words because he didn't - the character he wrote did.

I think it's obvious and common sense to use such words to use against another is hurtful, period.
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SemperEadem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 12:43 PM
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44. I read or heard somewhere that the reference of Gay to gay men
has to do with every street in New York being straight (on a 90 degree perpendicular to cross streets) and only Gay Street wasn't a straight street. It made sense, but I don't know how true it is.
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:44 PM
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3. Exactly
k/r
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Lex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:45 PM
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4. I'm just waiting for someone to say she was making fun of homophobes
and wasn't actually being a hateful homophobe HERSELF.

Isn't that how the whiney pathetic excuse goes?

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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:47 PM
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8. On Freak Republic
there are some alternate reality morans trying to claim it was Coulter cleverly parodying one of the fired Edwards bloggers, who apparently used the word in an "us ni**as" kind of context.

Un. Fucking. Believable.
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rodeodance Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:45 PM
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5. its is the same as saying the n word to Blacks.
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Solo_in_MD Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:51 PM
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11. is it really equal, or is it bad, but not quite as bad
what about cracker, honkie, jap, JAP, chink, kike...

Your statement also begs the question if its alright for gays to use it but no one else


:sarcasm:



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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 06:44 PM
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61. I think it's pretty standard for any group despised by the Mainstream
to use the worst insults in a friendly way within the group as a way of seizing control of the word. For example, people in my family will refer to themselves as Micks even though years ago that was a pejorative.
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bicentennial_baby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:45 PM
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6. And how about the transphobia we've been seeing here too?
:puke:

Agreed Terry :pals:

:hi:
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keepCAblue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 02:08 PM
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45. "man Coulter" and other such references abound....what hypocrisy
I've seen so many posts that decry Coulter's "faggot" statement, calling it wrong, offensive, etc., while at the same time (often in the same sentence), the DUer refers to Coulter as "man Coulter" or other such similar references which convey a transphobic message.
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donheld Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:47 PM
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7. Yes it is -- end of discussion
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hulklogan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:47 PM
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9. Hopefully you've said it clearly enough for everyone to understand.
Edited on Sat Mar-03-07 05:48 PM by hulklogan
:thumbsup:

So we don't have to have any more vocabulary lessons.
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:52 PM
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12. Thank you -- these other threads are making me sick
It's disgusting, and it's being done in oh such a cute and smarmy way.
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Bluebear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:54 PM
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13. But, but, Ann Coulter was calling John Edwards a cigarette!
Edited on Sat Mar-03-07 05:56 PM by Bluebear
Or an "old woman" or sticks! Ha ha ha ha! :sarcasm:
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:57 PM
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15. And Ann Coulter is a FAGGOT -- a dried up old woman!
Hey, it was a slang term all the rage in 1591, so I can post "faggot" and say it's from 1591 and it's FUNNY. nd guess what? I can also say FAGGOT and get away with it. HAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHA.
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Bluebear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:58 PM
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16. IT'S IN THE DICTIONARY!!!!!!!1111111
So we can say it!!!!!!1111
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 08:56 PM
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33. Exactly!!1111 Im SERIES!!1111
I fucking hate this.
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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:57 PM
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14. Is there anyone at DU who doesn't know this?
Is there anyone who's defending her?

I'd be amazed, and dismayed, to learn that either is true.

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JackBeck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:01 PM
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18. Actually, yes.
There have been posters who actually asked why the term "faggot" was offensive. That we should not give the word any power and we should just ignore someone who calls us a faggot.
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Bluebear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:02 PM
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20. And of course, those who use the word are closet gays themselves.
Or so the mindset goes.
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JackBeck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:06 PM
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22. Yeah, that one was trotted out as well.
Thankfully, more allies are present than the haters.
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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:06 PM
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23. Wow... just, wow
Okay, color me amazed and dismayed.

Mostly dismayed.

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JackBeck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:16 PM
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25. I would love to throw it away as a mole infestation
but sometimes you never know.

