Did your parents teach you about birth control?

Please elaborate.

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"Don't ever do anything to embarrass me".

My mom is also the oldest of 10 kids... you'd think granny would have taught them something, right?

about sex at all to me was"Don't let anyone get in your pants." It was downright embarrassing.

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that smart ass back then.

She didn't even say it in a kind, concerned voice. I think we'd been arguing and she screamed it at me.

My parents never gave me the sex talk.

They used the Rhythm method. When you hear drums, you do it! :P

to do with using a metronome. She was a band student, and a Catholic. :rofl:

I do remember being told about how the egg gets fertilized but they weren't specific when
I was 10, 11 or 12 or older. I think they gave me a book and we watched films in class.
That's all I remember. :P

and one of my friends pointed out that the "parts" looked like they "fit". :P

"No."

"Jesus Christ. You're almost seventeen."

"I know."

Conversation with my Dad:








Luckily, the schools here do a really good job of sex ed.

"I don't want you to get "in trouble.""

when I was 12 I was told to "come back later."

when I was 15 I was taking a 2nd yr biology class. we all had to teach a section of the class and since I was the only sophmore, the jrs and srs picked other bodily systems. I was left with the reproductory one.

I took the bus downtown to planned parenthood and got materials to hand out to class, including samples of diaphragms and condoms.

I was probably the only virgin in the class.

She didn't want me to hear from friends, so she explained everything and expected me to read up more on my own. Then, we all had sex ed in 7th and 8th grade from the insane girls' gym teacher who was the most detail-oriented, thorough teacher of sex ed I think there ever was. You could've asked us anything after she was done with us.

It was all the more shocking when I got to college and met up with kids whose parents had taken them out of sex ed classes and never taught them anything. I knew women who had no idea they had a cycle, just keeping pads around for whenever their periods randomly showed up, and thought getting pregnant involved something about being naked with a guy but were really unclear about specifics. Guess who ended up being the dorm's sex ed teacher. *sigh*

and I left when I waa sixteen.

I guess my mom sort of told us about birth control: she'd rather see us come home in a pine box than get pregnant. Nice, eh? Well, both her daughters got preggers, so I guess 'abstinence or death' could be called 100% ineffective. And yes, I was old enough to know better, but raising your kids to have zero common sense is very effective. It took me years to acquire the logic and reason my mom beat out of me.

I thought everyone's parents did this. Much later, my mom told me her mother never told her a thing--not about menstruation, pregnancy, anything--and she was not going to repeat that mistake. My folks were very open about these things. My dad was the one who taught me that the best treatment for cramps is a hot toddy!

"Don't disgrace your family." That was the extent of my sex education. Birth control? I was in my 20s before I'd even heard of a condom! Luckily boys had no interest in me--I was not "pretty", and besides I wasn't interested in boys. When I finally met a MAN, I married him and HE taught me about birth control.

I learned how they got there when I was eight, although I didn't believe it (eew! That's what they use to PEE with!). I had a medical encyclopedia when I was 10.

My mother was told nothing and thought she was dying when she got her period. She told girls in neighborhood after neighborhood what to expect and became persona non grata with their parents, good thing we moved around a lot.

It's a good thing, too, because "hygiene" education in southern schools was pathetic. Everybody was pussyfooting around, trying not to annoy the preachers.

through our teens. My father was a sex therapist back then. Neither my sister nor our step siblings were sexually active under the age of 18, though. When sex is "shop talk" around the house the mystery just isn't there any more. it wasn't something any of us used to rebel against our parents; we all knew that it was an activity that involved adult choices and responsibilities, so we waited until we were adults to engage in it. Still, our parents wanted to be responsible and both slipped us condoms and offered to put us girls on the pill.

after his best friend's girlfriend became pregnant. I said no way -- not in a XMAS stocking! I knew my brother would have been mortified.

That's too funny. I'll have to share this with my dad.

so the "Christmas" part of it never meant that much to them. The funny thing was that my stepmother painted the packaging red and green to make them more festive. :P I think I still have one tucked away someplace. I never used them, but I thought that they were amusing enough to hang on to for a while.

for a little while because of some problems she was having... I never used them, I bought my own and left the ones they gave me in plain sight as so it didn't look like I used them... I guess to spare awkwardness.

Her Mom taught she and my Aunt about birth control too. My Aunt had a few abortions but it wsn't because she didn't know what to do. My Mom answered all my questions and sat me down at 11 for the really serious talk. And this was back in the early 60's.

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We had no birth control in 1492.

I knew where babies came from and how they are made before I started school, so when the other kids asked, I told them.

You can imagine the rest...

And my mom gave me some books on the topic too.

This was the 70's so hygiene was a big part of it as well. Boys and girls separate into different rooms.

The Beavis and Butthead ep where they snuck into the girls session was classic because that happened to two friends in school.

This was back in the 60s, when sex had just been discovered (again), and talk of birth control was all over the media (what there was of it at the time). I went to a fairly liberal all-girl Catholic high school. They brought in a team to talk about reproduction biology, which went into extremely graphic details (the regular nuns were not allowed to attend to make Q/A easier). Being a Catholic school, the dangers of birth control were all mentioned, but at least they were mentioned.

This was in the '80s. I think the teacher even passed around a pack of birth control pills so that we could see what it was like. (I don't remember if my parents ever talked to me about anything.)

That would never happen in the school district where I live today -- parents would throw a fit.

My kids will learn something about contraception at school. However, they will learn about birth control methods in terms of "failure rates" rather than what methods are most successful and offer the best protection from pregnancy and disease. It's all in how the information is presented, and my school district could be doing a better job.

Therefore, I will be giving my kids more detailed information at home. I have already shared the book "It's Perfectly Normal" with my older son.

Even with my friends...

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My wife was the one and only girlfriend I ever introduced to my mom, partly for this reason.

We knew about birth control from the time we were little kids. My mom also said she'd take care of any kids we happened to have if we couldn't. She was a "Choose Life" sort, and even had that on her car license plate frames. But the thought of my mom taking on our kids as her own was absolutely petrifying to me and my siblings. There were already plenty enough kids and more than enough crazy in our family; no way were we going to add to that zoo! So my mom had to wait for each of us to be married and in our late twenties before she got grandkids, and she never got to take them into her house as her own.