There's never enough time to say goodbye and if you need to say things at the last moment ..........

..... you're quite likely too late.

We live our lives saying in deed if not word what we think of our loved ones.

When that time arrives, it is never long enough to say all that you wish - no, need - to say. But as much as that thought can sadden you, take heart in knowing that in your whole life you've been saying, in all possible ways, what needs to be said.

And when that time passes, you'll still be saying it. You'll still be able to converse. You'll still know what she would have thought, what he would have said, how they would have taken joy and pride in your accomplishments.

When you need to know, just ask them. They're always there for you.

A hand held gently, an eyelid quavering, opening slightly, seeing, resting again. Presence. Closeness.

That's what matters.

Because by this time, it has all been said.

And heard.

And known.

after surgery. She couldn't move a muscle in her body. For three days I stayed with her in this condition. I kept asking her if she was going to fight. No movement, nothing. Her eyes never blinked, they had to continuously lubricate them.
She had fought cancer valiantly for 19 years, having finally lost her left leg and , during this surgery, her kidneys.
But, on the third night, when I asked her if she was going to fight, she barely blinked her eyes and barely shook her head, "No". I couldn't believe it, she had moved. I asked her again and she was able to do the same thing. One last time I asked her, one last time she shook "no" her head barely moving.
I told her I loved her and would abide by her wishes.
She died 5 hours later.

But she died her way and with loving family around and near her.

Tell your loved ones you love them, don't assume they know.

You're right .... never assume they know it.

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Last week, my favorite cousin, only 4 years older than me (I just turned 51) sent me an IM when I was at work. I said, "I'll get to it later." Five o'clock came and I said, "I'll talk to her tomorrow".

"Tomorrow" came and I got a phone call. Soon after her IM, she had gone into cardiac arrest and slipped from this world, with the IM window still open on my screen and the single word "Hello" still on it.

Dear Lord.

Mom and I were discussing how damning life's little turns can be over the weekend while I was working through that little head-spinner. A while later in the conversation, she asked me if I'd finished my application to the SAR. I said I only needed a couple of more lines, and I could finally get to it this weekend and run it down to the next meeting this month. A distant cousin of ours was the founding member of that chapter and the genealogist.

Last night I got a call from mom again. That distant cousin had slipped from this world the same day as my favorite cousin.

Here spins the head again.

My partner and I are so very careful never to part company, not even if one of us is just going to the yard to fetch a wayward doggy who's stayed overlong on a potty-break, without saying "I love you". Always part company with loving words, not matter what, for you never know what the Universe has up Her sleeve.

I've found out this week, that family of "hellos" and "I love you's" is a lot bigger and needs more tending than you think. Take no instance for granted.

There is never time "enough" for love.

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and bring it out from time to time. I have it on my meditation-blog. You're welcome to pass it along freely.

Everything I know about love, I learned from a little dog:

Love is loyal. No matter how many times the ball is thrown, I'll always come back; with or without it.

Love listens intently, even if the listener doesn't understand every word. Trust the heart to translate.

Hands are for petting and saying "I'm here, still loving you."

Love speaks with a completely honest heart and from the best motives.

Wet kisses and warm snuggles always lighten the saddest heart.

No one needs to pray or cry alone if your best buddy is close.

Take some time to chase butterflies, even if you don't catch any. The pleasure is in doing something a little silly and a lot of fun together.

Ice cream tastes better when shared. One bowl, two spoons, please!

Some say it best by saying nothing at all. One loving "lean" is worth a mouthful of "I love you's". Humans squeeze hands -- it's the same thing.

Being a willing listener is likely to get you hugged.

Love is for always. If someone has ever loved you, you will always have that moment with you. These moments are the only thing we can take across the Rainbow Bridge with us. The more you have, the lighter they all seem.

The one who waits patiently for you to arrive deserves lots of kisses. Kisses are easy to make and there are always more to give away.

Someone misses you every time they don't see you, even if you're just in the next room.

Joyous greetings are always in order when your love returns, even if you've only been apart for a little while.

Petting the fur-kid does just as much good for the human doing the petting.

Saturday afternoon naps with your best friend refresh the body and restore the soul. G'd doesn't mind a bit of slacking, when it's in the name of love and friendship.

If you lead with love, those who love will follow you to the end of the earth -- and jump off if you do. If you try to shove from behind with fear and domination, you will be avoided and left unloved. Nobody loves a bully. Even wolves and little dogs know this; humans are still catching up.

In the arms of one who loves you is the safest place in the world.

Happy sighs say it all. Puppysize say even more.

We should behave toward others with that in mind.

It's ok to let them go. We all go eventually.