What I do know is that there is a concerted effort on certain sites to put a wedge between the GLBT community and the rest of DU. The past few days I've been wondering of these outrageous comments are part of that effort.
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BlooInBloo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 05:59 PM
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17. "referring to" is better than your "towards", perhaps.
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:19 PM
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29. You're right.
I just hope my point was made clear.
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stellanoir Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:01 PM
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19. The most antiquated definition of which I am aware is the MOST offensive.
French for kindling for the burning of witches and heretics. First they supposedly burned cats, then homosexuals, then witches or heretics.

No humanity there. Those masquerading as Christian's lust for torture and blood is so unbelievably hypocritical, even to this day.

The repressed homosexuality of the primary offenders is the real problem methinks otherwise why pray tell would they be so threatened by something that is really none of their beeswax?

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cui bono Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:03 PM
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21. I think it is towards straight men as well since it's meant as an insult.
By calling them gay which is not an insult except to bigots and homophobes.

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JackBeck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:17 PM
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26. I hear staight guys call other guys faggots all the time in the city.
It hurts every time.
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SammyWinstonJack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:06 PM
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24. K&R
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:19 PM
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27. Yeah, it's an homophobic
slur that says everything about the user and nothing about the intended sluree.
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Starbucks Anarchist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:19 PM
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28. Yep.
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unhappycamper Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:20 PM
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30. I completely agree.
That word does not belong in our lexicon.
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Beelzebud Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:25 PM
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31. I think it's offensive to any thinking person.
I don't have to be a homosexual to know that it's a vile word meant only to inflict wounds.

It's offensive in any context.

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Forkboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 06:40 PM
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32. K&R
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knitter4democracy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 09:03 PM
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34. I agree. It makes me cringe when I see it here.
Just bad. It's a nasty word, and people have been hurt both physically and emotionally when they've heard it. It's not okay. I don't like it when people say something or someone is "gay" either, considering they're using it as an insult or throwaway put-down, like it's common belief that "gay" is stupid or bad.

Time for love, not hate.
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VelmaD Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 09:06 PM
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35. I agree with you 100 percent
But be prepared...you are going to get the same level of shit I always get when I post the same basic sentiment about the word bitch. There are a lot of people on this site who think their right to free speech comes with no responsibilities whatsoever...particularly the respobsibility not to be a jackass.

:hug:

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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 06:12 PM
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56. But but but...a bitch is a female dog! What's the problem??
You little ladies need to just calm down. :eyes:

:sarcasm:

I was going to post something about this, too. The use of language is certainly interesting, isn't it?
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 07:23 AM
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66. I agree with you about "bitch"
I don't think it should be allowed.
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slj0101 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 09:07 PM
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36. It's such a "no shit" situation.
The fact that it has to be addressed is astounding.

Thanks, terrya. :thumbsup:
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 09:11 PM
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37. Absolutely. But Were There Really Any Here That Had Misconceptions?
Edited on Sat Mar-03-07 09:11 PM by OPERATIONMINDCRIME
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JackBeck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 09:27 PM
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40. Yes.
And they went on a rant about how we should not be offended when called such names since all we're doing is giving the word power.

I have my own theories about the situation.
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Catherine Vincent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 09:12 PM
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38. Duh!
I think you're preaching to the choir here.
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 09:14 PM
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39. Not so sure about that n/t
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-03-07 11:14 PM
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41. who doesnt know this?
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Jamastiene Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:14 PM
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65. There have been quite a few posters lately
who haven't understood this. Luckily many of their posts were deleted eventually, but it wasn't pretty while they remained up.
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Straight Shooter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 12:39 PM
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42. I think Coulter revealed clearly that she thinks of gays as faggots.
That's the real story. We all know what a waste of oxygen she is, but she does represent the unspoken agenda of the Republic party. They use her to speak their thoughts. The fact that they applauded her words, and laughed at them, proves that they believe gays are faggots.

Another defining moment in the Republic party under the "leadership" of Little Boots and his divisive agenda.
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SemperEadem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 12:40 PM
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43. I agree... there are different meanings of the word
however, the context in which coulter used it wasn't referring to a cigarette or a bundle of wood.
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keepCAblue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 02:12 PM
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46. She was clearly using the F word in the context of Isaiah Washington
"Grey’s Anatomy Actor, Isaiah Washington, in Therapy for Gay Remarks"
http://www.411lowdown.com/2007/01/24/greys-anatomy-actor-isaiah-washington-in-therapy-for-gay-remarks/
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Mick Knox Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 02:13 PM
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47. It always hurts me when Gay men refer to themselves as "faggots"
My gay friends routinely do so and I think it helps perpetuate homophobia by making it "OK".

