Equally sad and confused right now... - Democratic Underground

Jed Dilligan

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Fri Oct-24-08 01:52 AM
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Equally sad and confused right now...

I just read on DU that my ex's cousin just died in Mosul. I really liked him and his mom, but I've been out of touch for six years. He was just a kid when I knew him!

I probably won't get in touch with the family just because it would be weird having me barge back in in the midst of their grief, and there's really nothing I can do to help.

I don't know. I guess I'll just pour out a beer for him and cry or something.

Fuck.

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MissHoneychurch

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Fri Oct-24-08 01:54 AM
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1. At least write them a card

they will appreciate it, believe me. :hug:

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CaliforniaPeggy

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Fri Oct-24-08 01:55 AM
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2. My dear Jed Dilligan...

I'm so sorry, sweetie...

:hug:

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JVS

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Fri Oct-24-08 01:55 AM
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3. You can send a sympathy card and tell them if they need anything, it's theirs

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Jed Dilligan

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Fri Oct-24-08 01:56 AM
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4. Thanks for the advice.

It shouldn't be too hard to track down the address.

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orleans

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Fri Oct-24-08 01:56 AM
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5. i'm sorry to hear that.

and i understand the part about not wanting to barge in on the family's grief. i'd feel the same way.

i might consider sending a note/card to the family/parents/spouse (if i knew the spouse).

meantime--a beer and some tears are definitely in order.

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Jed Dilligan

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Fri Oct-24-08 02:00 AM
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7. Card is a good idea.

I don't want the ex back in my life but it would be worth it if I could help her aunt in any way.

I feel bad, too, you know? I wouldn't go so far as to say the kid looked up to me, but I was one of the few older guys he could talk to and we talked a lot. He wanted to be a park ranger. He didn't like Bush much but the war wasn't on yet. I think he joined to support his kid (with a girl he was just starting to date when I last met him.) Well, I doubt I could've talked him out of it, I'm sure his mom tried.

Fuck. I just can't believe it.

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orleans

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Fri Oct-24-08 11:19 AM
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8. i'm sure a card with a note would mean a lot to his mom.

(it certainly would to me)

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emilyg

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Fri Oct-24-08 01:58 AM
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6. I'm sorry.

Write a note to them.

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