"Queer" is the same thing.

It is self reference to strangeness/oddity.

Unfortunate that some gays themselves perpetuate it.
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bicentennial_baby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 05:43 PM
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51. Oh, I better tell my gay male "Queer Literature" professor
that he's perpetuating homophobia... :eyes:
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keepCAblue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 02:30 PM
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48. Coulter has the mentality of 5th grade school yard bully
You know the type...the bullying little boy on the playground who, lacking intelligence or creativity, resorts to name-calling of the other kids who threaten, intimidate and outwit him by using what he, in his atrophied little mind, believes is the ultimate insult: "You're a faggot!"

And so goes Coulter, who resorts to the same unimaginative name-calling of any political figure whom she is unqualified to intellectually spar with on any level. Coulter's clearly established a pattern of this:

Previously, Coulter has put “even money” on Sen. Hillary Clinton (D-NY) “coming out of the closet,” said Bill Clinton shows “some level of latent homosexuality,” and called Vice President Al Gore a “total fag.”

(from http://thinkprogress.org/2007/03/02/coulter-edwards)
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sniffa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 05:42 PM
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50. charming
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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 05:46 PM
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52. Of all the legitimate reasons to complain about Bush, you choose to use an anti-gay slur.
If he was black, would you call him a n****r.

And Bush isn't even gay.
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JackBeck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 05:46 PM
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53. There's a sarcasm smilie. Did you forget to use it?
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 05:47 PM
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54. Tough shit. It's still wrong.
Christ, was I supposed to draw pictures or something? I thought my point was sort of clear.
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Duncan Grant Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 06:16 PM
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57. Of all the political message boards to choose from, you picked us. What a pity.
:nuke:
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wryter2000 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 06:00 PM
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55. K&R
For pity's sake, it's a no-brainer. What's wrong with people? This isn't freakrepublic.
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SayWhatYo Donating Member (991 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 06:30 PM
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58. You're right... However, I always wondered about something...
Let's say you're straight and you have a good friend is gay and you two always give each other a hard time and joke around with each other. Both of you throw equally insulting comments toward each other. However, neither of you really care because you both know what the deal is. If done away from people who may be offended, is it still wrong? Same thing goes with racial, religious and whatever else...

I never had any issues associating with people who are "different" than me, so I have had a diverse set of friends. However, I know that me and my friends have often times took part in such immature dialog... more-so in the past than now, though.
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 06:34 PM
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59. Yes, it's still wrong.
I can't imagine a gay man...that is, one who isn't self-loathing or getting ready to join some "ex-gay" group, thinking it's ok, even in a "joking" manner, to use the word "faggot" to describe himself...or to let a hetero friend use that word to describe me. I, luckily, don't have hetero friends like that.
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SayWhatYo Donating Member (991 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 06:58 PM
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62. I dunno...
Edited on Sun Mar-04-07 07:00 PM by SayWhatYo
Don't you think it's better remove that power from a word? If it gets people upset than it only working to 'help' those who truly hate. I suppose that is how we all view it... I'll tell you something, a good friend of mine is gay and if he was ever in any sort of trouble then I would be one of the first people there to help him out. Are saying that because we
sometimes joke with eachother that I am not a good friend, or that I secretly hate him? I mean, I know you didn't come right out and say that, but I'm getting get feeling.... correct me if I'm wrong... Oh, as far as I can tell, he has no issue with being gay and he doesn't hide it. I'm going to email him this link and ask that he register and leave his thoughts. He's better with words and far more intelligent than me, so he could probably explain things better..
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 06:38 PM
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60. Yes.
:kick:
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Hunky Dunky Donating Member (145 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 07:00 PM
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63. Agreed. It's offensive and ignorant. n/t
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 09:39 PM
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64. Agreed. n/t
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